who ever you are you are deff not ready for dating restaurants are totally acceptable for a first date. If your too afraid to be seen than. You politely tell him that the place that your going to you not in the mood for and make a suggestion to another place where you would feel more comfortable with. Dating is a two way street, guys are not mind readers to know what places you will be seen or how far out they need to go so that you feel that you wont be seen. However the truth to the matter is that your in the dating world duh the chances of being seen are far greater than you think. In my view your not ready for dating!!!