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Good job NY Mom!!
3 cheers for ny mom!
in many heimishe stores in boro park there are signs hanging in the dressing room (from bnos melachim i believe) very nicely reminding the buyer to check if the item they are trying on is truly tzniusdig. i recall one sign reminding you to sit down to make sure the skirt covers your knees at all times.
NY Mom, That is seriously awesome, You are an inspiration.
If this is the place to get support for trying to be tzniut, I have something to share. I know my size and I usually just buy clothes without trying them on, but today I actually tried on a dress to see if it will reach my knees. It was so pretty. Yet short. 🙁 And I didn’t buy it. I don’t plan on getting it. But it was so pretty. 🙁 I’ve bought short dresses in the past and added material to the bottom, but this wouldn’t work with the style of the dress. I really liked it. 🙁
good for you jewess!!
Jewess, keep up the good work!
Thanks. You guys are so sweet. I’m far from a saint, but I’m trying to wear clothes as close to my knees as possible. 😉
jewess, the next step is to get rid of the 🙁 and make a 🙂 because nobody is forcing you to leave the dress on the rack, YOU made the choice, and imo you made a wise choice. You go girl!
so you really deserve to 🙂 Be happy with your choice!
what do you ladies feel about slinky skirts. any problems with those?
“Come on, ladies! Anyone else want to share their difficulties or struggles?”
Hi NY Mom,
I don’t feel comfortable discussing these personal issues in a forum that is almost certainly read by men, so please don’t feel I (or others, if this applies to them) don’t support such an important topic and your (and others’) powerful contributions. I’m cheering all of you on in the background!
ya know what question, I happen to be wearing a slinky skirt right now – and asked myself the same question this morning.
It is safe to assume that the answer at least for me is yes. Is this skirt tziusdik? I think so – Do I look professional to go to the office? I think so –
My skirt while slinky is not so form fitting and clingy, and yet not so loose to look sloppy.
Before I worry so much about the clothes I wear I had to get more comfortable in my own skin, ya know? I also don’t care anymore about what the other women in the community are wearing.
i personally find 2 problems with slinky skirts. i do have a friend that has a slinky type skirt, however, it is made from a thicker material ( though still light weight) and therefore doesnt hang the same way or stretch out so fast.
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Nothing intrinsically improper, but what is proper for a group of women, is not necessarily proper when a group of men are onlookers.
I don’t even want to write this, but do you really want men reading about how clingy skirts are clinging more in this area than that? I really don’t think so.
As a male, and one who is forced to read the posts here in order to keep things proper, I am beginning to feel quite uncomfortable about a discussion that should be open to women readers only.
I am going to close this thread, unless there are serious objections to this by a number of female posters. If it does stay open, I will no longer moderate it but will leave it to the other moderators.
I really do think it should be closed though, useful as it is. The other males here should not be reading this.
That would help
Still I would like to hear what others think.
Mod80, I would leave it open. This thread already inspired some better tznius. Arent there any female mods? If not, time to hire one! Also maybe change the title to read women only?
Very glad to hear it!
There are female mods but that would not solve the problem of the thousands of males who frequent these forums (only a very few actually post)
Hmm…with a warning lik women only, that would keep the men who care out. Really, do they care about material types?
Is that interesting to them?
You have to understand the nature Hashem put into men.
If better tznius is being inspired, we’ll keep it open. The moderators will have to become more careful.
And NY Mom (or anyone else) please email me at [email protected] if you catch something we missed.
Mod, I get it.
It’s part of why I have little to no interest in threads such as the CR parties, etc. If I need that kind of camaraderie, input, etc. I get it from women only forums.
Does anyone have opinions on open necks? I think it seems to be a big problem.
Collar bone (and everything below) should be covered.
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I’m with Tzippi.
Mod80, I do see things that are not appropriate for open viewing, but do not feel comfortable emailing it to you. I know my husband would be horrified to know I am discussing these things on an open forum. Is there a female mod who can serve as a contact?
Okay. Let me rephrase that. Is the problem open collars that show the collar bone, or do you object to any buttons unbuttoned?
NY Mom, one can also buy a dickie (blouse or turtleneck collar) to wear under tops like those.
You are right chops, However, keeping the top button open of a blouse may look with it but one is oiver a lav
by the way a great idea for open necks is a bobby pin! you make a seam at each side and stick in a bobbby pin to hold it, I’m not sure how clear that is but if you get what i mean it’s much neater than a safety pin and it’s not a problem with getting the shirt on and off
NY Mom, I never thought of having snaps added between buttons. I usually just wear a cami under blouses that don’t stay closed.
Estherh which “lav” are you “oiver” when keeping the top button of a blouse open. Am I “oiver” on two if I keep two buttons open?
If the top button is high enough, then leaving it open isn’t a problem.
I think it EVERY women should wear a shell/under shirt under ANY shirt. Whether it be a blouse, t-shirt, ect. To me it seems like common sense but to others it apparently isn’t
shaatra, why? Even a turtleneck?
Before I went to seminary, I sewed snaps on almost all my shirts. It made things so much easier – I still wore a shell, but I didn’t have to worry about my collar bones.
Since safety pins are annoying, my new “shtick” now is a necklace – (only works for a collared shirt) underneath the collar – closes off the top of the shirt and doesn’t look bad!! Of course you have to make sure the chain is short enough that it’s actually encircling your neck, but I think (of course, I’m biased….) it’s a very good alternative.
Nobody answered me about the Lav. does anyone know what a Lav is? by the way Shaatra, how shaatra are you? do you wear double shirts while you are making kibbe?
SJS: I didn’t mean it for color bone reasons! I think ppl should wear under shirts so no one has to see your ‘undergarment’ and how big ur stomach is, and what ur belly button looks like! NOT for tzniut reasons, I am talking about goyim as well! Next time u wear ur turtle neck, put a shirt under, you’ll see how nicer you look.
Chops: I seriously have no idea what u mean. Please explain your self
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