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I like to think that I have improved as a driver since I have taken my road tests. Basically, the more you drive the better you become, so at some point you are a danger to yourself and every other unfortunate person who happens to be out when you are driving.
Failed my first time- missed a stop sign- whoops!
Failed my second time- drove really well, but after stopping at a stop sign, I drove across the street and she said a car was too close to me. (stop signs aren’t my strong point!)
Passed the third time by some ness- I really did not deserve to pass.
Advice- take it in Staten Island- they are much more lenient and overlook many mistakes. The people in Brooklyn are much more strict.
I hope that Starbucks is okay to sit in, or else a lot of bochurim will have to find another dating hot spot.
tzippi-
I don’t know so much about this seminary, but my sister is looking into it, because she is thinking about going. From what I hear, it is opening somewhere in NJ, close to Lakewood, but not in it. They are having a dorm. It seems that they are trying to make the academics on a higher level than most American seminaries. Hope this info helps you!
Also there is a relatively new seminary in Toronto, you might want to find out about that.
Subsational has good deli sandwiches.
A new seminary is opening outside of Lakewood. It’s called Bnos Chaim.
Weiss’s definitely makes the best donuts- especially their caramel.
Brooklyn bakery in Geulah sells American style donuts all year round. Or at least they did when I was in seminary.
Starbucks is considered a coffeehouse, not a restaurant or cafe.
I would classify a restaurant as somewhere you can eat a full meal. I don’t consider coffee and cake a meal.
As far as I know a Jew is allowed to buy a black unflavored coffee in a disposable cup anywhere, and there is no kashrus problem.
As far as the milk goes, if you drink chalav stam milk, you would be allowed to add that to your coffee.
If you do not eat cholov stam, Starbucks has pareve soy milk with a hechsher on the container. I have asked to see the container in many different Starbucks around America (NY, California, Ohio, Maryland…), and they all seem to use the same brand that has the same hechsher. I would still ask to see the container each time though, just in case.
There is a story about a Rav (not sure who) who said that his hishtadlus for parnassah was to buy a lottery ticket once a year.
I doubt that anyone in this generation is on that level.
yavnerd:
Yeah, had to retreive your password on THIS account, not the other one, which is used often.
Mission accomplished! Its been real, folks, enjoy yourselves.
Yavnerd:
LOL! Thought you don’t post no more? Or is on a different name?????
BUSTED!
Yaff-
LOL! Too bad that can’t work with girls. Its usually kinda obvious.
I happen to know the kallah and while it didnt exactly hinder her self confidence in any way, it was something that she was slightly embarrassed of. She told me that she was debating if she should put her second name on her invitation or not. In the end she did, but it was not done without much diliberation
WIY-
not disagreeing with you…
I think there is a case to be made about parent burdening their children with certain names.
I was at a chasunah once, and as the kesubah was being read, I was having a hard time not laughing (I know, very mature of me)
The kallah’s middle name was ______. I mean come on! Would you want to walk around for eternity with a name like that?
WIY-
Five may be a little too intense for most girls. I have a friend who realized a guy was not for her when all he talked about were divrei torah. I’m not saying that a boy shouldn’t say over a nice vort during a date, but if that’s all the conversation, there’s not much getting to know you going on.
WIY-
just wondering…are you the type of guy who gives his date 5 divrei torah?
Actually, I really do not like KD. After eating there, I just feel like I am swimming in a pool of oil. And I never get full from their portions, which I find to be pretty small.
Pashiteh Yid-
I agree with your general point. However, I do not agree with the way it was worded
For example: When one is in panic mode, he does extreme and strange things
These are Gedolim we are talking about! Gedolim who are referred to as “einei haedia” because they can see things that we can not! They are focused on the future of klal yisroel. I don’t think it is appropriate to call their actions extreme and strange.
as it is, I find that the posts take a while to show up.
And here I was blaming my poor computer…
punkt fakert
that has to be on the list!
Each unfortunate situation of someone going off the derech has a different cause. There is no common denominator. One went off the derech because the parents were too strict, and one went off because the parents were too lenient. One got pulled in by bad friends, and one was abised by his rebbi, and another became addicted to dangerous technology.
I admire the people that work with these children and try to bring them back, but I am not sure that there is a one size fits all approach that will work here, unfortunately
oomis-
I agree that many shidduchim can come out this way, but who goes into a date saying “hmmm, lets see who I acn set her up with.”
I know I wouldn’t want to date someone who has no intention of even considering me as a marriage partner.
There are shadchanim for a reason (though being in the parsha, I am starting to loose my trust in them)
haifagirl-
Yeah, I know what you mean. I have a yiddish name as well- not an uncommon one, and by the way the Israeli’s pronounced it you would think it’s Chinese!
frumladygit- WIY definitely has his head screwed on straight.
I hope you don’t mind if I answer your question as well:
The highest level of emunah is to believe that everything that Hashem does is for the best. This is an extremely high level to reach! Halevai we should all just come to the realization that everything that happens to us comes from Hashem! I think that this is something that we all know theoretically, but it’s easier to talk about it in a theoretical sense than to integrate it into our daily lives.
Whatever Hashem does is for our ultimate good- we may not see it now, or ever, but emunah is to know that even though I can’t see it now, Hashem has a master plan for me.
Emunah does not mean to believe that Hashem will do what I think is good, or what I think I need.
EX: I want to get married, but obviously Hashem has other plans for me. Emunah means that I know that this is the stage that Hashem wants me to be in right now, and its for my good, not that I believe that Hashem will send me my bashert now because I want it now.
Much easier said than done- believe me!
bombmanic-
“dont you have anything better to do with your time than worry about what people do with their possessions?”
well I could ask the same question to you. Don’t you have anything better to do with your time than scream at people for worrying about what people do with their possessions?
aries-
Th problem is that people are sending comments to annonymous people they have never seen or met. I hope that people are a little more coteous in real life.
Bombmanic-
No one, not even you, can argue that a BMW is not a luxury. If you need a car that you can count on, and that won’t break every day and a half- I’ll give you some suggestions that cost thousands less than a BMW. There is a reason why it is known as a “luxury car” even in the secular world
whatrutalkingabt-
While its true that its inappropriate for a kollel family to walk around in brand names and ritzy cars, I don’t think that someone who goes to work has the right to do the same simply because they can afford it.
People have this thing against non-biblical names. I have a yiddish name, and when I was in seminary I had a shabbos “chavayah” at a certain well known family in the Old City. The woman of the house is supposedly a very spiritual person said that she does not like my name because it is yiddish, which is a language of the golus. Go figure!
Bombmaniac-
remember what we learned in preschool- putting down others does not make you right.
Congrats on becoming a mind reader and therefore knowing what I think even when I am not aware of it. Its a useful skill- put it to good use.
And I just love when people blame the designers for this- they are just putting on the symbols because they know that is what will sell. And they are rolling their way to the bank that people are stupid enough to fall for it.
Sacrilige-
Why is it showing individuality if every single boy is either wearing one or pining for one. I don’t know too much about mens belts, but from what I have seen, all the Ferragamo belts look pretty much the same. No individuality there.
And if it is the quality that is so important, the label would not matter, which means that I could easily pull off the medallion on Tory Burch shoes, or cover the Ferragamo symbol and no one would have a problem with that. Let me know when you find someone who will agree to let you do that… I won’t hold my breath
WIY-
I totally agree with you in theory. Obviously Hashem is the One in charge over here, so I shouldn’t ever feel anger toward a person, who is only Hashem’s shaliach.
I don’t know about you, but this is something that I still have to actively work on. I guess my emunah is not properly integrated into my lifestyle yet… another item to add to my spiritual “To Do” list
WIY- nice thought, but not likely to work when your blood pressure is rising and your tasting blood in your mouth. Need something a little more practical
Bombmaniac:
I apologize if you took my words the wrong way. I never intended to say that all wealthy people act this way. That is a gross overstatement, something which I try to stay away from. On the other hand, there are enough people who act this way that makes it a problem.
Sacrilige:
Yes, I agree that these people have class. I don’t care if you spend crazy amounts of money on clothes, just don’t flaunt it by needing to show the label. The most expensive brand names actually do not have labels or symbols. This is because they are intended for the classy members of society who are “fortunate” enough to be able to afford them.
And about the shopping- I never claimed that I don’t own any brand names. But I never pay a lot of money for what I wear. If I can buy a sweater in Target for $30, or I could find one on sale in Macy’s or Lord and Taylor for $35, then yeah- I’m gonna go for the brand name. Show me one person who wouldn’t.
I know this is the not the best solution, but here is what I do:
1. I remove myself from the situation if possible. I go away from all people so that I could sort out my racing thoughts. When I feel like I can be trusted not to say anything stupid, I allow myself to rejoin civilization. (this is not always a short process)
2. If I can’t leave the situation, I clam up and don’t say a word. this is how my friends know when I am upset- I just don’t talk- period.
3. I’ve tried this a few times, and it worked for me: if I am really mad at someone, I take my emotions to the opposite extreme and I try to be extra sickly sweet to them. I don’t know why this works, but it does, and its very satisfying, for some unknown reason.
oomis-
I agree with what you said- except for the part about going out with the girl one time. If you are sure it is not for you, why waste your time and hers?
Bombmaniac (and sacrilige who seems to agree)
I never said that wealthy people have to live like paupers. And it is really beautiful when they give tzeddakah and support our mosdos. At the same time, there must be a balance!
I am thinking of a few people whom I personally know. They are very wealthy, they do have large houses and they drive niceish, newish cars. They dress nicely and always look good. But if I had to pick out the richest person in the room, I most definitely would not pick them, although their bank statements will undoubtedly prove that they actually are the most wealthy. This is because they are not out to prove anything. They don’t have to wear $1,000 designer shoes just to prove they could afford it.
And sacrilige-
I am not claiming that I don’t enjoy a successful shopping trip. But I get the most pleasure when I find great deals, and see how much I’ve saved by waiting for the sale, or shopping in the outlet. That is a far better feeling than coming home with something that I can’t afford.