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As you likely noticed, when you see a frum husband and wife in the front seats of a car or other motor vehicle you will generally see, in the vast majority of the times, the husband in the driver’s seat. This is even the case among frum families where women are permitted to drive.
Why do you think this is the case?
(Note to Wolf: Yes, we know, sometimes your wife drives you.)
Because men are just the chauffeurs. Women have stuff to do, so they do other things in the car that can’t be done while driving.
Jealous?
car or other motor vehicle
Motorcycle? School bus?
Joseph………………..
There are many reasons why this may occur in some families. it leaves the mother free to attend to the needs of small children in the car.
I think that you will find this more common in ONE car families.
Those living OOT or the suburbs where the norm is that there is a car for each driver, may fit the CTL family pattern. If we are in Reb CTL’s vehicle, I drive. If we are in Mrs. CTL’s vehicle she drives. This past Thursday, last single Miss CTL asked me to to the shopping mall with her. It was a 90 degree, sunny day. We went in her convertible with the top down, she drove, I was the passenger.
BTW>>>she told me that as she is getting married this summer she wants to enjoy the feeling of the sun and wind in her hair while she can. She’ll be trading in the convertible for a married lady’s car suitable for hauling groceries, etc. before the chasunah this summer.You’ve made me laugh again.
Ive seen Rav Yisroel Neuman get into a car. His wife was the driver. He went into the passenger side
If you travel anywhere near Willy or BP, you will frequently see the woman in the driver’s seat dropping off her husband at the shul or subway station with the kids in the back; I’m sure its different in Lakewood and Monsey but in the City, there are fewer frum families with their own cars, and among those probably a greater percentage of women dirvers.
I see lots of women drivers in the frum neighborhoods in the city and fewer on the occasions wt drive through Monsey or in Lakewood…that’s my experience…you have yours. Perhaps you have done a traffic survey so share your sources.
hey, what happened to rebbyid23’s parentheses?
Let us look at the words of the great Gaon and Tzaddik, Rabbi Zilberstein shlita, and the great Gaon and Tzaddik, one of the poskei hador, the Shevet Halevi: http://www.theyeshivaworld.com/news/headlines-breaking-stories/398088/rav-yitzchak-zilberstein-says-women-should-not-drive-as-it-compromises-tzniyus.html
Why derail the topic? Start a NEW topic if you want to discuss whether women should drive.
Someone needs to be the backseat driver. And I can’t do it. I don’t have a license.
“In Williamsburg, and to a bit lesser extent in Boro Park, you’ll rarely see local frum women ever driving.”
When July rolls around, they are driving all over Sullivan County.
My wife usually drives as she is the better driver.
My wife is an excellent driver, but she does not like to drive, so she usually prefers to be a passenger.
Joseph surely knows this as fact, because he is Joseph and he said so, so, it must be so. Our own female summer neighbors who hail from willi must not really be driving, their husbands must have some sort of remote device that controls the car.
PASHUT!!!!
MENS KNOW HOW TO DRIVE!
IM NOT CHOPPING THE HAVA AMINA?CTL,
Mazal Tov on your daughter’s upcoming marriage.
May they build בית נאמן בישראל.After driving every day for hours on end give the lady a break!
this has nothing to do with being frum. also non Jewish people usually end up driving like this. it is just the way it happens.
Joseph,
As you likely noticed, when you see a frum husband and wife in the front seats of a car or other motor vehicle you will generally see, in the vast majority of the times, the husband in the driver’s seat. This is even the case among frum families where women are permitted to drive.
Why do you think this is the case?
Because husbands are required to honor their wives more than themselves, so it makes sense for them to serve as the chauffeurs. 🙂
Considering that, how does your point still stand?
Makes perfect sense. When he insists on honoring her by being her chauffeur, she has to listen.
Not King, king.
How can she not acquiesce? We’re dealing with a king who is commanded to treat his queen with more respect than he treats himself.
(Note to Wolf: Yes, we know, sometimes your wife drives you.)
Since my status was already determined before my birth, does it really matter if I transgress this minor deed or not?
The Wolf
“This is even the case among frum families where women are permitted to drive.”
Joseph: I know plenty of families that the wife is the primary driver..it’s usually just whoever likes driving more / whoever is more comfortable driving..and that’s how it should be…
“She’ll be trading in the convertible for a married lady’s car suitable for hauling groceries, etc.”
CTL: What’s wrong with hauling groceries in a convertible?
i think that there may be another explanation.
sometimes it really drives the men crazy when women drive. that’s just how it is. but the woman doesn’t mind however the husband drives, for some reason. i’m not explaining why, just stating that i think this may be true.
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