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There is an amazing and very enlightening shir on TorahAnytime.com about OTD and personality types. THis very enlightened speaker talks about 4 personality types and how every case of OTD he’s ever seen all share the same personality type. He said 25% of kids have this personality type, and statistically, 1 in those 25 become OTD due to additional stress factors. It was a very eye-opening speech, I highly recommend it!
Here is the link: https://www.torahanytime.com/#/lectures?v=36535
I recommend this shir to every parent. My kids are still relatively little, but one of my daughters has this personality type. It has totally changed how I deal with her, for the better! We have a much less conflicts now after I incorporated his advice.
You know what I heard on a shir?? Check this one out:
When a tzedakka collector comes to the door, and you ask to see his papers that certify he isn’t a fraud a making up a story….the SAME thing is happening to you at that moment in Heaven.
They take out your file and say, “ok, he’s so suspicious of the collector? Let’s examine his record and see if he’s entitled to everything that’s being dolled out to him!”
Which of us wants that to happen? Why can’t we just judge this frum woman favorably and help her get out of jail?
Do you really want Hashem to deliberate like this over your case next time you are seriously davening for something you want very much?
THe Baal Shem Tov comments about the passuk in Tehillim, “Hashem is your Shadow, at your right hand”. He says just as your shadow mimics your actions, Hashem responds to you the same way you respond to others. You reach out your hand and give unconditionally, Hashem will do the same without looking to see if you deserve it.
Well, before writing off the story as “I don’t know the truth so I don’t want to get involved” one should consider the halacha of judging favorably.
One needn’t pass a negative judgement on the husband based on news reports. However, more than enough info is there to support being dan l’chaf zechus towards helping the poor woman get out of jail! There’s also the mitzvah of redeeming captives. It’s a worthy cause, think of how the kids feel with their mother in jail.