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I know that alcohol reduces inhibitions but I just wondering what they are thinking! Do they remember it the next day? I was really embarrassed for this guy to call me in public by my first name!
I think the fact that you know there is something maybe wrong with it shows that you know in your heart of heart that its not right. i dont think its worth it! Once you start talking to her you might decide that she is not so different than you after all and that maybe you should marry her…… If you think about her more than nec then its already heading toward the bad side!
I will tell u from experience- it takes a while but don’t think about him! Just don’t let ur mind go there!
YOYO I understand you 100%- you know how you feel and I go through the same thing all the time but just read and reread what seeallsides wrote and think about something else. I went into that store this morning because I knew he would not be there yet but I did not let myself think about it. I just went without all the thought!
Dont obsess over it!
mewho- the Mexicans on the corner want YOU but they cant have you so they just stare. what are they gaining by that? Nothing besides that a part of your soul goes into theirs. I think about that all the time- would I want his soul in mine? NO WAY! If I don’t want to marry him then why would I want a little bit of his whole essence in me? You can try and find where Rabbi Wallerstein says this because this might not make sense to you!
Thank you so much! I will try to remember this year and let’s see if I am married by next year! Well I hope that Moshiach is here by then so everyone will be healed either way!
YOYO- I think you are giving the guys the message that you are available and willing/able to talk/flirt with them. I am not sure if you mean to be doing that and you only feel bad after when it goes too far, or if you are really not meaning that! I will tell you that I also used to always flirt with guys(I think its part of my personality makeup!) but I finally grew up and realized that there is no reason for me to! Do I want the guys to come close to me and get me in real trouble? I don’t need these guys to ruin my whole life! I am a young girl and there is no reason for me to ruin my whole future because of some little fun now!
I once heard that when you look at a guy straight in the eye part of his neshama goes into yours. I heard it from Rabbi Wallerstein- not sure what his source is. I thought that was very interesting. Why would you want his soul in you?!??!?!? That is why the Mexicans just sit on the corner and stare! They are getting something from you without you knowing it or wanting it!
Stay strong its hard but you can! think about something else!
YOYO- do not go into that store anymore. I think you should tell your father or mother – whoever you are closer to and whoever would take you more seriously- and you have to put your foot down that you don’t want to go in there. I also don’t think about him anymore! I know that sounds so easy but it’s very hard….. Every time he comes into my mind I just try to think about something else and not him! I would not mind if you would email me but MODS PLEASE let me know which email address you give her before you give it out! thank you
I am not sure who I would die for but I know who I wouldn’t.
Obama
Bush (father and son)
Kate Middleton (although I do love following her and would be bored if she died!)
Osama Bin Laden
my mailman
my UPS driver at work
and many more but I won’t post them on a public forum.
AAAWWWW- today is a hard day and I could use advice….I wish I would never have gotten into this mess but its too late!I just feel like I miss him in my life for no reason. Are there any pills out there that can help me just forget someone in my life?!?!??! I wish there was a way for me to just forget him! Any Advice? I feel like I am going to fall apart just not thinking about him for so long….Any ideas? Anything is helpful PLEASE!
YOYO you have a lot of questions for me! I actually did like him a lot at one point but now I realize that I dont want to marry him and there is no way for me to just talk to him without it going any further. Today is a bad day- I feel like I miss him in my life a lot but I dont think I am gonna go in there either way! Will let you know though
YOYO- I did tell my parents about it which was the best thing on one hand but also the worst part. It was good that my parents knew not to send me there every day anymore like they used to but at this point I think that I am almost “ready” to go back into the store but my parents are very cautious and nervous. I feel like they are forgetting that its over (well almost like I said I still think about him but my feelings towards him are not as strong)! I still think it was the best thing I could have done in that situation. I don’t want to tell you where I live but I can tell you that I do not live in BP. How about you tell me where you live? I dont think we are talking about the same store because the manager is working there for quite some time already.
Yoyo- I was thinking about you all night…I think you should try your best not to go into that store. you will see that you feel much more liberated once you make a firm decision not to step into that place for a couple of months. you will see that something inside of you will “die”/ disappear and it will all just go away… you wont even think about it anymore when you do end up walking into that store. I have some friends who know about it and they encourage me and cheer me on not to step over the line which i created for myself. I have a feeling that at one point I will feel like its a non-issue and then i can go into that store already.I feel like I am getting close to that point but have not reached it yet. Keep me posted!
Yoyo I dont think it is the same store because he is older than the guy you are describing but yes it is a supermarket. I was the one who decided not to go in to the store anymore and have not been there in years. It is so hard you cannot imagine but I have no choice! It’s that or my life (not that I think he will kill me but these guys have no limit and can ruin my reputation in one minute!) Just think that it is not worth it and although it’s hard I am with you in this! You are so amazing!
thank you!
Yoyo- I have not posted in a while but i could not just skip this thread and not post. I am so happy to see that someone else in the world is going through the same exact situation that I am going through. I could have written your post for you and it would be my life story but it would be exactly the same! I am not completely “cured” yet but I will tell you some things that helped me get to here (it’s about 2 months since I walked into that store but I still think about him and am waiting for the day to come when I feel ready to go back in there and not have my eyes and ears looking all over….) The only difference was that I started talking to him also in a very casual way like hi and bye and i once told him something horrible that another guy in the store said to me and I wanted him to take care of it…It started so slowly and so innocently and before I knew it the whole thing spun out of control. I am so impressed with you that you can stop yourself before it goes too far. I think you should stop going into that store and just try to stay away from him in general. Remember that you might have given him some hints that you are the type he can talk to and not meant it while he took it the wrong way. Just stay away! I would love to know if we are talking about the same place…. Keep strong and in the zechus that you are doing the right thing you will be zoche to find your bashert very soon!
Can you send it to me i also want to hear it!
does coffee really stain your teeth? never heard that before i just like the taste
Getzel- I laughed so hard! Thanks i just sent it to some of my contacts…They got a good laugh from it.
BPT- i read and reread your last post and I think every single word you said is true. You are 100% right that for 2 people, and even if there is a baby involved, there is no need for outside cleaning help. I know someone who has 9 children and only has 3 hours of help a week! can you imagine?!? And yes her kids are health, happy, stable children. She is their mother and she is capable of making supper, doing laundry and even (gulp) cleaning a bathroom! I think the girls grow up with more of a sense of responsibility and the boys realize that the wife is not a machine- their father pitches in and they will also have to help….
Thank you BPT again! Great post!
Anyone who is taking this seriously is wasting their time….Did you ever hear of a billionaire sitting on the Yeshiva World and posting that he has too much money? Sounds funny to me! Anyhow TMB I would love some of your money and I will even make it easy for you- I can pick it up from where ever you are! LOL If you are real you can contact me through Mod-80 (he knows my info already from all the posts he deleted!) but I have a feeling that you are not real!
Care to share what you are talking about for those of us (or is it just me) who have no clue what you are talking about.
cutie pie- i take is as a commpliment that you thought my name was so “cute” that you also chose it! But I think people are going to mix us up and I don’t want them to!
I know I was not around so long (I was though under a different name…..MOD 80- please don’t spill the beans!) but can anyone figure me out!
I don’t believe you are really saying this….
BPT- thank you for the encouragement. I think that the thing that scares me the most is the fact that as much as I be able to live with a guy and deal with certain things I keep hearing that marriage is about adjusting and giving in! Now imagine I tell you that you need to just give i….I think it is scary!
being a girl on the market i have a lot of questions when people talk about giving in in shidduchim? What will I have to give in? Will he want me to go to his mother and father every other shabbos? will he expect me not to work when i would like to(for the scoial part not the money) and will he want me to make these major 5 course suppers every night when i am not used to that? I am so confused and whenever i hear these things i am not sure what people mean….what do i have to change and what will i have to adjust to? are we talking about changing everything i am used to? What if he snores? What if he showers only once in two days while i MUST shower ever night no matter what? I am very scared about what things i might have to give in and i sometimes think it’s just not worth it!
BPT- i remember you once wrote that a marriage that is good….there is nothing like it but if it doesn’t work….it’s hell
do men really think their wives are not attracive at a certain point because they think their wives changed and they don’t like them anymore? wow what a world we live in!~
i think everyone is in favor of men because they look at them as strong and capable and able to conquer whatever comes their way.l I think however that i have seen too many men fall in and do the wrong thing that i think they are not so “great” anymore. i am still not sure however why they get kadima over girls and it bothers me greatly! (i am a girl you know after all)
I think the wife and the husband both unserstand that they need to have a filter and there should be an agreement that they are loyal and they won’t hide anything. I just put K9 on my computer which i dowloaded for free and so far so good! It is quick and does not slow the computer down. Whatever it is men have taavos that are very strong and they have to just have yiras shomayim and i think a good rebbe or rav to keep them in shape is also very important! i wouldn’t know that men have a harder time than women because being a girl i can’t imagine anyone having it harder than us but that is what they say so…
Mod 80- you bet! you are not included in this game and anyhow how would you know if i put a different email address and that other one does not have my name? And you know what I think about you guys so…
MOD 80- it’s good i was not around then, i would not manage without you here! thanks for your work
anyone guess who i am?
no cake and cookies and just eat healthy normal balanced meals-especially breakfast! Also i do the weighted hoola-hoop and its working wonders!!!
Someone called a friend of mine about another friend and asked “will she want her husband to go out with her or will she let him di his own thing? if she wants to go out she can go alone….or will she ask him to come along?” is that what marriage is all about? they each have their own schedules and go on their merry way? which girl doesn’t want attention and want her husband to go out with her?
first of all, thanks you popa for clarifying those few concepts. I think that the small companies are the ones that have no money or resources to advertise heavily. I would also like to add that once you start reading the book and listening to the cd’s you will notice that they are good for everyone and can be applied to everyone in their own way. all you have to do is read one chapter and you will see what a change it will make in your life! try it, it can’t hurt!
The book is not in the stores yet but they are available on his site i believe! WIY- i packaged them so now I really wonder who you are!!
Guys stop being mean to him and bothering him with your silly questions! He rox and you all know it! Maybe you are just jealous….
Just wanna let you all know that Rabbi Shafier just put out a new book. It is the most amazing combination of deep, philosophy yet not a boring book that you just can’t wait to put down. It is very interesting and easy to read! It’s a must to own! BPT- you for sure need to get your hands on it….
I said 20-30. any tehillim names that we can have in mind?
We need the Geulah! Have a happy and relaxing Shabbos everyone and may Hashem redeem us very very soon and everyone should see only yeshuos and brochos.
I have a friend who is her brother-in-law’s secretary and it is not good…not to say that they fight or anything but it is just better to keep family out of your business life and work out of your personal life. Just like you should not go to work and tell your clients about the fight that you had with your wife last night so too keep, family for out! I know someone that was buying a house but before taking out a mortgage he asked his father (a very chashuve person) if he should use his neighbor’s very successful mortgage company or not. His father said that as long as it’s big enough that it won’t turn personal then you can otherwise forget about it! it’s just a BAD IDEA!
Wolf- If you weren’t named that until now, then you are fine! You need a boost of self confidence and stop caring about what other will say about you all the time. There are ppl out there who can open a business just from all the mean things they say about ppl. Be good and worry about what Hashem will say and that is it!
last time I checked it was only Tuesday and we have a few days to go until it is time to discuss this topic. Unless you are planning on starting to prepare the food already now….in that case i don’t want to eat by you!
Sharp! Possibly….
wow coke….I have no words….you sound like you want us to saw you are so cool so that is what I am going to say! LOL But I think it is pretty cool that you met helpful….for all i know you met me too!
BPT and Pepper- I wanna be there when you guys meet! i don’t think anyone knows who I am….. I have another username and ppl know that one but I highly doubt you would ever think that i am the same person! For all you know I am mosherose….
thanks guys! I am hooked….
What do you do if your father smokes? not all day, but about 2-3 times a day? how dangerous is that?