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Poppa Bar Abba; FWIW. I’m extremely disappointed with you. Because up until this time, all your posts displayed both, knowledge and logic. I’ve been to many Shuls in my lifetime and in no place did I ever observe that “Gelilah” is given to Nebs, as such. As many posters pointed out that the reason gelilah is given to children is because this is one Mitzvah that they could perform, as opposed to an Aliyah which requires one to be Bar Mitzvah. Your perception must be mistaken. Or you encountered one crazy Gabbai who had this thing against old Bochurim and figured that they’re no good for anything else.

popa – i’m so glad you now understand!

please continue to try to understand the meanings in other people’s posts as well.

I can’t understand why it should be degrading to a young child!

My brothers always came rushing home to tell us after they were given either hagbah or galila- and no my brothers are not nebs!

It is considered very special for a young boy in our shul to get this kavod as it is usually given to bachurim- not older ones, just regular teenagers.

I realize now how thankful I should be that we daven in a shul that truly honors its members and the torah!

In my shul we give hagba to the nebbachs, but we have a good reason. We only give it to the one particular nebbach who forgets that he has to bentch gomel until after the last aliya was called up.

I went somewhere on yom tov where a bochur was the gabbai, and he gave me gelilah (I was the youngest person there actually and he didn’t want to give it to anybody older than him) – and the gabbai camer over to me afterwards and APOLOGIZED.

I’m the default gabbai in a small ba’al habatisch weekday minyan. Finding someone to do glila is the fourth most difficult thing. The three most difficult are, in ascending order:

1. Pesicha
2. Hagbah
3. Mussaf on Rosh Chodesh/Chol HaMoed

This is entirely due to the fact that pretty much everyone books once kedusha is done.

ANALAGY: Rolls Royce is considered an expensive luxurious car. Imagine a garbage collector is given a Rolls, would that diminish its chashivus in any way? Would the wealthy owner of a roller be upset to the degree that he would dispose of his car permanently?

We have a “rolls royce” that is “driven” by Am Yisroel. Just cause a few feel that it is driven by “less privilaged”, does that take away from its chashivus?

Ashrenu mah tov chelkeinu!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Gut Yom Tov

the Gemara that says this in Megila Daf Lamed Beis Amud alef. 32a.

I am very proud to say i got Gelilah over Yom Tov 4 times and once on Shabos Hagodol in a different Shul.

thanks for telling us you go to some chofetz chaim in kansas dude

Can a person tell the gabbai that it bothers them, so he won’t do it to other people?

My grandfather went through the horrors of Auschwitz and stayed frum, despite the fact that many of his relatives who survived swore off Judaism after what they went through. He established a family in America who are all frum, and his children and grandchildren include sofrim, Rabbonim, and those who are like he was – good, frum Jews who are honest in their daily business dealings, and strive to make a kiddush Hashem wherever they go and whatever they do.

To call him a neb is a huge insult, and you should beg mechilah!

“Popa is absolutely correct as a much older single i have received gelilah all too often its like the gabbai is saying well you aren’t man enough to deserve an aliyah but i have to give you something because you are here this is one of the reasons i rarely go to shul.”

I’m sorry to hear that, Goq — that’s sad. Maybe you could find another shul that deals with honors differently?

I think this is the reason why some people like Chabad kiruv shuls. In my experience they just give honors to everybody with no apparent pattern.

To Jewish Teen: I agree that gelila is fine, and I am happy to get it whenever it is offered.

I am fascinated to learn that there are “cool guys” in yeshiva. Please tell me what makes them cool.

Brony, Are you sure he “forgot”?

I am fascinated to learn that there are “cool guys” in yeshiva. Please tell me what makes them cool.

They don’t do gellilah.

I never posted in the coffee room cause i never felt anything was smart enough, but popa you nailed it. I always feel like a neb when getting galilah, but I feel like a bigger neb not taking it when the gabbai offers it to me.

Thank You for such insightful critique of our Gabbaus system

pba: we give honors based on our perception of status. Are you saying this isn’t correct behavior, or that marriage shouldn’t play a part in status?