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So its better for kids to grow up in a house with zero shalom bais and constant fighting than for the parents to get divorced?
If custody is automatically given to the mother, then a resounding yes. If father get custody as often as mothers, and all boys over 6 live with their father as per Halocho, then the answer to your question matan1, maybe reluctantly, no.
BaalHabooze
On the rocks
I personally knew of a very choshuv Rosh Yeshiva years ago who would stand by the Beis Medrash door before Shabbos Mincha and send any bochur not wearing a tie back to his dorm room. The “tieless look” is no more than a mishigas and laziness. It is still Shabbos at that time, no reason to dress down.
It sounds as if what I said on my earlier comment is in sync with this Rosh Yeshiva. After all, since when do we observe Availus bFarhesyo on Shabbos? It is unfortunate that some big shots passed away on a Shabbos afternoon, but this is no license to treat Shabbos afternoon casually.
Does this Rosh Yeshiva send Bochurim back to their dorm room, if they are wearing a Bow tie?
Nothing wrong with getting annoyed.
Do you remember the Possuk in Mattos:- “vaYiktzof Moshe”? So if Moshe Rabbeinu could get mad & is still Moshe Rabbeinu, Kal v’Chomer that we have license to get mad.
Pearl Harbor was all day on my mind yesterday, and indeed both 12/7 & 9/11 should be public holidays, to give Americans more time to reflect & mourn.
Needless to say, I shall never forget 9/11, as I witnessed the actual aircraft into the 2nd WTC.
If 12/7 & 9/11 are not options:- How about Kisslev 5th? & Ellul 23rd?
The correct version is “Good Shabbos” or/& “Good Erev Shabbos”.
The teacher had no right to hold your arms and remove your shoes.
You were physically assaulted, and should hire a competent attorney and sue the teacher & the school for having been assaulted and touched you.
The way you were handled/touched is simply not acceptable.
Wear all your Shabbos attire until after Havdoloh. Some opinions hold even until after Melave Malka, but at any rate, surely until after Havdoloh.
This business of only dressing up for Shul on Shabbos morning, but not for Friday nite nor the remainder of Shabbos after services have concluded on Shabbos morning, unfortunately is very misguided & secular to say the least.
Shabbos garb is not to impress your fellow Shul goers, but to honor Shabbos & thus to honor haShem, and indeed, even if you are on desert island for Shabbos, the Halocho is very clear, that you must still wear Shabbos attire.
My plans for Chanukah 5770 was acknowledging the fact that that was the last time for 17 years that having 2 Shabbosos Chanukah, and my plan for Chanukah 5773 is acknowledging the fact that this is the 1st time in 20 years that having 2 Chanukah Motzei Shabbos.
No problem whatsoever. ….. Let your grandparents enjoy Nachas from having all their grandchildren gather together, and please gather again with all your cousins on Seder nite to give Nachas to your grandparents, and how about having a Shovu’os nite program altogether, so that your grandparents can have Nachas from having all the grandchildren learning together overnight with cheesecake.
BaalHabooze
When I was a bochur in yeshiva, someone once said over in the name of Rabbi Avigdor Miller zt”l that he felt people rely too much on their daily coffee and it can be detrimental (note what happens by a fast day to coffee addicts).
I love the taste of coffee, and B’H don’t have any withdrawal symptoms whatsoever on a Tzom when I cannot consume coffee.
BTW I won’t go anywhere near near tea of any description. I thinks tea tastes & smells awful.
PLONIALMONI4
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FYI. This is not a Catholic based web site.
Please PLONIALMONI4 don’t mention catholics on this forum which really sullies this forum. If you must mention another religion, then mention Hindus. They have far less Jewish blood on their hands than do the catholics.
Stay married & enjoy the perks of marriage, as well as fulfilling all 36 edicts in the Torah to love a Ger.
This is also one of the 10 commandments of marriage as per the tapes of Rav Avigdor Miller ZT’L.
zahavasdad
I think you need to see a therapist, forget about him YOU need to see one.
You “always runs with scissors fast” don’t need a therapist; All you need is a loving & decent spouse, and get yourself back into a good & normal & happy marriage, and this will be a far healthier potion for you, than all the therapists in the world combined together.
The quicker they are legalized, the quicker people will stop shooting for these drugs, and the quicker that their prices will drop from these crazy prices since they are currently are illegal.
The only bad part is, that since US customs officers will then not be on the look out for these drugs, they will have more time on their hands to bother we legal travelers with mundane things like slightly too many gifts or an agricultural product.
The bottom line is, that each & every time I arise for the Amidah, I always close the button on my jacket, because there is considered Kovodik, so what better time to dress at the absolute most Kovodik, than when addressing the Ribbono Shel Olom. The Amidah is surely more important than for attending an interview.
Needless to say, I also close the button on my jacket for other very formal occasions, like lighting Chanukiyah, holding Arba Minim, arsing for the 10 commandments & the Shirah.
By Kiddush it doesn’t work out, as I have to sit down to drink the wine, and for Tekias Shofor this is a mute point, as I am wearing my Kittel.
When is it time to divorce? NEVER!! Stay Married!!
When you break the glass under the Chuppa, make sure to utilize the heel of your shoe, and not the front part.
Also, do not wear a new pair of shoes for actual Chasunah day, as not conducive to dance in a new pair of shoes.
I finally procured her biography from Artscroll, on Cyber Monday, @34% discount.
My only question was whether one is allowed to utilize the Chukas haGoy of Cyber Monday &/or Black Friday for a Jewish pursuit?
MDG
“Halachically, one must make every effort to patronize a Jewish company, especially a company that makes such strides to be Shomer Shabbos. ”
You MDG are 100% correct, and this Halocho is derived from Parshas BeHar. Kol haKovod to you MDG for stating what verily is the Halocho, and shame on anyone especially who so publicly violate this Halocho.
yehudayona:- I daven Nusach Ashkenaz in a Nusach Sefard shul. I have no problem following the davening with my Ashkenaz machzor except for the avodah. The shul provides leaflets with the Sefard avodah so we Nusach Ashkenaz people can follow.
1) You yehudayona are a very smart fellow to still pray Nusach Ashkenaz, despite your Shul doing otherwise, because Nusach Ashkenaz is simply the best.
2) As far as your leaflets, if you come equipped with a Machzor Rabba, it contains both Nusach Ashkenaz & Nusach Sephard for the Avodo:- One above the dividing line, and the other below the dividing line.
zahavasdad
Rav Kook was a charedi jew and a Zionist and one of the greatest leaders we have ever had
Satmar has a lot to learn from this Tzaddik Gomur, on a day when they had the audacity to vilify Israel, and El Al Airlines, and patronize Delta, and try to show disdain to a fair & just electoral system in Israel, even fairer than in the USA, where in Israel the popular vote is what counts.
El Al does wonderful Chassodim for the Jewish people, especially Lo Oleinu, for the deceased always facilitating immediate Kevuroh in Eretz Yisroel. I always fly with El Al, even when they are more expensive than Delta, as I want my hard earned money to go to a Jewish & Shomer Shabbos company.
first baby…advice?!! Get yourself 5 silver Selo’im, so you can buy him back from the Kohen, and won’t already forfeit & loose your adorable baby after only 30 days.
Next:- Get yourself a good naming book, in case some wonderful names slip your minds.
I was shocked to read how Satmar would have made a block booking on Delta, thereby diverting business from an authentic Jewish company:- El Al; Especially after we have just read their name of El Al in the Haftoroh of “veAmi Selu’im liMeshuvosi”
Halachically, one must make every effort to patronize a Jewish company, especially a company that makes such strides to be Shomer Shabbos.
So here is a brilliant solution:- Just invest approximately $18 per month for membership onto JWed {Formerly Frumster} and when you get married thru them, as have over 1000 other couples, you won’t owe any Shadchonus nor escrow fees to anyone, and are far likelier to end up married & in a good marriage.
During the repetition, say the well-known piyutim of Dagul Merevavah, etc. (those that are said by everyone and/or responsively)
Actually FYI reb Doniel, Dagul Merevavah is not said by all, as Western European Nusach does not recite Dagul Merevavah.
Since you mention that you have electricity as well as education, use your electricity to boot up your computer, and your education to utilize your computer to go onto a Jewish dating site such as Frumster or/& Orthodate, and find your predestined mate on the web site.
HaShem who rules the world as you stated, will also rule who happens to notice your profile on the computer, and whose profiles you notice & touch base with, so you do your Hishtadlus by getting on the computer today already, and haShem shall chart the course of events on the computer for you to meet your Bashert expeditiously.
Zerizim Makdimim l’Mitzvos
B’H I was Zoche to the best deal ever on a Black Friday, with my only daughter ever, being born on Black Friday several years ago, despite B’H several sons.
If we became 50 separate counties, this would entail numerous border control {including each time we cross the Hudson River}, and very limited choice of locations to reside in, if each state then has its own immigration quotas, and is closed to citizens of other states.
Mr. Mustard: There is only 1 place you’ll ever need to deal with:- Tefillin Beth El; They are simply wonderful, impeccable Kashrus standard, and very courteous & easy to deal with.
When I was in Israel during the 1980’s, The Rabbonim at my Yeshiva recommended me to go there, and I have been dealing with them ever since, including all of my sons’ Bar-Mitzwah Tefillin.
I used to go in person, but with the advancement of technology, you can do everything with them over their website.
I already gave out my candy on Simchas Toroh.
Meanwhile B’H Sandy has defused the celebrations pertaining this pagan holiday.
Thank you ybrooklynteacher for your correction. As for you goldersgreener, I respect your opinion on this forum, and likewise you respect my opinion on this forum.
May these 2 Auerebach Brothers be blessed with many healthy & content years.
I was Zoche to meet their late Father ZT’L on numerous occasions.
he described as someone watching his mother burn and warming himself up by the fire. Ironic that you Mrs. Katz bring up this incident approximate;y 1 week after Gemorro in Shabbos Perek 2 on Daf Yomi cycle, which discusses someone who literally burnt up his mother-in-law.
Rav Shmuel Auerbach {Rav Shlomo Zalman’s son} recently got engaged to his niece in-law; i.e. His late wife & her late husband were blood uncle & niece.
Mind you, I would consider their 17 year age gap more disturbing than their being related.
because doing so would lose him his ??? in ???? ??? as I know personally from my experience in the past. Could you King Bob XV please elaborate on what you imply by personal experience? Do you know exactly the workings about Olom haBo? & the 6 questions & judgement upstairs? If you have such personal experience of the workings up there, you are the most sought after speaker & mentor in this world, and my Synagogue would certainly like to invite you to preach us, possibly even on R’H &/or Y’K.
This man is a Jekke who grew up in Washington Heights.
I refer you to the “uNesaneh Tokef” which was recited at my Synagogue yesterday 6 weeks ago, listing several of these natural disasters, as well as those which we all recited during Zichronos, yesterday 6 weeks ago.
If the girl is not receiving that many dates, there is more chance that she will appreciate you & wish to marry you, than a girl who has already got her eyes on the next guy lined up for her.
Furthermore, both a girl & a boy, at the end of the day, only need 1 Shidduch:- Period!!
As for the overworked Shadchonim:- So go on a Jewish Dating website, & do your own research & Hishtadlus. These websites are doing a very wonderful service to the Jewish Community, and B’H producing many wonderful & Happy marriages including “& they lived happily ever after” scenarios.
& BTW, nowadays, more & more Shadchonim are also keeping their records on the computer & also networking on websites with other Shadchonim, so what is the difference if you would do the networking instead of the already overworked Shadchan?
avhaben:- The Minjan is only required for the Nissuin.
The Kiddushin only requires 2 Kosher Eidim. The Messader Kiddushin could also double function as 1 of the 2 Eidim, and failing that, the Chosson can recite the Birkas Kiddushin, since it really is the Chosson’s Berocho, but not to embarrass a Chosson who cannot read Ivrit, this Berocho is nowadays always recited by a Messader Kiddushin.
Hi! Does anyone know of shadchanim in the New York area that deal with a mixed type of shidduchim? I should hope that all Shadchanim are dealing with mixed marriages between a man & a woman.
If Chas vSholom they are not dealing with mixed marriage, but the other tragic type of set up whose terminology I will not debase myself to mention on this forum, we are then in the midst of a spiritual tragedy.
I met my spouse over the internet, so compatibility can absolutely be determined from an internet posting.
The 1st thing that you WIY as well as everyone else should have done, is stay off the road, to have the roads vacated & clear for emergency vehicles & for clear-up.
Even if they did push off the Chasunoh:-
1) Better late than never.
2) Still far better than all the numerous singles out there.
3) Maybe the wedding date was set “Al Tenai” of no unforeseen circumstances, in which case it would be a non-issue to alter the wedding date.
The old city of Tzefas is very beautiful & quaint.
Furthermore, since I have procured a plot at the Old Cemetery of Tzefas, it would be conveniently nearby.
I sat twice at a lecture of Rav Avigdor Miller ZTKLLH’H, where he pulled out of his pocket a newspaper cut out, from the Chicago Tribune, which listed the 10 wealthiest people {I don’t recall if the 10 wealthiest US Citizens or 10 wealthiest in the world} some 10 years earlier, and then a follow up of these same 10 people some 10 years later:- Some of them were in Latin America running away from their debts, and others were divorced, and others were in jail, and others were on the poverty line.
And Rav Ovadia Yosef shlita said they really should be marring polyganously today. Even the Vilna Gaon wanted to reinstate polygany among Ashkenazim.
These 2 Gedolim clearly are/were very concerned about the Shidduch crisis, and very much in touch with reality, and clearly fathomed & understand/understood, that re-institution of Polygamy would work wonders in solving the devastating Shidduch crisis, especially for so many older single women, let alone for many older widows.
Not a death sentence for people who own stock in airlines.
After Rav Yisroel haLevi Reisman’s Nach Shiur 2 nites ago:- How could anyone not get married? & once married:- How could anyone not stayed married?
I would certainly get married but only 2 factors are preventing me from getting married:- 1) I am already married; 2) Despite the passage of 1 millennium, somehow people still seem to observe Rabbi Gershom’s Cherem against polygamy.
My sole & only concern:- How shall Sandy impact on the US Presidential election outcome?
YW Moderator-42 BeHab is the next 2 Mondays, so your synagogue goofed with the wrong dates.
Meanwhile:- “veNishmartem Me’oed l’Nafshoseichem” is a Chiyuv miDeoiraisso, where as attending a Minyan is at most miDeRabbonon.