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  • in reply to: No more shopping bags! #1829738
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    Will the ban actually improve the environment? While there maybe fewer plastic bags getting into our streams and rivers paper bags are bulkier requiring more trucks on the road, increasing pollution. At the same time more trees need to be cut down to provide paper for these bags. These trees are needed to convert the carbon dioxide into oxygen. All you are doing is creating problems for future generation unless you have ideas how we can survive without oxygen.

    in reply to: No more shopping bags! #1828264
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    Reverting to paper bags is more expensive as paper bags will have a higher transportation and storage costs as it’s thicker and bulkier besides sometimes ripping on the way home. Here in NYC most retail stores do not have parking lots and free parking is hard to find and many consumers don’t have cars. All this is doing is encouraging residents to move outside the city.

    The city is requiring developers to provide affordable housing which sounds nice. An Apartment complex in Midwood has over 90 one bedroom Affordable Apartments at $2,300.00 per month with two bedrooms going for $2,800.00. These apartment are assigned by lottery which the government oversees. Which just encourages more residents to move out of the city and increase homelessness as these prices are not really affordable.

    in reply to: No more shopping bags! #1827948
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    This will end up hurtng local retailers as more consumers will buy online or the retailers will have to provide home delivery. This will probably reduce spur of the moment purchases as you have to plan how much you can fit in your bag. I think any savings in sanitation cost will be offset by losses in sales tax revenue. Reduction in local retail sales will result in layoffs costing more in welfare benefits.

    in reply to: Social & Communal pressure on M’agnim? #1819636
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    TLIK Community pressure will only force the husband out of the community. Once he leaves it is very difficult to keep track of him and get a get Even if you have a tracker on the husband, which is probably illegal as it is stalking, he can change his name from Jacob to Jake legally and have a Passport under the new name. So even though you notified the Israeli Government since the names on the court documents don’t match his passport he wouldn’t be detained.
    In most of these cases the husband feels he didn’t get a fair portion and his concerns weren’t addressed, which is why he isn’t giving the get. Unfortunately lawyers tend to fight for the best financial deal for their client not taking the get in mind. In many cases the husband is left broke and can’t even afford a basement apartment and then the ex-wife’s family expects him to give a get.

    in reply to: Social & Communal pressure on M’agnim? #1819281
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    Communal & Social Pressure doesn’t work. All it will do is force the husband to leave the community. Once that happens the chance of him giving a get or providing any financial support is highly unlikely.

    in reply to: Portable Mivkeh #1813463
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    I think what is meant by a mobile Mikveh is a kit that convert the standard bath tub into a Mikveh. For example, you are on vacation and there is no Mikveh available. You use the kit to convert your hotel/motel’s bath tub into a Mikveh and when it’s no longer needed you convert it back to a regular bath tub.

    As far as having a Mikveh in the backyard there are privacy issues as people can see over the fence or via drones unless the users are wearing bathing suits.

    in reply to: Imp”eeeeeeeee”achment #1813465
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    Impeachment is a waste of time. Pelosi is in no hurry to submit it to the senate for a trail. 2020 is an election year but the senators a third of which are up for reelection and a few of them are running for President are going to be stuck in Washington for a month or longer for the Impeachment Trial instead of campaigning. Biden who is no longer a senator is at the center of this impeachment

    in reply to: Dirshu Siyum #1813464
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    Did you learn in only one yeshiva or daven in only one shul your whole life? If Dirshu can fill up Met Life all the honor to them. Dirshu also is a whole different way of learning.

    in reply to: Portable Mivkeh #1812532
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    The concept is to enlarge the standard bath tub so that it can hold more than 40 saw and use tap water as the water source.

    in reply to: Calling 311 on someone blocking your driveway is mesira #1811837
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    If you really need to get your car out just call a tow truck and they will remove it. It may cost you but it’s under $100.00.,and you get to use your car faster. This is rather than wait for the NYPD to come down and ticket the car which is a low priority and even if they ticket it.Ii may take days until the car is removed. The tow truck will notify the police they picked up the car who when the owner reports the the car stolen, will tell him to pick it up at the the tow company’s pound. The owner will have to go to the pound, pay towing and storage fees in cash in order to retrieve his car.

    in reply to: After millions spent on promotion why are 30% of seats unsold? #1800771
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    I f the compliant is that the Agudah Siyum seats are too expensive. You can go to the Dirshu Siyum at Met Life on Feb 9 and it’s a lot cheaper.

    in reply to: Airline seating alerts #1796709
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    The solution is not to buy 2 seats in economy class but to buy a business class seat. The seats are wider and fully recline so you can sleep well. There is ample room to daven at your seat without going in the aisle. Arm rest is bigger enough to support your Talis and Tefillin bag. If you are traveling with your wife you wouldn’t be seating next to some strange women as there are only aisle or window seats

    in reply to: Sitting in driveway #1791636
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    hershh: Even if the driveway is illegal the driver must prove that the driveway is illegal. The officer who issued the ticket is not present nor is the property owner, it’s only you and the judge. How are you going to prove the driveway is illegal? Also you are informing on your fellow Jew which is prohibited under Jewish Law

    in reply to: Sitting in driveway #1791282
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    I am not a lawyer nor an expert in Jewish Law but I have a friend who managers a warehouse who needs to have his trucks loaded and on the road before 6 AM. He is the one who told me. The tow operator takes the car to his lot and notifies the owner who then must pay towing and storage and pick up the car. A lien is put on the car for these charges and they can auction the car to pay these fees.
    Do you think a business can afford thousand of dollars in lost sales while they wait around for the police to write out a summons which doesn’t clear the driveway. Sometimes you have to take the law into your own hands. They also puts up signs warning people not to block the driveway but they still occasionally block the driveway.

    in reply to: Private Mikva for Men #1791205
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    If you want privacy, go 5 in the morning. There is a mikvah in the basement in a shtebul on E. 13 between M & N that is open and hardly anyone uses it at that time. Just bring your own soap and towel. Comes 1 O’clock Erev Rosh Hashanah & Yom Kippur the place is packed.
    Another solution is make your own mikveh. Up until a hundred years ago communal bathing was common, now everyone has at least one bathroom per apartment. Converting a bathtub to a mikvah is possible but would require a larger tub.

    in reply to: Sitting in driveway #1791206
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    The choice is yours allow people to park in your driveway, it is a chesed. But if it’s becoming a problem you can buy a driveway blocker which is basically a pole that locks into to the driveway and prevents unauthorized use. As far as someone blocking the driveway on the street besides calling a tow truck and having it removed.

    in reply to: Is it going to be Bibi or Tibi? #1783690
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    Tibi just put in his demand to nominate Gantz as Prime Minister and it’s 32-64 billion NIS. That is to just nominate without the Arab parties being part of the government and with Leiberman being part of the government. Even if they can cobble a government together and find the money to meet this demand, I don’t see this government lasting long.

    in reply to: What’s the plan if it snows the day of the Siyum Hashas? #1778982
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    It will probably be a very short siyum

    in reply to: Child Victims Act now in effect in NYS #1776200
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    I don’t see what the big deal is all of these lawsuits are for money as I previously stated most if not all yeshivas run on a deficit which is made up by fundraising. If the yeshiva is sued they should look at the evidence if they have a good case or it looks like it’s going to drag on for a long time so that the yeshiva will incur a large legal expense. The Yeshiva can declare bankruptcy and list the plaintiff as a creditor. After filing for bankruptcy file a copy with the judge hearing the case and the lawsuit is over. If the yeshiva has a good bankruptcy attorney the yeshiva will be absolved from any future suits for actions that took place prior to the filing. The Administrator can stop fundraising during this period and promise the staff and suppliers that if they are not paid out of the bankruptcy proceeds they will be paid afterwards by a fundraising appeal. The only thing to fear is the bad publicity, but as long as the parent body and the alumni are behind them there is nothing to worry about.

    No one other than the abuser or those who failed to take proper action when they were notified are liable for any damages. So all they have to do is flee the jurisdiction move out of state either to NJ or CT for example, then this law doesn’t apply, I am not sure if bankruptcy absolves one from liability for a criminal act which is why I am advising them to move out of state

    in reply to: Recession is all the Democrats fault! #1775713
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    The economy up until now has been good but there are signs that we are heading into a recession. Is there going to be a recession in 2020? Only Hashem knows. Once the house goes for Impeachment Procedures it will be very difficult to pass any legislation to help the economy. It will be a blame game and the voters will decide who is at fault as it’s an election year.

    in reply to: Should citizens be able to adopt non-citizens at the border? #1775711
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    I think the system could result in people going down to the border to acquire slaves as the sponsor will have full control over their life, and could for example lock them in the basement and forcing them to do chores.

    in reply to: Child Victims Act now in effect in NYS #1775607
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    As far as member of the board being liable for actions of the yeshiva, it is doubtful the courts will find him liable because he had no control over the yeshiva’s employees. As far as Agudah is concerned, they have staff attorneys who could fight these lawsuits. Besides the camps maybe a separate corporation from the national organization. Also the burden of proof is on the plaintiff, many of these cases are taken on contingency.
    and are very expensive so if there is no chance of making money the lawyer wouldn’t take the case.

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    in reply to: Child Victims Act now in effect in NYS #1775224
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    This law will has limited effect on yeshivas and Jewish day schools as they have limited assets, rely on fundraising to pay any short falls and are individually owned. The Catholic Church which runs all of their schools in a district and has lots of assets will be effected. Lawyers will not sue unless they know their is a good chance of them recovering money. Even if there is a strong case against the yeshiva and the plaintiff wins, the yeshiva could declare bankruptcy and since most yeshivas are in poor financial health, walk away without paying anything.

    in reply to: $15 an Hour Minimum Wage #1770788
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    The problem with raising the minimum wage beside increasing wages for the employer it also is bad for the employee. Most if not all of those working for minimum wage are on government programs which are based on income. If an employee’s gross income goes up his government benefits are reduced. Many times the reduction in benefits is greater than the increase in salary. The only people it benefits are those who work off the books as they get extra money without a reduction in benefits.

    in reply to: 3-Day Weekends – Global Impact (more info in OP) #1770443
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    I am not sure why a four day workweek is better, because the fewer hours worked the lower the employee’s income is. Under Obamacare medical insurance had to be provided to all full time employees, so some employers just cut the number of hours each employee worked in order to avoid having to provide medical insurance resulting in lower income for the employee. Also employers can reclassify employees as outside consultants and get around any government law requiring a 4 day workweek.
    Currently, some employers have fllexible work schedules, allowing employees to work two hours extra each day in order to get the fifth working day off. Government doesn’t have to mandate these changes just the
    employees and employers have to agree to this type of workweek schedule.

    in reply to: 3-Day Weekends – Global Impact (more info in OP) #1769563
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    Shortening the workweek will not increase world peace but rather create more havoc.  People need to work in order to keep them out of trouble.

    in reply to: 3-Day Weekends – Global Impact (more info in OP) #1769513
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    In Israel where Shabbos is not a workday the irreligious not only don’t try to keep Shabbos but are even fighting to have buses running and shops and theaters open on Shabbos.

    Also I am not sure if you don’t realize that Friday is the holy day for Muslims. So if there is to be a 4 day work week it would probably be Monday through Thursday, as Friday is the Muslim holy day Saturday is the Jewish Holy Day & Sunday is the Catholic Holy day

    in reply to: Admission Cards #1768024
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    I do not cut and paste my posts. This country was founded on the principle of FREEDOM OF RELIGION, The First Amendment of the US Constitution grant us this right. But NY State has decided to limit this right by denying religious exemptions which in turn will result in thousands of yeshiva students being denied a yeshiva education.

    I realize that there is a bias against those who don’t vaccinate but are they not Jews is there Torah learning worthless and should be treated as human beings

    This is the beginning of the eroding of religious rights so eventually you wouldn’t be able to practice your religion as you see fit rather only as the state sees fit.

    I also realize that this may not be the forum to express these ideas as the courts will have to decide this question., Which court I don’t know? Whether the court of public opinion, as next year is a presidential election year or the state or federal court.

    in reply to: Admission Cards #1767967
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    Reb Yid In theory the yeshivas are not suppose to charge for teaching Torah studies at all so rejecting students due to their parents inability to pay tuition isn’t in the spirit of Torah law.

    Speaking of denying Jewish children a yeshiva education, starting this September students not vaccinated can no longer use a religious exemptions, so they either get vaccinated, get a medical exemption, or they can no longer attend any school in the state. The problem is 4% of Jews are not vaccinated and previously used the religious exemption in order to attend yeshiva. There are about 165,000 yeshiva students making it 6,600 yeshiva students that can no longer attend yeshiva.

    Both state and federal law require education be provided for all children age 6-16. NY state law requires that no student may attend school if they are not vaccinated unless they have a medical exemption. In order to get a medical exemption the patient’s immune system must be so deficient that the vaccine would be hazardous. Which if he is that sick he shouldn’t be out in public anyway. Students that are in prison or even developmentally challenged must be provided with an education. It’s therefor logical that these students will also have to be provided an education very similar to special ed students. Where are they going to get the money to pay for this? Especially since none of the school district planed for this when they were making their budget for the new school year.

    This will cause problems for yeshivas as they will be losing 6,600 student some of whose parents generously contributed to these yeshivas beside the loss of income from their tuition. At the same time the school district are going to have to provide education for these 6,600 in a non school environment. Which means they have to teach each student separately and not even in the same building as two of them in the same building maybe considered a school. This will be very costly but the state ( school district) MUST provide this education service.

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    AS far as having a yeshiva health code, when the outbreak first occurred a few yeshivas tried to ban their anti-vaxer students but the state wouldn’t allow it because of the religious exemption. The problem is every time one problem is solve it creates a bigger problem

    Kidnapping these almost 5,0000 children beside being a capital offense according to both secular and Jewish law and the health care provider would lose their license besides of which it isn’t practical. Even ICE can’t round up 5,000 illegal aliens in a week. Do you think you can get far with the amber alert system. and video cameras all over the place. You maybe able to get away the first two time but after that both the cops and the anti-vaxers will be onto you and if you get caught by civilian patrol you better hope they call the cops and don’t take justice into their own hands. Also they may charge you with human trafficking and serving time for these crimes are not so easy.

    Similarly making all 5,000 of them wards of the state, besides being time consuming, it’s doubtful if the state could afford taking all 5,000 children into the foster care system.

    If the only option is home schooling and you are dumping the schooling on the parents, then the parents are entitled to compensation and training or the state can provide tutors for each student in their mother tongue. It is the states responsibility to educate it’s residents whose age are between between 6-16 not the parent. The federal government gives the state money so that No Child is Left Behind and if the state is not making sure that these children are properly educated then the state should no;t be receiving these funds. .

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    The rate of anti-vaxers Jewish population is 3% with an estimated student population in New York State of 165,000 this means that come September 2019, 4,950 Jewish students will be denied a Jewish education or any education for that matter. I am no asking for money to educate them just ideas to save them. We have various Kiruv organizations to bring back those who have gone astray. Are we willing to write-off almost 5,000 Jewish souls off?

    in reply to: New York State is Denying Access to Education to Anti-Vaxer Students #1765576
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    As far as sending your child nude to school, yeshivas can set their own dress code Since most school have some type of dress code, they are permitted to ban student not dress properly. Also the yeshivas would never allow a student to be nude on their property.. The problem with the State and anti-vexer students are that until September 2019 you can have a religious exemption for not being vaccinated. The state changed the law, since they made the change they have the burden of proof that they are not discriminating against the ant-vaxers religious believes but since the law clearly states that religious exemptions will no longer be accepted I find it hard for the state to claim they are not violating the anti-vexers civil rights

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    The purpose of this thread is, how to educate these anti-vaxer children which the state is denying them access to yeshivas. If instead of education the state throw you out of your house or apartment would you expect the state to give you a similar house or apartment or are you on your own (homeless) until you can find a home. Because the only solution offered was homeschooling and keep them dumb, meaning parents are on their own.

    How does this mesh with state law that requires education for anyone from 6-16. Also what about federal law such as NO CHILD LEFT BEHIND. Are these anti-vaxers not children.

    The State has to provide an education alternative that is at least as good as the Yeshivas but not in a school setting. An argument can be made that since the state is denying these student a yeshiva education then the state should have to pay for religious instruction also.

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    Someone said that since the anti-vaxer is based on false science it isn’t prohibited. This is false as even if a person said an apple, which everyone knows is permissible, and said it was pork. He is taking an oath to prohibit as pork and it is prohibited until such time that he wants to nullify his oath.

    The purpose of the thread was not to argue over the pros and cons of vaccinating rather it’s about educating the anti-vaxer students that are being denied an education.

    The rational is that there maybe someone who has immune system deficiency and can’t take the vaccine and will catch the disease and perhaps die. As far as the anti-vaxers being liable for passing the disease on to others, according to Jewish Law a person is not responsible for indirect damage. Does anyone know what percentage of the population that is not vaccinated due immune system deficiency? This seems to be a civil rights violation similar to when blacks had to give up their seat on the bus for whites.

    As to why there would be more anti-vaxers if more people home schooled? Many parents only vaccinate their children because the yeshivas requires it.

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    As far as it not being a religious issue,. if the Vilna Goan & the Bal Shem Tov both testified that a piece of meat was kosher and Zev said that that piece was HAM. The Talmud states that for everyone the meat is kosher but for Zev the meat is HAM. So even though for everyone else it is permissible to vaccinate but for those who hold it’s prohibited it is the same as making them eat pork.

    A bigger problem is if you let them be home schooled and not given them a good education, then those parents who don’t want their children to learn secular studies will become ant-vaxers too in order not to have their children taught secular studies thus creating a bigger problem. Another problem is that if they don’t get a good education they are going to be a burden on society. Just remember this is the state that wants yeshivas to teach more secular studies so that the students can be more productive during their lifetime.

    If 96 percent of Jews vaccinate and the vaccine makes one immune, if an anti-vaxer attended school with the average class having 30 students he couldn’t contaminate anyone with the disease, as he is the only one not vaccinated. Even in the lunchroom or the school yard the only one that would get the disease would be other anti-vaxers so I don’t see the problem. Even if someone does get the disease, it is usually mild and goes away in a week or two. Although some people do require hospitalization. AIDS on the other hand is a death sentence. If bodily fluids from an AIDS patient gets in contact with broken skin such as a scab or cut or if someone chews on their finger nails after touching handrail where an AIDS patient deposited bodily fluids there is a good chance of contacting AIDS. Once you get Aids there is no cure so you eventually die from it. Yet AIDS patients are not denied access to schools . If you had a choice between having an anti-vaxer or an AIDS patient in your child’s class which would you choose?

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    I don’t understand this is the three weeks when Jews are morning the destruction of the temple because of hatred of our fellow Jew and we are dehumanizing people because they do not get vaccinated? Also the fact that they are denied access to yeshiva is diminishing the amount of Torah learning in the world . Where do you stand on this issue? Are you for more Torah learning or less?

    While home schooling maybe the answer, how can someone teach 10 kids of different ages at the same time.
    Or the STATE can provide tutors for this basic CIVIL RIGHTS which the state just started denying.

    I might agree with you that anti-vaxers should e banned from school if people with other diseases such as AIDS, which is more deadly then mumps, were also barred from school, but that isn’t the case.

    I would like to apologize if I offended anyone.

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    Neville Chaim Berlin: State law mandates that all children between the age of 6-16 must be educated. The state can’t force them to vaccinate if they claim they are not doing it for religious purposes. This is even though 99% of Jews hold that it’s a Mitzvah to be vaccinated. If an individual claims it’s against his religion by secular law it’s against his religion. For example before Marijuana was legal American Indians claimed that they smoked it for religious purposes and won in federal court.

    On one hand the state is mandating the number of hours that secular studies must be taught to yeshiva students and on the other hand the same state is denying yeshiva students access to learn. because the state doesn’t agree with their religious believes.

    I realize that there is a bias here against the anti-vaxers but they are still Jews and there is an obligation to educate every Jew not just the ones you agree with.

    in reply to: What are any issues with serving a role in Conservative Shule? #1763913
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    What I think Rational is saying is that Orthodox Jews are joining Conservative shuls so that once they become the majority they can vote out the Conservatives and convert it to Orthodox.

    in reply to: Is it safe to invest in an up and coming Jewish community? #1669126
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    If it’s a condo I would strongly urge you/her not to invest. Unexpected repairs may come up and maintenance will exceed rental income also the apartment may lay vacant for a few months and you will have to pay maintenance even though there is no rental income.
    Satmar built townhouses in Bloomingburg in upstate NY which are not selling and going into forclosure, is an example in NY of a community that was built and Jews moved in and then for what ever reason others didn’t follow.
    If this investment is so great why does the broker need you to invest? He can borrow money from the bank. The reason is the risk is to great and he is just looking for a commission, which he will earn when he sells it. In short there is a good chance that you will lose some or all of your investment in this transaction, can you afford the loss.

    in reply to: Who’s going to be the one to lose out #1663685
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    If Pelosi wants to dis-invite President Trump he should make the State of the Union speech on the steps of the capital just to show there is no security threat. Security will probably be very tight and I am sure that it will be well attended. Of course there will be an absence of democrats. It will basically be a kickoff for the 2020 presidential campaign speech, how the democrats are ruining the country in their first thirty days.

    in reply to: The Southern Wall #1661115
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    Reb Yod 23 you do realize that in order to get on a plane or even go through the Democratic convention you need photo ID. So how do you recommend that we get rid of illegal aliens if you don’t want to build a wall.

    in reply to: The Southern Wall #1660919
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    Do we really need the wall? I don’t know, but something has to be done about illegal immigration, do you want to have to produce proof of citizenship whenever you are stopped. In most states you don’t even have to show photo id to vote. Or place armed soldiers at the border with orders to shoot to kill I don’t think otherwise you can stop it. The president wants the wall and in order for the federal government to operate he must sign the bill, so unless you want gridlock for the next two years some type of wall must be authorized. Remember comes October 2019 there is a new fiscal year with a new budget and a new fight for more funding for wall.

    in reply to: Who’s going to be the one to lose out #1660918
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    Federal workers, contractors and those business that rely on them are losing right now. eventually government programs such as food stamps and rent subsidy, will run out of money and then it will effect a greater number of people mostly democrats.

    As to the state of the union, you must realize that the democrats want to impeach him and some have called him names so I expect they will act in a disrespectful manner. But because the state of the union is televised it will be toned down.

    in reply to: Is the MO community concerned with SED? Why the silence? #1658058
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    The MO think the law doesn’t effect them because more of their graduates go on to college, but if you look at standardize test scores such as Regents in NY State, you will find that Yeshivas score in the top ten.
    Will these guidelines be enforced? The guidelines put the responsibility on the school district to determine if the parochial school meets the standards. Do you really think in Kiryat Joel or in East Ramapo (Monsey) school districts where the majority of school board members send their children to yeshiva, the district is going to say the yeshivas don’t meet the standards?
    The group that has the most to fear is the Catholics. If their school are closed down then the students will end up in public school. The public school district has a vested interest to close their schools as each student attending public school increases the public schools annual budget by over $25,000.00, closing a parochial school will increase the district’s budget by millions of dollars.

    in reply to: Government Shutdown #1657553
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    You will still owe the same money you owe now the only difference is you won’t get your refund nor get help from the other the IRS.

    in reply to: Being a good shadchan #1207871
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    Most shaddchanium barely know the people the people they are setting up. It is the responsibilities of the parties to investigate. Your disclaimer is not necessary. If every shidduch proposed by a professional was the right one the wouldn’t be a shidduch crises.

    I think anyone involved in shaddchunis is doing a big Mitzvah ,something similar to Kiruv work.

    in reply to: The LATEST shidduchim thread! #1206833
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    lilmod ulelamaid – “I could see it being more of a problem for a boy doing something like this, though.”

    Why all he needs is an Excel spreadsheet for all his dates or if he is tech savvy an Access database, enter the data from each date and then let the computer choose the best date for him.

    in reply to: The LATEST shidduchim thread! #1206832
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    CT Lawyer I would like to apologize for accusing you of pushing your daughter to date while on vacation in Australia. I would also like to wish your wife a complete recovery from her illness.

    I think it’s a bad idea to date someone that far away for the following reasons;

    1) Australia is 23 hour flight and should she get married it will be very hard for you wife in her condition to travel there to meet the in-laws and your daughter once she gets married.

    2) Australia has different education requirements so she may have to go back to school to meet them.

    3) Your medical insurance wouldn’t be accepted there so any medical expenses may be very expensive.

    Stay in the USA when dating and you avoid these problems.

    in reply to: The LATEST shidduchim thread! #1206826
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    lilmod ulelamaid-

    After a 23 hour flight the girls is to meet 4 boys within the first 10 days”

    I never said that. I spoke about going to America or Israel for approximately a month with a list of at least 2 possible boys to date while you are there. I never said anything about arranging the dates beforehand.

    My post had nothing to do with you, it concerned someone whose daughter was flying from JFK to Australia which takes about 23 hours flying time. I also don’t think the daughter really wants to go on these dates it just what Daddy want Daddy gets. Just reread the thread as I don’t want to be accused of saying Loshan Horah.

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    Abba_S
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    LU – Just out of curiosity what is a donkey ride? I don’t think this is something to do on a date. I am not sure if a donkey can even carry and adult but even if it could I don’t think you (a female) could ride it in a modest and safe way. Here in NYC although they are mostly democrats we don’t have donkey rides although we have stables that rent horses who are able to carry adults but I think you need to wear pant to ride them safely. So as far as doing it on a date, I don’t think so.

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