Mammele,

It is a Chassidishe Minhag.

I once asked someone why Chasidishe women shave their hair, he told me it is a Zohar. The Zohar states that even if the hair is covered it should be cut.

He showed me that the Mishne Berura references this zohar. I do not remember where it is, however if this is important to you, I can try looking it up.

avhaben,

Interesting, what you consider Assur, others consider Muttar.

I have seen men shmooze (read: laugh and joke around) with non related women, to me this is terribly wrong, to them it is Muttar L’chatchila. .

I do not believe that this can be a L’chatchila, especially if a Mikva is readily available.

From the Gemara it is obvious that this is not a L’chatchila.

his book. what ‘books’ did Satmar Rebbe write?

yichusdig,

As I mentioned, if that is the way it is done in your community, good for you.

This doesn’t mean that people of other communities should start following your menhagim.

avhaben,

They are trained to deal with people that have all sorts of issues. when Shalom Bayis is just a fight between both spouses, I dont know if they can help. However a lot of times it is because there are ‘issues’.

Therapists can help out with these issues.

They are taking life the easy way.

shmoel,

Can you please let us know from where you take that information?

As far as I know, most competent therapists will try to make things work. They get paid to make the shalom bayis work, success is if the couple can be helped and things work out.

You must agree that there are a lot of people that really have issues which make it very hard for someone to live with them.

The therapist will try to communicate with the troubled spouse. If however the troubled spouse refuses to open up to to be helped. The therapist might rightly so assist the couple to divorce, as staying together will result in a living hell for the couple.

Of course you have to be able to rule in or out a divorce, but I dont think that it is right to make such a blatant blanket statement.

The Government is not concerned about Kashrus.

Do you know if Reb Moshe himself drank Chalav ‘Stam’? what about his Family, did he serve it to guest that were at his house?

It is a nice story.

However, it does not indicate that Reb Moshe would L’chatchila shake a women’s hand.

What I think doesn’t really matter.

However, one should have common sense and only approach a Tora Authority that has Torah and seichel.

This I heard from Harav Avigdor Miller.

I do know of cases in which a RY that I am close with, does send some talmidim that contact him to professional help. He is ultra Chasiddish and has no problem sending them even if the therapist is a female.

Make sure that the person you turn to, really knows what he is doing and that he has seichel.

Harav Miller also said, that making sure to have close contact with a RY or Rav that is a talmid chacham and has seichel, is like an insurance policy should something go wrong in life.

I have heard both sides of the arguments already, I dont think that I or anyone can pasken on this. Something like this needs a gadol.

On one hand it might be a Mitzvah, on the other hand it had a direct result in the death of Jewish people as well as has angered a lot of nations which in result has cost many Jewish lives.

Besides, there might be other issues such as the Shalosh Shevous. Something like this, needs someone big to pasken.

I really think that it boils down to the community.

In some areas it is OK to great or talk to the opposite gender, in other communities it is unacceptable to do so.

Which way is the right one. I don’t think that it is up to some online posters to decide.

That said, there is no issue with people of the same gender to great each other. I feel sad when I see someone ignoring my greeting, I look at them as an not (yet) fully trained individual.

According to the poskim in kesubos, wearing pants is against Daas yehudis.

Even if there is no mekor to this idea, because the women don’t do it, it becomes Daas yehudis.

I thought that this thread was about giving men the gift oh having their own opinion.

You can substitute it with “since”.

If this is the only good thing that came out of the CR, Dayeinu!

.. Not working.

Yeah, but Daas yeshudis is measured by Jewish women. Not by the non Jewish world.

That in part explains why wigs were assur prior to the war, however after the war when Daas yehudis is no more shayich for wigs since all the Jewish women had their own hair. The sefardim on the other hand still have to deal with the Daas yehudis issue.

The fact hat Jewish women do not go with pants, makes it Daas yehudis.

Sam2,

Your right, however I would have never made the connection if you wouldn’t have pointed it out. Therefore I don’t think that this so bad.

I don’t think that “it’s not my day” is the right way of thinking.

..learns, studies and trolls!

You should talk to the counsler or HC. This is crazy there should be better ways to discipline children.

I Dont now how these people get away with doing such things.

oomis,

That is correct, we are in different times. However I dont think that it makes sense to argue that the way we dress has greatly been influenced by the modern world.

Further more, the modern world has taken the dress code to a new low.

I thought that you were in the DELETED Section. I looked at the EDITED section, all I saw was a bunch of Joseph’s..