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You do everything because there is a stigma of not doing it, or because there is social pressure to do it, or because you feel like everyone else is doing it. You never make your own choices. You’re letting a million strangers live your life for you.
nobody said you need to make yourself listen or force yourself to peer pressure. if you give in to them your only ruining yourself & your freedom of choice
It’s a good thing. Hashem created people this way to help them do the right thing. All you have to do is put yourself in the right crowd.
Of course, it’s best to do it for the right reason. However, until you reach that level, doing it to fit in is terrific. It is very detrimental that people nowadays totally discount anything that is not done for the best reason. I wish I could say I only did the right thing always, even if it was “just” because of yiras haonesh or so I could maintain my place in society.
I only do things I want to do & I’m not embarrassed when my friends do something & I don’t do it.
don’t let your life be run & bossed around by others. You have the choice & are smart enough to make your own decisions what is best for you & your own family.
i.e. that’s why people are broke today. cause they feel peer pressure to have 3 cars with 3 vacations a year & then wonder why they go broke. live with what YOU NEED not with what YOU WANT.
Like All midos, this tendency is neither inherently good nor inherently bad.
It can be used in a positive way (such as disliking dogs – which, btw, I do because I want to) or ch”v a negative way (like smoking).
I was just pointing out that it has great power that can be harnessed for a very good purpose.
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