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And a rosh yeshiva I know was more than happy to use the a/c – when asked about managing in “der heim” he answered “We suffered”
Go crank it up!! 🙂
They contain a lot of garbage and are time wasters. Doesn’t mean that they don’t have some benefits, when used judiciously.
Because they can! When there was a shortage of waitresses and JCs in some girls camps they dropped their fees – which worked!
Also, there are expenses involved in every additional person on camp grounds. Food, trips, insurance, etc. For the boys there are rebbeim that are well paid (to attract quality) even for the staff.
The “pay” from the camp is a token, as are the tips. But as tips are required (in most camps) the staff DO depend on them as their summer earnings.
As a former staff member and soon to be staff parent I am totally ok with this.
backsplash, appliance allowance and installation, sufficient lighting where you want it eg under cabinet, over cabinet, spots, chandelier or cloud. Cabinet quality and options.
I went to a pretty strict school in BP. Yani was always fine – it was even used in productions!
I happen to agree with you that some of today’s “Jewish” music is really not very “Jewish” – and you will be surprised at where some “classics” took their music from! Simon and Garfunkel should be the worst of it!
If it is a storage closet then it doesn’t need one. If it is more like a room – eg a walk-in closet, most people would put one up. Perhaps without a bracha – if you are hanging multiple mezuzos at once choose a different one to say the bracha on.
As far as I know, folding on the creases should not be done on Shabbos – whether its a tallis, a tablecloth, or clothing. Hanging up pants will be a problem, but hanging up a skirt or jacket that doesn’t get folded in the process is fine. (If you are in the habit of leaving your clothes on the back of a chair, Shabbos afternoon is not the time to start hanging things up.:) )
The grid of which products you can buy in which type of Starbucks has been published a number of times in recent weeks. Search the net, email kashrus agencies – you will find it.
Soy milk is a much bigger problem than regular milk! If you are even walking into a Starbucks you aren’t makpid on Chalav Yisroel. Milk will have a hechsher, soy milk might not.
First, online and store prices sometimes differ – you will get the lower price. If the online one is lower you can point it out to the cashier and you will get it.
Second, if it is a non-Jewish owned store there is no halachic requirement to go back. It is a Kiddush HaShem to point out the error. As has been discussed here in the past, that seems to be the way most people operate – if you catch the error before leaving the store, go back to be nice. Most folks won’t make a special return trip.
everyting in moderation!
A slice now and then is fine, as is anything else you want. Two slices and fries daily, however, is not such a good idea.
The only diet that has been proven to work and be maintable is the Zip It diet! Just zip your lips and stop eating junk! Yes, pizza is junk.
1. Any bike can have a basket attached. Go to a bike shop – not Toys R Us. We grew up in Brooklyn without a car. Okay, without helmets too but hats do fly off, and every bike had a either a front basket, or back “saddle bag” baskets.
2. Train them young! My three year old wears one when he rides his tricycle! It doesn’t fit him very well, but it’s the concept and the habit. I don’t enforce it on the trike, but two-wheeler with training wheels – no helmet, no bike.
Try the chosson’s parents?
I agree with contacting the couple. After all, it is their life that will be adversely affected due to the lack of shadchanus.
And to Jewish and Working: Shadchanus doesn’t quite work that way. They HAVE to pay up!
Hire a cleaning lady!
Then maybe a cook who will meal plan and health food shop as well.
The Kashrus orginization in Denver found a problem with bugs that burrow deep into the corn as soon as you remove the husks. The star-K and cRc have not found this problem.
A) even Denver says canned is fine
B) perhaps it is regional and the New York area isn’t infested with the same bugs
Koldi – I am with you. That we can even make such jokes is a blot on our society. And to tear the story apart as if it were true – becuase we all know it can be:
Singles are so often redt shidduchim that have no shaychus whatsoever other than age and gender. And the ubiquitous “he’s a lovely boy, middos, learner, parnassah etc.” are really meaningless.
And when a girl has had one two many lousy shidduchim from good deed doers, she will feel like folks are in it for the extra money.
It is the latest krumkeit and is totally wrong. Women and girls belong at home dealing with house things – the meal, kids etc. they will be sleep deprived enough as it is. Girls without house responsabilities should perhaps read something meaningful after the meal, as opposed to a novel. V’ZEHU!!
Sure does. The world is a topsy-turvy place when a supposed “ben Torah” cannot differntiate between what is appropriate for a public audience and what is not. If you would like to learn that inyan (whatever it is) with your wife, that is your choice. Don’t bring it here.
Agree with bpt: sitting in a lounge with a glass on the table it is very course and unrefined to drink from the bottle. But take the same bottle on a picnic or a walk and it’s totally fine (as long as she doesn’t wipe her mouth on her sleeve!)
Beer from a bottle – well let’s just stop at “beer.”
Wearing hose when you get “dressed” during the summer shouldn’t seem that odd in general. I wore hose through many summer of business dress. Clear hose go rather well under socks and sneakers as well – I’ve done that too.
bpt: $800 strollers definitely have advantages over the cheaper models – but not if you can’t afford it! and those rediculous pacifier clips have no place whatsoever anywhere for anybody! they are dangerous and disgusting. But tell that to the mother with a $25 clip, an $800 carriage, and foodstamps & HUD!
I think halachically from a non-Jewish store it isn’t assur, however, the respect for frum Jews it will create is definitely more important. Good for you!
Home Depot undercharged me for an item – I figured out why when I got home. I did not go back. I would have corrected the cashier if I would have figured it out there.
There is! as John Doe said. It is just brutal for them to get around during the day.
You can by red-flagged if you miss too many flights.
Stuttering is something one can get used to. You can joke about it if you feel comfortable doing so. If she can’t get used to it then it isn’t meant to be. Same as a big nose or bald head
Chillul HaShem actually refers to action performed in front of other Jews that denigrates the name of HaShem, chalila. Frum kids pushing on the city bus or talking loudly/rudely in the streets is pretty common. And goes all the way to the Sing-Sing Kollel.
According to halacha, a man should not walk behind a woman.
According to custom/manners a guy should hold the door open for a woman.
They are contradictory points. If a date is choosing to be makpid – see if it carries through in other areas of tznius (since that is what it’s all about). If he is polite and mannerly in other ways, and is consistent with his hakpados, then you can consider overlooking it. If he is being “fachnyuked” about just this prat, than maybe you/he need to reconsider what his actions mean.
“PPD” can take many forms at many levels. Lack of sleep can be a huge trigger for at least the “blues.” And crying for no reason, even though you are fine in between is definitely at least the “blues.” I’ve BTDT many times over to varying degrees (B”H never needed meds). You need first and foremost sleep! Let your husband give a mid-night bottle or two. Work out the best time for both of you. You need a good stretch of sleep. Even if not every night. Your nursing won’t suffer for it (if you were concerend about that).
Household help can be tough if finances are tight – teach your husband what a broom and a mop are, and even your big ones can fold laundry (so its not perfect, big deal). Let your friends send over suppers (that was a lifesaver for me – we all got a square dinner at least). And send your toddler to a babysitter for a couple of hours a day so you can catch a nap.
Mazal Tov and hatzlacha!
bpt: The big issue is the spirit of the law vs the letter of the law. Was the letter followed? Yes, it was. The spirit? Not at all. This problem is rampant. Even the frum stores don’t see it anymore!
I can’t give you a posek, but I have been told, that heels should not be exposed is a ruling from the days of the gemara when women, who always wore skirts to the floor – or close to it – would put little bags of perfume under their heels so that as they would walk a pleseant smell would be emitted to attract attention. The implication was that you should at the very least wear socks (or “hose”) when wearing backless/slingback footwear. But Halacha l’Moshe miSinai? no.
A guy shouldnt be pointing that out to a strange woman. She will be embarrased either way. If you know there is someone else nearby who can tell her, let her. If not, you can say something general, but not specific.
In my experience, as kid I preffered ignored. I hung out with kids who I knew were not my pears and would ultimately ignore me, rather than be snubbed by my peers. These days I don’t have much time to “hang out” and am most friendly with a)my direct neighbors and b)no strings attached friends who feel comfortbale enough to call me or I call them on an as-needed basis with no “maintenance” needed.
I personally feel that there is a very grey area between halachah and hashkafah. I beleive that a Jewish woman IS essentially a slave to her husband, and her home. Her main tafkid in life is to raise her family and see that her husband is happy (and those include maintaining a pleseant atmosphere, a clean home, proper meals, laundry, etc.). I strive, yet I am sure that I am not the only one who is at least a little resentful at times. Being brought up in modern society where women are considered more than just a domestic, it is very hard, but I do beleive that b’derech haTorah it is right.
I would not consider it appropriate behavior for a guy to drink acohol on a date period. Based in being in a lounge, that “derech” doesn’t even allow for wine at a fancy resteraunt. I would be concerned with possible alcohol over-use (abuse might be pushing it – but you never know) and other crass behaviors as well. (yes, crass is the perfect word!)
It completely depends on the child and the parent. Some wonderful mothers just don’t have the stamina to care for a 2 year old all day every day and need the time and space provided by sending to a 2year old program. Some are happy as a lark keeping their children home until Kindergarten – or even Pre-1A.