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To the moderator: PLEASE remove the post stating people’s names. PURE loshon hara. Whatever happened to the rule that yeshiva world doesn’t post loshon hara?
thanks. -95
World Saver: I am one of those girls who said they would never marry a smoker, and guess what- I am married. It is ridiculous to say that everyone smokes. Many do smoke, and many don’t.
Jack Daniels: “but 2 break a shidduch for that seems stupid to me.”
I guess you never had the “zechus” to be at the levaya of a smoker who died of lung cancer, leaving behind a widow and young orphans, who will suffer because of his foolish mistake for the rest of their lives. Belive me, I was there, and continue to see this family suffer. NOT to break a shidduch for that seems stupid to me! Very stupid!
Why I bother: PS- I am married, B”H. It is common to say all yeshiva boys smoke, but that is not true. Yes, many smoke, but smart people who value their life, and know how to control their “taivos” can make it through yeshiva without smoking. I have 4 brothers, and 2 brothers in laws, all of whom never smoked. In my family, we grew up knowing that smoking is DISGUSTING, DUMB, AND DEADLY!
NEVER, NEVER, NEVER !!!!!!!!!!
I would never go near a smoker with a 20 foot pole. I would dump him before we could even walk out the front door! Of course, it never even came to a first date, because I did extensive research on each boy to find out the truth. I did not just take the shadchan’s word for it, I sent my own people to get the real scoop, and find out if he ever smoked, even years back.
I just finished the exams. Definitely do Becker – it is the best out there. I passed all 4 on my first try. One you register for an exam, you have 6 months to take it. You must pass all 4 within 18 months, so I suggest you take Financial first. It is on the most material, so it will take you the longest amount of time to study. The 18 months start ticking from when you pass your first exam. Good luck!
I failed 4 times! And now I am a perfect driver, and have never gotten a ticket or been involved in an accident in 3 years B”H. I ended up passing in Monsey. ( I lived in Brooklyn) I failed in Staten Island 3 times, and in Monsey once. So there is hope for everyone!
Whatever “ShlomoZalmen” is saying IS NOT the yeshivishe hashkafa. I don’t know what yeshiva he goes to, but when boys in Lakewood have their Chosson shmuess a few days before their wedding, they are told THE EXACT OPPOSITE of this.
Thank you for your whole long Dvar Torah and clarifying that the Chazon Ish was permitted to stay married. Thank you for your haskamah. That does not negate the fact that:
A. your comment is really insensitive to many people out there who are suffering enough without having to hear your hurtful, thoughtless words.
B. For about 50% of couples facing infertility, that is not going to change, no matter who the guy gets married to
Ben Torah: After 10 years of no children, a divorce is in order. (Yes, even in today’s day and age.)
Please do not call yourself a Ben Torah. Are you smarter than the Chazon Ish or Rav Simcha Wasserman? They didn’t have children either and remained married.
Besides for the fact that your comment is really insensitive to many people out there who are suffering enough without having to hear your hurtful, thoughtless words.
And lastly, for about 50% of couples facing infertility, that is not going to change, no matter who the guy gets married to.
THINK BEFORE YOU SPEAK!
If you think that falling in love with a guy = a succesful marriage that is WRONG. Marriages based on emotion fall apart. Because when real life confronts you, and things become complicated, Mr. Nice Guy becomes Mr. Tense and Stressed out…. What happened to that sweet guy you fell in love with? All the young couples who got divorced – did they not feel in love with the guy when they got engaged? Some people may have been pushed into a shidduch, buy many people got engaged to the wrong people simply because they fell in love. Getting engaged has two components – feeling a connection (love), and logically evauluating if you two share common goals, and can last in a marriage, through thick and through thin. The second component is just as important as the first, if not more important.
Midwest 2- you may think that this is a site for adults, but from my own experience, I can tell you that I know alot more teenagers reading this site than adults. They have a lot more free time! Perhaps Yeshiva World should put up a poll, regarding which age groups read the Coffee Room. You may be suprised.
I agree this thread has serious issues which adults are facing, this is why it should be brought up with a mentor, Rav or Rebbetzin. It can be done anonymously- over the phone, instead of asking a bunch of Joe Shmoes (myself, included) for advice on a serious matter.
And lastly, there are plenty of other so called “Jewish sites” on the internet for blogging about such topics. A site that calls themselves Yeshiva World, and supposedly follows directions of Rabbanim should not be opening such a forum.
To the moderator- You call this Yeshiva World? Which Rabbanim are allowing you to publish an open forum about arayos, with men and women discussuing this between each other? And then we move on to gay’s rights? Do you know that children are reading this? And it is just as harmful for adults too!