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Refuah Sheleima. I will take 42-51
WOW!! I really am impressed!! You should see the salvation immediately!!
WOW!!! K.A.H. but you left out quite a bit that I can think of….
She’s staying away because of all the CRAZY threads, but don’t worry she’s watching….
Hey you guys cool it!! What are you trying to prove??
Health: I hear you….. I will give you the same advice I was given by Rabonim/Dayanim in reference to one of my children who is divorced.
He had a child who has and is continuously being turned against him from day 1.(after the divorce)
Doing this to a poor child is messing him up for life! They tell me just be patient he will grow up one day and everything will turn around , and he will see his father for who he really is. The parent who does this couldn’t care less about their child only revenge!
I know this is all easier said than done…. but blood is thicker than water!
I Think most of you are being insensitive to her feelings. Right now this is her nisayon and she needs to get over it, which i.y.H. she will.As with all emotional pain, time will heal. Hoping you meet your basherte very soon!
Health, not to diminish your pain in any way, BUT each to his own, hearing that someone is worse off never made any nisoyon easier for me.SHE NEEDS TO BE ABLE TO GO ON WITH HER LIFE,AS YOU ALSO SHOULD.
HEALTH: CHAZAK!!
Yehuda Tzvi: I read all your posts with a heavy heart… I really feel for you… Yeshias Hashem keherif ayin! Wishing you a true salvation from all your tzaar!
Tiramasu
Go in to ZEES A LEK on 13th Ave. in Boro Park. Try them all!
Imma 613: its Yiddish it means start from the beginning.
Always: I’m glad you spoke to your Rav and he is willing to help with your husband. Now what about you personally? Please call Sparks 1718 2 sparks.Ask for Rivky. They can help you with your issues. Didn’t you write recently that you are marrying off a son? There really has alot been going on , you need to do whatever you can for yourself too!
please call sparks. they can help you and give you the chizuk you
need. 1 718 2 sparks.
Always: I’ve been watching your posts for a while and I smelled something fishy… I really have been worried about you.Please call Sparks, its an organization that hhelps women with post partum depression. They will guide you in the right direction! PLEASE CALL!!
Zehavasdad: For the first time I agree with you. It’s time for me to say goodbye!I was on internet for business so this came along but you’re right, the gedolim mean this too!!
You don’t really want to hear what I would say to that do you?
zehavasdad: You can choose what to ban for your own childrens well being and then wait and see… but don’t tell Gedolim who have much more experience with a klal than a private person, what to ban or not.
THEY SEE AND HEAR ALL THE TZOROS , ON A DAILY BASIS.
Always Runs: Please forgive me if you feel I am out of line. If you have an issue with the internet do you feel it is safe for you to
ccess all the time?
Have you ever heard of a donut cake? I ordered one yesterday for a party. I didn’t even get a crumb, the company totally devoured it!
I think that is the most realistic answer in this forum!
My Take: Sorry I didnt reply earlier. Just checked in tonight.
First of all, amen to your brochos! I also remember the total feeling of exhaustion! I wondered if I would ever be able togo back to a routine life? Sometimes I used to look out the window and wondered how are all those people just going on with their lives? Do they understand? If you would like to share the name of your family member I would try to have her in mind… Wishing you and your family a true lichtig Channukah!!
My Take: I think you need to work on that cloud… It really is what you make it. I know, believe me , it’s extremely difficult. Whenever I think of the doctors, the tests, the hospital, I feel sick.
Try not to let this cloud follow you, try going after the sun.I found alot of comfort in my Tehillim, talk to Hashem, only He can help us…
My Take: I can truly appreciate your questions. I think everyone is different and every case is different. The fear in me NEVER goes away, nor from the patient unfortunately! She is seeing someone now who ( for other reasons)I hope will be able to help her deal with this as well.It doesn’t only affect her, it affected the whole family who was aware.I try to work on my emuna and bitochin, that’s part of my choosing this screen name after all. We really need to believe that everything has a reason and everything is for the good. Hashem has been extremely kind to us, we’ve had various tests in life. I pray we pass all of them.
One thing I definitely have learned no one is guarenteed in life.
One of my children was “redt” a shidduch with a “survivor” they couldn’t believe I would consider it for a healthy child. Though we couldn’t turn it down for that reason.We understood… (BTW it didn’t work out anyway)
My Take: Thank you for your kind words. Yes Baruch Hashem that patient is Gezint. We have so much to be thankful for. Hashem should help ALL cholei yisroel mamash bekoriv!
The stories from that period over ten years ago are still very painful to me. I wish I could work on it more to forget….
The ikar is when we do a chesed for others we know how NOT to do it, don’t we?
Wishing your family member a complete refuah sheleima!!
My Take: A very speedy refuah Sheleima to the patient. I must tell you I have so much to say, I could probably write a book on this. I feel anyone who has not been on the receiving end of this chesed really should not be voicing their opinion here. You have absolutely no idea, and you never should, what expenses are entailed in dealing with a patient. You are not a beggar and shouldn’t be referred to as such! These organizations are wonderful in many ways and can use improvement in many ways. Unfortunately I was on the receiving end with one of the very famous organizations which really could use a tikun. I used them for one thing only , transporatation to and from chemo. treatments and constant testing. I was questioned from them numerous times of the validity of our visits???!! I was once asked why can’t you go on the Bikur Cholim bus? Sure, chemo. patients would definitely enjoy the bumpy ride after a session , don’t you think?
After a couple months of rides, I was told the rides would have to stop, only offering us one way. When I asked why, I was told people abuse the system, use it for shopping. So I asked, are you aware of the drop off and pick up addresses? So the kind transportation provider said, well you never gave us a diagnosis? I said what? I thought chemo. was enough, I have no problem giving you that info.
This was really ridiculous!! Humiliating to put it mildly. When you are dealing with a sickness, rachmana litzlan, you really don’t need any other aggravation. That’s what this chesed is supposed to be all about, relieving the tension.
Refuah Sheleima!
Zehavasdad: Where is your acceptance of others who don’t agree with your beliefs?
I say $20.00
Always: Have you ever heard of Sparks? They are an organization which deals specifically with post partum depression. They won’t put you on Zoloft if you dont need it. Give them a call. If you need the number I can get it for you.
Always Runs: I don’t appreciate your comment about Chasidishe women exclusively? Are you living your life that sheltered thinking it’s only in your circles?
It may be very common but not all women take drugs, no need to. As far as your insinuation with xxx amount of children, well those who need drugs will do so with even one child. Lets put things into perspective. I will share a story with you, a family member told me that her dayin told her to go on birth control after one of her children were born. She was amazed, she didnt see the need for it so she asked him why? The dayan answered ” You pick, it will be either birth control or pills for your nerves!
Skiaddict: I truely feel for your predicament..
though I would like to share another wedding scenario with you from yesterday. I was at a chasuna where aniece of the machateneste came dressed in a fashion shall we say different than the whole family. The wedding was quite crowded, but I noticed everyone looking at her, pitying her. It really was awful. The reason is this neice was not brought up this way and only changed her attire within this year. people who knew her before looked at her with shock.Can we say that the crowd of almost 1000 people were all closed minded or shallow. I am not here to judge that. I have one question, if she loves her aunt, why couldnt she dress accordingly just for the chasuna, so as not to stick out and make everyone turn around? When someone not frum from my family attends our simchas, they respect our beliefs and comes dressed accordingly. Why cant someone brought up with the same beliefs have the same respect?
Sam 2: I never measured. You did!
Derech hamelech: You’ve made some very good points.
Sam2: I won’t get into this with you because we definitely are coming from two different places…. Call it whatever you want , higher or lower….
Apushata Yid: I’m not a Bais Din, Thank you!
Sam2 : Where did you see that I said I’m on a higher level???
Sam2 I think that the purpose of this thread was to help a choleh, who unfortunately passed away. I think you took the thread off on a tangent without sensitivity to the family loss IMHO.
You could go visit one of the many banks in the area.
A pushata Yid: You may be pashut but I think you have some common sense, so use it. I am not here to draw lines for anyone else, I try to stay in my own parimeters and take care of my own family.
Health: I hope you are joking?
Emunas Itecha: I am very sorry for the loss of your uncle.May you and the family only know of simchas.
Thank you for your beautiful divrei torah! Truly an inspiration!
Don’t let the posts bother you from Sam 2 and the like. They have absolutely no idea where you’re coming from….. Don’t even try to explain it to them… it’s a waste of energy.
Old man:; You have gone too far this time( Again). Seperate seating can NOT be equated to these CRACKPOTS!Just because you are not on the level of others who feel that seperate seating is a chiyuv, doesn’t mean you should make fun of them! Taliban women is another parsha altogether and so are those in Quebec, nebach. I truly feel sorry for them!
Always runs: It is very important for you to have time for yourself, if you don’t, you better start now. You need to have time to recharge…
Don’t worry, Gam Zeh Yaavor! If you feel you still can’t manage , don’t be ashamed get help!!There are many people out there who can help you!
Hatzlocha!
I once read a letter sent to Rebetzin Yungreis, it was from a mother who said she can’t manage she wants to run away… Someone else replied for the Rebetzin. She said that she is the other woman every one envies. She works in the financial district making a 6 figure salary. Is there something to envy? No absolutely not, she said that her co workers were extremely intimidated from her Shabbos observance. She claims in the BIG world out there, they really are anti semetic and don’t appreciate religious Jews. She also stated that fertility drugs cost a fortune, that that is where all her husbands and her salary goes. She described in detail all the procedures both her husband and her have taken. How everyone looks at her husband in Shul, why is he limping again.Then she says” You feel like running away, run very far, because you don’t deserve your children!”
That letter shook me up so much, I was never able to complain about my kids again!
It definitely gets easier, they eventually grow up. You know the old saying, kleina kinder kleiner daagos, groisa kinder groisa daagas! Enjoy every minute of it. As far as The Goq is concerned: There really are no words that can adequately suffice for the pain in your heart. Only Hakadush Baruch Hu can ease your pain.I certainly hope you see the light at the end of the tunnel!
It definitely gets easier, they eventually grow up. You know the old saying, kleina kinder kleiner daagos, groisa kinder groisa daagas! Enjoy every minute of it. As far as The Goq is concerned: There really are no words that can adequately suffice for the pain in your heart. Only Hakadush Baruch Hu can ease your pain.I certainly hope you see the light at the end of the tunnel!
First of all from my life experiences, I have learned that what you assume is going on by someone else is NOT necessarily true. What I am trying to tell you, is don’t make assumptions. You really never know what is truly doing by someone else. I personally was raised not to really care what is going on by someone else, that comes along with emuna, that whatever was destined for me will be mine anyway.Hatzlocha with your struggles. I am sure you can do it!