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Why do adults talk baby talk to little ones?
How are they ever going to learn to speak correctly if they don’t hear correct speech from adults?
Of course I realize the little kids may not be able to say things correctly at THEIR age, but at least they should HEAR the correct thing so that eventually they can.
Case in point…
Stop saying “Yitzele, do you want your baba?”
I’d love to hear Yitzele come back with “What’s a ‘baba’? I want my BOTTLE!”
Someone told me to try cutting the 4 kosos with Red Bull!
Might not be a bad idea for the adults (IF it’s kosher l’pesach of course) but wouldn’t recommend it for kids in any case.
Gear at least the first half of the seder to THEM, and leave the deeper divrai Torah to the end.
and…
The ADULTS should take a good long nap in the afternoon so THEY stay up, and so THEY do not lose patience with the young kids.
Talk to HaSh-m EVERY day.
Not just the standard Davening.
Talk to Him everyday about what is going on in your life.
If you need something, major or minor, ask for it, but-
even if there isn’t anything in particular you need,
talk to Him EVERY day.
It’s reported that He gives special attention to His regular “customers”.
If the distance is not too great, try walking or biking.
While there may well be exceptions for CLOSE family and VERY close friends, remember this…
Consciously or subconsciously, people will always think you are worth what you charge.
zeeskite…
“To get through the day I think I’ll close one eye at a time”.
That IS actually pretty close to the way sharks sleep.
They sleep one half of their brain at a time.
Sounds unbelieveable, no?
It’s true.
Nifla’os HaBorai!
Not many people know that Dr. Pepper went to dental school with Dr. Brown.
They were both considered “ambulance chasers” in that they tried to create more business for themselves with their products.
I have a full, but short trimmed beard on the left side of my face, and am clean-shaven on the right side.
I do this to confuse the cops by the different witness descriptions of me when I rob banks.
Suppose (theoretically of course) that I knew someone who presents himself as an orthodox Jew.
He runs a business where he employs mostly non-Jews.
The non-Jewish employees know that he is (supposedly) an orthodox Jew.
The non-Jewish employess also know that MUCH of the way he runs the business is definitely immoral, and often even illegal.
Is that a chilul HaSh-m?
To answer your questions, you need a rov, but…
I will tell you this:
An honest car mechanic is almost an oxymoron, but there are a few out there. Find one and stay with him even he charges a few bucks more than average.
p.s. – if your mechanic tells you he changed your headlight fluid, it’s definitely time to look for a new guy!
Gumball…
What you need is… My daughter-in-law!
She is the world’s BEST high school math tutor.
If you’d like to get in touch, ask the Moderator if that’s possible.
Being afraid indicates a lack of emunah.
I know that logic would seem to dictate that one needs emunah as a pre-requisite to praying to HaSh-m,
BUT…
That is NOT necessarily true.
What you need to do is to Daven to HaSh-m FOR emunah.
Talk to HaSh-m. Tell Him you are afraid. Tell Him you are terrified. Tell Him to help you to have emunah. Daven HARD for emunah, and Daven for it OFTEN.
HaSh-m WILL answer you and strengthen your emunah.
When your emunah gets a little stronger, you will be able to daven even MORE strongly to HaSh-m for MORE emunah.
It’s a cycle. Pray for emunah, then emunah will help you pray (for MORE emunah) etc., etc., etc.
Perhaps you can start the process by thinking about the fact that HaSh-m HAS taken care of you until this moment. You have a roof over your head, you have a bed to sleep in, you have food to eat, you have clothes to wear. He HAS cared for you until now, so why would you think that He will stop in the future?
With that thought in mind, start the process of praying for greater emunah. You CAN achieve it. It’s up to you.
Is it really true that saying Good Shabbas to people on the street is so rare in B.P.???
I live in Flatbush (and though it’s definitely NOT Yerushalayim) most people will initiate, or at least respond to, a ‘Good Shabbas’.
What’s goin’ on in B.P.?!?
Ya’asher Ko’ach!
Very nice vort for ANY time of the year!
You say you don’t grind your teeth but you may clench or grind your teeth while you are sleeping and not be aware of it.
This would stress the jaw muscles and could be the cause of your problem.
I would guess you may need a nightguard.
Most probably a TMJ (Temperal-Mandibular-Joint)issue.
It may come from an unbalanced bite, which might be able to be fixed by your dentist by just a little grinding down of the surface of the teeth that are hitting (the opposing teeth) first, i.e. before they hit on the other side of your mouth (making both sides occlude at the same time).
Or…
You may be grinding/clenching your teeth and need to wear a nightguard when you sleep.
I’m Left-handed for writing and for holding a fork,
but righty for everything else.
I guess my brain can’t make up it’s mind what’s what!
My little ha’ara about saying Good Shabbas….
Did you ever notice that when Yidden that do NOT know each other, pass each other on the street on Shabbas, they’ll say “Good Shabbas”.
But…
When you pass a Yid you DO know, but not really well (and you really have nothing to say to them) you’ll say “Good Shabbas, Good Shabbas” – i.e. you’ll say it twice, as if the second Good Shabbas is an acknowledgement of knowing the person, and is in place of really saying anything more substantial.
The teva of men is such that we NEED more discipline, more rules than women do.
Look at the goyish (and, r’l- the Jewish) world and see who commits more crimes – men or women?
Like I said, we NEED more discipline.
IF it is NOT that you are grinding your teeth, it may be that for some reason (maybe your diet, the natural acidity of your saliva, etc.) that you have worn away the enamel on your teeth, exposing the dentin, and thus making them very sensitive.
Try getting and brushing with Sensodyne toothpaste which is made for that condition.
Let us know if it helps!
IS the OWNER frum, or only SOME of the employees are frum?
Regardless of, and with all respect for, what a rav may poskin, I’m sure the owner knows that what he is doing is wrong, so I would be very doubtful if a rov telling him so would make any difference to him.
When you are having an anxiety attack, and your heart is palpitating, and your mind is racing thinking of ALL your problems at once, thinking of ALL the bad things that MAY happen, that could happen…
Take a deep breath, let it out slowly and then keep repeating to yourself over and over and over…
Ain Ohd Milvado
Ain Ohd Milvado
Ain Ohd Milvado
Internalize that the reality IS that Ain Ohd Milvado – i.e. HaSh-m is in control of everything, EVERYTHING.
HE will take care of you and get you through all current and future crises just like He has gotten you through until now.
SAY it. BELIEVE it.
It’s TRUE.
My son lives near an air force base in Eretz Yisrael.
Yesterday (Thursday) he told me the sky was full of fighter jets coming and going.
He felt like his house was going to blow away with the constant
whoooosh of fighters passing over at very low altitude.
Don’t know exactly what their missions were, but I think we can guess.
Local rabbanim in his area even announced that everyone should say Tehillim for the safety of the men and the success of their missions.
A burning candle is considered like ohr ha’neshama, i.e. it represents life.
The last thing you’d want to do is blow it out.
I actually overheard some (American goyish) kids at the airport not long ago calling their parents “Father” and “Mother”!
My wife and I looked at each other.
It was like something from Charles Dickens!
We – are Abba and Eema.
btw…
as available extras on my Hyper PT Cruiser, –
they should offer white Fedoras and Tommy-guns!
Look out Al Capone!
I’d like a 1930’s roadster!
They should put the PT Cruiser on steroids, boost it’s size in all dimensions by about 30 %, add running boards, and WOW, THAT would be a great ride!
I got an alert from the CRC (Chicago Rabbinical Council) a recognized, widely accepted ORTHODOX hashgacha (for those that don’t know that) about this yesterday, as quoted in the first post above.
There is no reason quinoa should NOT be kosher l’Pesach as it is NOT a grain at all, nor was it ever designated in the kitniyos category.
As someone mentioned above, technically (though it looks a lot like bird seed when raw) it is related to the spinach family.
Just watch ’em when they do an oil change to make sure they don’t put in USED oil!
Make sure you hear that crack sound when they open the caps on the NEW bottles of oil.
It never occurred to me that it would be used oil (once) when I saw them opening the bottles of oil, but whe I checked my oil level just a few days later, IT WAS BLACK!
I learned my lesson.
Maybe, even now, you should send send them the pictures of what those yishmaeli savages did, and ask how they could not have found such a story newsworthy.
Kol HaKavod to you.
You probably are ‘spinning your wheels’, but we do have to do our hishtadlus.
Was your letter published?
Let us know if it was, and if there was any reaction to it.
Grandmaster…
“The bathing suit remark was a hypothetical comparison.”
I realize that, but it was not a valid comparison because the bathing suit and t-shirt is (regardless of how fancy or expensive) pritzusdik and inappropriate for ANY day or time (other than a non-mixed gender gym or swimming pool) and kal v’chomer for Shabbas.
The way they DO dress is NOT pritzusdik NOR inappropriate and is, for them, me’yuad l’Shabbas Kodesh, and is the norm for those communities, just as Brooklyn has it’s ‘norm’ and Meah She’arim has it’s ‘norm’.
I would defy ANYONE to go, for example, to a place like Itamar or Hevron, where people are living on the front lines of Jewish history, where the average guy has more Tanach and Halacha and Gemara in his head than the average guy in Brooklyn does, – and tell him he doesn’t dress properly because he doesn’t wear a black hat.
AGAIN, I am not advocating that anyone HERE should stop wearing a black hat. I AM saying it is not the ONLY legitimate me’halaich.
very unique
(as opposed to “moderately unique”??? – keep in mind that the meaning of ‘unique’ is ONE of a kind)
Grandmaster…
I have no clue what you are talking about, and clearly, neither do you.
NOBODY on a religious kibbuts “runs around in their bathing suit all week” NOR DO THEY “l’kovod Shabbos” they put on a Gucci T-Shirt and shorts”.
What an absolutely ridiculous thing to say.
They wear their work clothes for work and their Shabbat clothes for Shabbat.
Why do you think everyone has to agree with YOUR idea of what is appropriate?
I think Yerushalmim who wear a gold kapota and a streimel on Shabbas would think YOU are inappropriately dressed in a goyish-style suit.
MANY MANY MANY moons ago I spent over almost 2 years living and working on a religious kibbutz.
Though I was never a black hatter (though I do sometimes wear a black hat on Shabbas) I was, at first, shocked at the way the guys dressed on Shabbas. They wore a white shirt, no tie, and nicely pressed chino type pants (that could be black or navy or olive or beige, etc.) and maybe a cardigan syle sweater, or in the cooler winter weather they wore an army style bomber jacket.
At first I thought, hey, this is a little TOO casual for Shabbas, even for a kibbutz.
Then I came to realize that THOSE were the clothes that, for them, were their good, SPECIAL Shabbat clothes (as opposed to the navy blue work shirts and pants most guys wore during the week.
So, my point is, it is a matter of intention, of kavana, what makes you dressed appropriately, dressed Jewishly.
On kibbutz, the clothes I described, along with a nice bright, clean kippah seruga (as opposed to the ones that get dirty looking from working in them all week) is JUST AS Shabbas’dik as a gold striped kapota and streimel for a Yerushalmi, or an 800 dollar suit and a new Borsalino for someone in Flatbush.
Bottom line…
Al tistakail ba’kankan, ela b’ma she’yaish bo.
I have a radio on my night table with earbud style ear phones.
I tune in a boring talk show, put in one earbud, and within two minutes – I’m ‘blowing zzzzzzzzzzzzz’s’
Clark Kent…
A soldier is a soldier when he is in uniform and when he is not in uniform. A soldier behaves like a soldier when he is in uniform and when he is not in uniform.
Although I don’t disagree that a frum person should dress in a fine way and in a way that identifies what he is, and I am not against wearing a black hat, I am more interested that he can be identified as a frum Jew by the way he ACTS (in business, to people he encounters on the street or in a store or on a train or bus or plane) than by what is sitting on his head.
AND… most importantly – that the way he acts should not be a stira to what the black hat SHOULD imply.
I definitely believe that the hardship of fasting is 90% in your head.
I know for myself, on some Shabbasim I’ll have a cup of coffee in the morning before shul, BUT on MOST Shabbasim I don’t have anything at all until kiddush after shul, around noon, – and it doesn’t bother me at all.
Today I am fasting and I was already STARVING by 10 a.m.
Josh31…
I absolutely LOVE that expression you just taught me!
I assume (you can correct me) that it means someone is dressing as a cowboy, wearing the hat of a cowboy, but in reality is not one.
How true that is for so many “black hats” who also don’t have the “cattle” that their hat would SEEM to indicate they would have!
And conversely… there are so many REAL “cowboys” without the hat.
Keep a bag packed – like they say the Chafetz Chaim did.
If you’re looking for a real diamond, well – real diamonds ARE expensive.
If you’re looking for a good fake, try Stauer.com
Why in England do they say “…was taken to hospital” as opposed to the way WE say it “…taken to THE hospital”?
Or, on the other hand, why do WE say it the way WE do???
In Israel SODA means seltzer.
600kilobear…
re: Your comments to Moderator 67…
It is of course true that the draft existed then.
My father, z”l, was part of that draft, and part of that army, so I am also well aware that there were many Jews in the army.
I am also well aware that during the Vietnam war era, there was also a draft, but despite that, despite “having to follow orders”, many opted to go to Canada or to jail and NOT to serve. I am not judging them, but we really did not find that happening in WW2. Many even enlisted and were not drafted because they wanted a chaylek in fighting the nazi (and japanese) enemy. Many even enlisted when they were too young to be drafted, and faked their age on their ID.
Of course, without question, everything is ultimately decided by HKB”H, but let’s just say that b’derech ha’teva, without those men Mod-67 spoke of, WE would all be dead, and our goyish neighbors would be speaking german.
I am sure it is true that many American troops were not tzadikim in their personal lives, especially by our standards, but let’s not take away or minimize the huge zechus that these men earned by risking, and in many cases sacrificing, life and limb for a cause greater than themselves.
almost exactly the same….
an honest used car salesman
Intellectual arab
reform rabbi
What EXACTLY is meant by lighting Shabbas candles in their memory?
Having them in mind when you light?
Lighting an extra candle more than usual?
Lighting a yahrtzeit candle?
Here’s a really weird idea…
Why not ASK him what he would like?
You might buy him a sefer, but not the one he wanted.
You might buy him a CD, but he was hoping for a different one.
etc., etc., etc., etc.
ASK him. Then, instead of guessing, you will KNOW what he wants.
Just a wild and crazy thought.