adorable

I can cry when I think about this women and her children. the father really wants to do the right thing but he’s sort of bound and trapped in this. he has lots of friends who are in the same boat so its def not uncommon. I am gonna cry so no more talking about it.

kap- lol

sea shells- I feel your pain. I am sorry for all that you are going through- its not an easy parsha. its easy for me to say now that I’m out of it but the truth is that i always thought about one thought until my bashert came around. I heard from a gadol (I think R’ Matisyahu Salomon but not sure) that there is not such a thing as a parent or anyone else pushing away your zivug. only a person themselves can push away the right one. this helps when parents say no to something that you thought might be a good shot or if unfortunately friends give bad info and that ruins things for you. just think that they cannot push away your bashert.

I remember a teacher in HS speaking to the whole school when she got engaged at around 30. she said all the time that she davened and spent begging hashem was not a waste but Hashem just had to prepare her husband- like a baby waiting for a bottle. it takes time. she married a ball teshuva who was not even frum at the time that she started dating!

what do you mean?

you are not forced but on Y”t you are. I remembered about it at the end of the day unfortunately but I think they should have chosen chol hamoed.

and BTW- My special brother has lots of hardware in his back which keeps failing and breaking…. lots of hospitalizations. I can understand your pain. Its so hard to put him through surgery for hours and hours and then find out that it was not successful.

yeshiva- your post made me laugh. I dont know if you wrote that when you were down or joking. Im sure ur a great guy and there is a lucky girl out there. it will come you just need to keep praying!!!!

what was the original name of this thread. just see it now and im laughing.

i dont believe that there are lots of girls that were not redt any shidduchim at all. I just find that hard to believe. there has to be a reason.

im getting weak just reading your post

what bout me. wonder how long im following….

yes this place is very addictive.

MP- dont know if you’ll see this but wanna personally wish you a wonderful Yom Tov and may you be zoche to see lots of bracha and hatzlocha this year! Hope its a peaceful year and may you share simchos with us very soon

its gonna come if they are supposed to make the money. it will rain down on them

I hear your point but I also think there are a lot of things that can make the daughter unhappy but the parents wont see that if they go before hand. they wont see the roommates and they wont see how the daughter will deal with the teachers…. if the point is to make sure the girls are learning and being taken care of then fine. but thats not the point. you have no clue where shes going to be spending her shabbosim…. maybe she’ll find a great family to do chesed by and the women would take her under her wing and care for her and make all the difference.

wow! thanks for sharing. it should not be the only reason for giving tzedakah but these stories help

u only know one side of that story though

guys tell me when you are in Monsey!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

B”H cant talk from personal experience but someone in our community just passed away. A young girl who was sick with cancer for 11 years. I cannot tell you how hard it is to think about it. and when i think about her family and the mourning and the pain I cant deal with it but I just wanna tell you that no matter how hard it is for you just think about the wonderful place that she is in now. She’s happy and in a place that’s painless totally.

May Hashem console you and all the rest of Klal Yisroel that’s suffering.

post- so happy for you! I know how heaven it felt to be on here! May you be zoche to build a bayis neeman b’yisroel!

ok im bringing it up!

i was very upset when I told my chosson that I only wanted a CZ but he would not let. Its not something that matters to me at all and I would rather save them the money and let them spend it on something that mattered to me. but he said no way! i must admit I really am upset.

wow so happy to hear. Join the club!

thank you! you too. may all your tefillos be answered.

MP- should we revive the shabbos one too tomorrow?

MP- I agree with you. I think age plays a big role. if they are dating for a while already and finally found someone they love, it can hurt both ways. generally though I think the guys move on faster.

Did anyone hear Mrs. Goldstein, from the Bamboo Cradle speak about this topic. she said an amazing story. She was a girl in sem and some other girl who was there decided that it was her duty to keep on reminding her about her heritage and where she came from….she got up on a table one day and told everyone that this Goldstein girl is gonna be the last to get married…. because shes really a Chinese…. obviously Hashem showed her who’s in charge and she got married years before this girl. One day this girl called her for mechila and she forgave her wholeheartedly. The girl got engaged shortly after and she made sure to be at that chuppa. You have to hear it from her but I was almost crying when she told it to us.

not what I meant. thought you knew that but that was cute.