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I understood the issue in a different way. Until now the courts looked at what is best for the child. Now it appears that if what is best for the child may violate a mother’s legal right then you can’t force the mother to lose that right.
If this is correct then this is not just a religious issue.Fresh hot chicken soup
I heard from a reliable person that if snow isn’t shoveled it becomes a Bor b’reshus harabim (ditch in a public thoroughfare)
This then becomes an obligation on every individual because the halacha is everybody has an obligation to remove a bor.
So start shoveling.
FYI ask your posek but you might be able charge the homeowner for the cost of removal of the snow, even though the homeowner didn’t put the snow there.
IN MY OPINION consult you’re doctor before you start
A lot depends why you’re losing weight health, cosmetic shidduchim etc.
It also depends how much you are overweight and need to lose.
I offer the following suggestions
1. do this under the care of your physician see him/her before you start, talk it over and perhaps you may want to go back during and after you lose your desired weight.
2. You must have a partner, a person close to you on board, you can’t do this alone. Your spouse/parent/roomate etc. must be there to support you, help, and give encouragement.
3. Dieting is expensive and takes time. You need to buy and eat certain foods that might cost more than you usually spend, they need to be prepared properly to make them enjoyable to eat, and you need to eat at the appropriate time and pace. You also need to take the time to excercise consistently.
4. Do not drink soda perion only setzer or water, do not eat after 7:00PM only soup or drink, take the time to eat three healthy meals a day, try to eat five fruits a day, drink a cup of dry red wine a day, only whole wheat bread or pasta and only one meal a day, no cake, candy, Pick one day a month to cheat usually rosh chodesh but then fast in the morning to cleanse your system and go back on the diet. eat before you go to a simcha at night and then tell the bal simcha not to set you a place but you’re coming to share their simcha Fish is very healthy as well as chicken. Do not mix carbs with protien as much as you can. If you like pizza eat two slices for an ealy supper and then nothing till the next morning. If you go to a kiddush don’t eat, remember you have healthy food at home that will fill you up. If you need a snack keep enticing looking fruit available for impulse eating. Shabbos eat whole wheat one slice, 2 bowl of chicken soup leaas everything else, salmon or white fish instead of gefilte, and limit the kugels.
good luck
My child told me, you gave birth to me and I grew up in our house either way I can blame you
Well how do you eat corn on the cob?
I know two people who did this and the next boy they met they married.
They went to the kever of the person they were named after, and said tehillim. What exactly they said I do not know.
Good Luck
My wife and I were zocheh to make a shidduch a few years ago, since then we have only suggested 3 or 4 more, (none worked out). As much as we would like to suggest more of them we find that the people really don’t appreciate the time and effort we put in to trying to make it happen. A professional shadchen can suggest a name and talk for a few minutes and hang up. As a friend or relative we try to sell the boy and girl which takes time, each side pumps us for info which takes even more time and then if they go out we get a call at 8 or 9 in the morning (when we have to get everybody out) it takes even more time. And if at the end they is a flat out no by either side ( sometimes in my opinion for the stupidest reasons) my wife and I looked at each other and said “who needs this”. Then people wonder why there is a shiduch crisis.
I believe that the parents and their children need to understand that when a private individual suggests a shidduch they are doing it as chessed and should appreciate it even when it doesn’t work out.
I would strongly suggest that both the girl and the boy should commit to give at least two dates, and not be quick to say no. There are many people who wanted to say no after a date and for one reason or another were pressured into another date and today they are happily married.
One story sticks in my mind from a chasiddshe rav in flatbush from when he dated 50 years ago. He went to pick up the girl, in those days the girls usually worked at a very physically demanding job to help support the family. As soon as she got into the car she fell asleep, he did not know what to do, in those days you couldn’t park on the side of the road with a girl, so he drove around for hours until she woke. They were zocheh to have bunim ubenai bunim.
If you made a commitment to two dates you have to keep your word. You do not have to spend a lot of money, but you must treat the girl with dignity and respect.
By the way there are many married couples today, that one party or another did not want to go out again after a first date, and for one reason or another they did, so do not jump to conclusions.
1 If you gave a commintment you are obligated to keep it, nothing to discuss, next time do not commit
2 Anybody in chinuch will tell you, if you started learning with someone or starting dorming with someone and you think after two or three hours with the person (a usual date length) it is not working out you should give it more time see if it will work out this is not any different
3 The girl obviously spent time and money to come in based on your word, should someone in business invest on your word?
4 I know several people that are married to because either the boy or the girl had commited to another date even though they felt the other party was not for them
5 Lastly you are doing yourself a disservice by saying no after one date, you never know maybe she was tired from the traveling, or something else happened that she was not up tp her usual self.
6 BOTTOM LINE YOU SHOULD HAVE GONE OUT AGAIN