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mra,
as one poster pointed out already, you should get a lawyer that specializes in these stuff.
bubka,
from where do you take those directions?
ACS can obtain a court order and take away the children by force. In fact Slamming the door on them will give them more evidence that you are hiding something from them.
This is how it usually works.
ACS will come and make an interview. they will ask as many questions as possible. they will look around the house. might even talk to the children.
The fact that you say that you heard something, does not mean much to them. A lot of people who know the system and abuse their children know how to handle ACS as well. This is unfortunate.
A lot of people who really do not abuse their children had a lot of headaches with ACS, most orthodox yidden get very exited when ACS knocks on their door, they shut the door start shouting.
ACS gets excited as well, what is this person hiding. They are not versed in the mentality of orthodox yidden.
However, if you really think that this is a legitimate case of abuse, I would suggest that you consult with a Torah Authority, so like that you know that even if it turns out that you did more harm than good, you have backing.
Most people do not know, ACS is not interested in keeping your children, they will work together with anyone who is willing to get help and return the children to the parents home.
kfb,
This is not not true, unless you are a mandatory reporter such as police officer or maybe a teacher you will not be prosecuted for not reporting. however most other people are not mandatory reporters.
The reason one should consult with COMPETENT Rav, is because calling ACS can ruin a family and their life forever. Therefore; before doing such a drastic move which can have drastic effects you should consult with a Rav that has knowledge of abuse and what the implications of abuse and calling ACS are.
You should discuss this with a Rav that you are sure knows how to handle such situations. (not every Rav knows how to deal with this).
Just so that you know, ACS has the potential of messing up someones reputation and life even if ACS finds that there is nothing wrong. (a case gets opened, and stays open for at least 6 months, afterwards there will always be record of the case).
Also, calling ACS for revenge or for personal reasons can get you in jail.
I know of an organization that follows a Ravs guidance, they have called ACS a lot of times. However they claim, that when you need them, they are ineffective, when you dont, they mess up the families life.
He should be sincere. If the tefila makes him smile, then be it.
I smell a WAT poster. Very similar to smartstar.
Just my 2scents
rabbiofberlin
It’s very interesting why you work so hard to cover up for Shlomo however you have no problem bashing frum Jews.
For the record, Frum Jews do NOT Molest children, someone that molests is not Frum.
Anyhow, the fact that he has kissed women is well known. whatever his reasoning for that would be is irrelevant.
yekke,
Lets say that what you are saying is true, how do you know that he meant is sarcastically?
Besides, you would be a fool if you think that Chassidshe Rebbes were not fully immersed in Tora.
mdd,
I cannot argue with you, since I do not have the Zohar in front of me, however I do remember seeing two people argue over the Zohar (they had the Mishne Berura which quotes the Zohar).
One was arguing that the real Pshat is to shave the hair and that is the way the Mishne Berura explains the Zohar, the other person explained that the real Pshat is not to shave.
Feif is Correct.
I have heard the same of a very close relative that is a ‘chosid’ of Shlome.
I have also heard the same from a known seforim store owner in Monsey (who considers himself a Carblach fan) that Shlome Carblach would often stop by his store, and start kissing and hugging women. He laughingly recounts how the chasiddshe ladies used get hysterical and start running to the door.
Last I checked, Wikipedia isn’t either that kind to Shlome Carblach.
Mammele,
It is a Chassidishe Minhag.
I once asked someone why Chasidishe women shave their hair, he told me it is a Zohar. The Zohar states that even if the hair is covered it should be cut.
He showed me that the Mishne Berura references this zohar. I do not remember where it is, however if this is important to you, I can try looking it up.
Yes it is true, the Mekor for this is in Zohar.
avhaben,
Interesting, what you consider Assur, others consider Muttar.
I have seen men shmooze (read: laugh and joke around) with non related women, to me this is terribly wrong, to them it is Muttar L’chatchila. .
Because that is the way Hashem created his world.
I do not believe that this can be a L’chatchila, especially if a Mikva is readily available.
From the Gemara it is obvious that this is not a L’chatchila.
BTW,
i did read the ‘book’ you are referring to. It is based on the Gemaras and Chazal.
I will not comment on which side is correct and which not, only that the Satmar Rav was a learned man and was in position to voice (what he held is) the position of Chazal.
his book. what ‘books’ did Satmar Rebbe write?
yentingyenta,
You might not be aware, however it is Assur for a man to walk behind a lady.
yichusdig,
As I mentioned, if that is the way it is done in your community, good for you.
This doesn’t mean that people of other communities should start following your menhagim.
Ok and share with us what the Chazon Ish says.
I wont have a Chazon Ish on hand this Shabbos.
avhaben,
They are trained to deal with people that have all sorts of issues. when Shalom Bayis is just a fight between both spouses, I dont know if they can help. However a lot of times it is because there are ‘issues’.
Therapists can help out with these issues.
Wolf,
All I can say is, personal experience.
They are taking life the easy way.
oomis1105,
That could very well be your opinion. However everyone is entitled to follow the ruling and hashkafa of their own community.
There are a number of communities that consider it inappropriate for members of the opposite gender to greet and chat. The fact that it doesn’t sit well with you, doesn’t bother them.
shmoel,
Can you please let us know from where you take that information?
As far as I know, most competent therapists will try to make things work. They get paid to make the shalom bayis work, success is if the couple can be helped and things work out.
You must agree that there are a lot of people that really have issues which make it very hard for someone to live with them.
The therapist will try to communicate with the troubled spouse. If however the troubled spouse refuses to open up to to be helped. The therapist might rightly so assist the couple to divorce, as staying together will result in a living hell for the couple.
Of course you have to be able to rule in or out a divorce, but I dont think that it is right to make such a blatant blanket statement.
This is about Halacha. where does Sinah come into the picture?
unless you are referring to those Police batting Yeshiva Bachurim..
The Government is not concerned about Kashrus.
Do you know if Reb Moshe himself drank Chalav ‘Stam’? what about his Family, did he serve it to guest that were at his house?
Holymoe, well written.
It is a nice story.
However, it does not indicate that Reb Moshe would L’chatchila shake a women’s hand.
What makes you think that Davening with Minyan is only a Chumra?
What I think doesn’t really matter.
However, one should have common sense and only approach a Tora Authority that has Torah and seichel.
This I heard from Harav Avigdor Miller.
I do know of cases in which a RY that I am close with, does send some talmidim that contact him to professional help. He is ultra Chasiddish and has no problem sending them even if the therapist is a female.
Make sure that the person you turn to, really knows what he is doing and that he has seichel.
Harav Miller also said, that making sure to have close contact with a RY or Rav that is a talmid chacham and has seichel, is like an insurance policy should something go wrong in life.
I second Sam2’s comment.
Results will not ONLY depend on him seeing you Daven good. It will need much more than that. At least its a step in the right direction.
I have heard both sides of the arguments already, I dont think that I or anyone can pasken on this. Something like this needs a gadol.
On one hand it might be a Mitzvah, on the other hand it had a direct result in the death of Jewish people as well as has angered a lot of nations which in result has cost many Jewish lives.
Besides, there might be other issues such as the Shalosh Shevous. Something like this, needs someone big to pasken.
Besides, I don’t think that it is sage to literally interpret a Gemara like that, the Gemara was written almost two thousand years ago, people had a different way of thinking and writing.
That is why we need the Meforshim to help us out.
I really think that it boils down to the community.
In some areas it is OK to great or talk to the opposite gender, in other communities it is unacceptable to do so.
Which way is the right one. I don’t think that it is up to some online posters to decide.
That said, there is no issue with people of the same gender to great each other. I feel sad when I see someone ignoring my greeting, I look at them as an not (yet) fully trained individual.
What makes you think that the fish actually spoke?
We all know that there was a fish, it jumped and someone shouted that the fish spoke. This is 80% of the story, so at least 80% is true.
According to the poskim in kesubos, wearing pants is against Daas yehudis.
Even if there is no mekor to this idea, because the women don’t do it, it becomes Daas yehudis.
Whats this Chalav Stam?!
Is it Chalav Akum?
Just a nice way of making it appear innocent.
I thought that this thread was about giving men the gift oh having their own opinion.
mommamia,
That’s why it is appropriate to say “we do not SHAKE hands with the opposite gender”.
You can substitute it with “since”.
Ragachovers Assistant,
You might consider your self funny, however your post is inappropriate.
If this is the only good thing that came out of the CR, Dayeinu!
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Yeah, but Daas yeshudis is measured by Jewish women. Not by the non Jewish world.
That in part explains why wigs were assur prior to the war, however after the war when Daas yehudis is no more shayich for wigs since all the Jewish women had their own hair. The sefardim on the other hand still have to deal with the Daas yehudis issue.
The fact hat Jewish women do not go with pants, makes it Daas yehudis.
It really depends on what your standard is.
I don’t think that you can calculated this, rather you have to see with time how to set your financial standard.
Sam2,
Your right, however I would have never made the connection if you wouldn’t have pointed it out. Therefore I don’t think that this so bad.
42,
Same here, I get annoyed when someone that asks a yes/no question leaves a VM. Just text it!
Also, when I am talkining to someone or busy, I choose not to pick up the phone. Sme people get upset about it, however since its my life and I pay the phone bill, I think I have a right to ignore the call.
This scenario really upsets me. I get a call, do not recognize he number, therefore I text the “?” , hey reply CALL ME, so thinking that this is urgent I call them. Then they have this little question, or are calling to invite me to this or that dinner. They could at least reply “call me when u have a chance”.