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  • #1175318
    Sparkly
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    yekke2 – the guy i asked about is a good frum boy who tries not talking to girls he ONLY knows me thru my brother.

    #1175319
    Sparkly
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    lilmod ulelamaid – thank you for knowing what im talking about while others think they know what im saying but ONLY you do! so thanks for that! Thanks for the advice.

    #1175320
    Sparkly
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    yekke2 – what do you mean by rabbi isnt legitimate?

    #1175321
    Lilmod Ulelamaid
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    Sparkly – You’re welcome! And thanks for the positive feedback!!! Appreciation is nice! 🙂

    Hatzlacha in all your endeavors!

    When the guys do come back, you might want to think of one gvul to set for yourself as a New Year’s Resolution. Make sure it is small and easy enough that you can keep to it.

    That’s just a suggestion – do what you feel is best for you.

    Hatzlacha with the new semester!

    #1175323
    Chortkov
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    Sparkly – If he is a nice frum Jewish boy who doesn’t like talking to girls, then do him a favour and don’t talk to him!

    Lilmod – Thank you for your wonderful explanations. You do seem to have sensible, practical advice, and we appreciate that. My comments before were not intended as advice; I would never read something like that into somebodys question. I guess I’ve been in the CR long enough to decide [with a healthy dose of cynicism] when a poster truly wants the advice I can give, or when I don’t think its necessary.

    #1175324
    Chortkov
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    yekke2 – the guy i asked about is a good frum boy who tries not talking to girls he ONLY knows me thru my brother.

    Sparkly – I’m sure you wrote above that a boy can still be frum even if he talks to girls, and that there is nothing wrong with male/female social interaction?

    #1175325
    Lilmod Ulelamaid
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    yekke2: “Sparkly – I’m sure you wrote above that a boy can still be frum even if he talks to girls, and that there is nothing wrong with male/female social interaction?”

    I heard a story about a professor who taught something that contradicted something he had taught 50 years before. When that was pointed out to him, he said, “Good. So I’m a growing person, and I don’t remain stuck where I was 50 years ago.”

    Maybe Sparkly doesn’t believe in standing still and she has grown since she wrote the last post.

    (yekke2, please take this post the way it is meant and not as a criticism/contradiction to your post)

    #1175326
    Sparkly
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    lilmod ulelamaid – funny part is i saw him at school and he was the one who said hi to me so i said hi back. so he answered the question himself!

    #1175327
    Sparkly
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    yekke2 – he doesnt go around hanging around with girls. his a good frum boy.

    #1175328
    Sparkly
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    #1175329
    Chortkov
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    Goodness, why didn’t you say you are ready to marry of him? That does change everything.

    Incidentally, it is also assur for a boy who “keeps shomer” to interact socially with girls.

    #1175330
    Lilmod Ulelamaid
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    Sparkly – It’s great that you are looking for a guy who is shomer. Amongst other things, you have a better chance of having a good marriage that way!

    #1175331
    Sparkly
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    lilmod ulelamaid – yes it is! especially since his in a typical yeshiva and technically a typical frum boy but he loves doing stuff that mo boys do without breaking shomer, or hanging out with girls! so its exactly what i need! so its a perfect shidduch!

    #1175332
    Sparkly
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    yekke2 – im waiting for the shadchan to set us up tho unfortunately… and he keeps saying his not ready to get married yet h’h soon he will be and then the shidduch will hopefully work h’h.

    #1175333
    Chortkov
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    can you say hi to a guy that your family friends with at college?

    especially since his in a typical yeshiva and technically a typical frum boy but he loves doing stuff that mo boys do without breaking shomer, or hanging out with girls!

    #1175334
    Lilmod Ulelamaid
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    Sparkly: “lilmod ulelamaid – yes it is! especially since his in a typical yeshiva and technically a typical frum boy but he loves doing stuff that mo boys do without breaking shomer, or hanging out with girls! so its exactly what i need! so its a perfect shidduch!”

    Sounds great! Are we still talking about your brother’s friend whom you wanted to know if you could say hello to?

    #1175335

    Yekke2- I have never spoken to you but from these posts I have to say I loveee your answers and how bluntly you state them. Right on chabibi!!

    Sparkly- I’m taking out a point that no one touched upon as of yet. You say that you would want it to be a shidduch for u .that meqns u have feelings for this guy. I don’t think saying hi is assur but you might be doing it in a flirtatious way or trying to Catch his attention being that u like him.

    #1175336
    Sparkly
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    lilmod ulelamaid – same guy. i did say he didnt talk to girls. so how did he say hi to me if he didnt know me thru my brother and doesnt talk to girls?

    #1175337
    Sparkly
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    Happygirlygirl – i told someone that i liked him and try to make it NOT obvious that i do and she said that i do a good job at that and that you cant tell that i like him. its as if im some random girl to him. so it is tznius b’h.

    #1175338
    Chortkov
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    HGG – Thank you. I generally try not to be so blunt, but I need to keep the balance here. Lilmoid Ulelameid is one of the nicest posters i’ve seen here, and she seems determined to read the best into everything. Doing so requires taking everything on absolute face value. I’m just balancing things out by reading between the lines a bit, and at times, speaking between the lines…

    I think Syag thinks I was too direct, which is bad, because Syag is generally right about these things </sad face>…

    #1175339
    Lilmod Ulelamaid
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    Yekke2: “Lilmoid Ulelameid is one of the nicest posters i’ve seen here”

    Thanks! 🙂

    #1175340
    Sparkly
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    why are their soooooo many bjj and bnos sarah girls that go to my college?!?! (not being sarcastic) i have a girl from one of those seminaries in my class not saying which class!

    #1175341
    Lilmod Ulelamaid
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    Sparkly – well why are you there? Maybe they are there for the same reasons.

    For your sake, I’m glad that there are so many Frum girls in your college. I had thought you were in a goyish out-of-town college, so I hadn’t expected that!

    #1175342
    Sparkly
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    lilmod ulelamaid – what do you mean by that? that i was bording at a not jewish college? how would that be if i saw a guy who lives at a yeshiva and goes to that yeshiva and goes to my college?!?!

    #1175343
    Lilmod Ulelamaid
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    Who said anything about boarding? I thought you lived in an apartment or something.

    #1175344
    Sparkly
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    lilmod ulelamaid – could be NOT saying where i live ONLY said not boarding at college.

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