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Why do the women get the better Shmorg?
Was there a vote or something? If there was, someone forgot to inform the men. Talk about women’s rights gone haywire.
We men work hard, are not in the kitchen all day some of us (not me) don’t even get a decent meal unless we eat out or are Zoche to attend a “Shtel Tzi” Fancy affair. Most of these delicacies come from our pockets. Don’t we deserve to enjoy it?
Who on HB”H green earth gave the party planners the idea
to put all the good stuff in the women’s section out of reach to most ehrliche men? Is it because she wants to be near when all the compliments start flowing.
These Planners don’t make it an easy job for
“Cong. Chevra Ohavei Shmorgs.”
Why do they insist on putting all the delicious cakes, n goodies by the women? Aren’t 95% of em supposed to be on diets.
The Party planner is surely Oiver “Lifnei Iver”, on both sides of the Mechitza.
Attention Party planners; please don’t entice our poor wives and mothers with heavenly chocolate cake.
Put it by the Men’s Section where it belongs.
The only diet we adhere to is the famous seafood diet.
If we see it, well eat it. No utensils required.
Our women spend major $$$$ on diets,(nobody’s heard of) and exercise classes,(nap time on the mat).
Gym memberships, showing up once a month( to schmooze and catch up, check on the latest exercise wear.)
How dare you let all this hard work and money go down the tubes
for a chocolate moose i mean mousse?!!!
Then they complain the rest of the night and week, “I shouldn’t of had that cake. I know better”
Please!! Put it on our side! Give it us! We won’t complain, only that we couldn’t have seconds. Some guys are quick when it comes to cutting a cake without a cake spatula or knife.
At least give us the same goodies. WE PROTEST!!!
At least we man will enjoy it and won’t complain about gaining an half an ounce…
the men come around to the women’s side either way for the food so why should they set it up on both sides.
I don’t know what weddings you go to, but the weddings I attend(Some very religious, some not)the smorgasbord is for everyone, and only the men can go into the chosson’s tisch, where the booze is. You should be asking yourself this; if a wedding doesn’t have an open bar, then why is it fair that only the men get to drink because they can go to the chosson’s ticsh where the booze is, but the women are only allowed to go to the shmorg??
I agree. Food and booze should be available to everyone.
Simple. The reason the women get the good stuff is so they can feed the 100+ cousins, sibs and neices / nephews (ages 10 and under)that cannot wait till 9:30 to eat supper.
That, and all the guys care about is the liquid refreshments anyways.
Salads and fancy cakes only put your tie / suit at risk for a major mess. Although, a sushi platter would be nice!
The very frum men don’t go to the women’s section.
Every wedding I have been to, EVERY, men are always at the smorg. ALL KINDS OF MEN. When I am at a kiddush and there are fancy cakes that my hubby likes and I know they aren’t on his side, I am make him a plate and send it to him.
women deserve better
Kfb, the reason everyone is in the women side is because thats where the shmorg is. Otherwise we wouldnt ch”v mingle.
I dont understand your complaint about the booze. Its not like there are any bottles of Kalhua or Tia Maria on the chosson tisch.
Oh no!!!! Don’t you dare take the food away! My policy is that when I go to weddings, I eat. Simple. I can burn the calories off the rest of the week.
I say split 50/50. What’s the problem with that?
I believe the women should only be fed salads at the shmorgs, since they don’t eat much else in public anyways.
well,
in the olden days it was the man who went and searched for the food and the wife stayed where she was for the food
so since it was a minhag for thousands of years and minhag yisrael k’halacha they kept it like that 🙂
The caterers always put the good food by the women, because they don’t have to put out as much because the women don’t eat it.
Because we’re WORTH it!!!!!! L’Oreal says so…
Man, is this another issue that drives me crazy. This past Monday I had had a hard work day, rushed home to change for a chassunah, and arrived at the hall physically drained and utterly exhausted. I hoped and prayed that i would “snap out of it” and get a boost of energy with a plate of refreshing delicacies and an enjoyable bite while “chapping a shmooze” with good friends. By the chosson’s tish there were nothing more than sponge cake and herring and club soda!
Now, being an ehricheh yid I’m dan L’Kav Zechus, it’s expensive, the meal will be soon anyway, etc.
Meanwhile, at the ladies’ section…. must I go through the amounts of food and variety of hot dishes, platters and …..ooooh it’s sooo not fair!!? And yes men are mingling in the ladies’ section is a disgrace!! I’m hungry too but you don’t mix with women, what’s wrong with these men?
Y’know, when I got married my only request i asked my father & shverr was to please even out the food by both sides of the mechitza so that there’s no taruvos.
Just to top off my rant here, if any of u are still reading this, is that the seuda that night (i.e. my supper) was served at 9:15pm, I can’t tell you how starving I was!
Dear hosts, after making an effort to be by your wedding, please make sure all of us, men included, get a decent bite to eat at a decent time, so hat we ALL can TRULY enjoy your simcha.
Y’know, when I got married my only request i asked my father & shverr was to please even out the food by both sides of the mechitza so that there’s no taruvos.
I was at your wedding, and I still went to the women’s side.
How was I supposed to know there was going to be food at the men? You should have put a sign in yeshiva.
pba: Let me tell you, I got loooots of compliments from many guys for doing that by my wedding, they appreciated it very much. (But why shouldn’t it ALWAYS be that way??)
I personally, am too frum to go into the women’s side during the beddekin, but I do go in to get food.
The difference is clear- nobody has time for women when there is food.
I think that is why they put the food there. It is so that any guy who goes in to meet girls will get distracted by the food.
pba: LOL, I hope that’s why they do it! But you know how it is. One guys Yeitzer Hora is another’s Yeitzer Tov, so who’s to say who focuses more on food or on the maidlech….
because women eat like pigs. sure they claim theyre all on diets…but what do you think they do all day? cook? look after their kids? HAHAHAHAHAH thats funny! NO! theyre clogging all the restaurants and fressing. so yeah…they need it more than men do. sure men come home and have a huge dinner…but thats because we dont eat the entire day because were busy…wait for it…WORKING!!!
BaalHabooze – It might be a Chumra to not go in to get food during the Shmorg, but it’s definitely not Ossur. The same thing when I go into these pizza shops that have men seating and women/family seating. If there isn’t space on the men side, I take a table on the other side.
bombmaniac -“but thats because we dont eat the entire day because were busy…wait for it…WORKING!!!”
Not where I live!
re: bombmaniac
…..ooooookaaaayyy….
I think you’re generalizing juuuust a bit….
Not ALL women “eat like pigs”, I know my wife and her close friends watch their diet/weight/ and health very carefully, and try very hard to keep slim. That doesn’t mean they don’t party once in a while, but definitely the standard isn’t “pigging out”!
I hope you were kidding with that thread, with Rosh Hashona just around the corner, I’d watch my opinions if I were you, and not knock the entire gender of Bnos Yisroel.
” Because we’re WORTH it!!!!!! “
ANOTHER great line. Wow, the women are on a roll.
he was joking
i think that was pretty evident
was i…? i mean i suppose you women need to eat a lot…what with flapping your jaws all day and that…
Mod-80; if you say so, I totally missed that.
slap bombmaniac.
🙂
negiah! nu!
LOL! Maybe it’s payback for us women that we bore most of the responsibilities of raising the the Chosson/Kallah from birth to the wedding. When the child had to go to the Doctor, who most probably took them, etc, etc…. We realize that the men work hard, but nothing compared to a woman running a household.
Simple: Because the men are willing to go into the woman’s section, and the women are not willing to enter the men’s section. Why this is so is debatable.
bombmaniac, lol!
Actualy its meant to enhance our shalom beis. Can you imagine what a plate sent in to the husband by his wife is doing for their marrige? Now had it be the other way around how many husbands would be standing next to the mechitzah making sure their wife gets a plate? com’n fellow men, admit it!!
How many wives send a plate over?
“How many wives send a plate over?”
Most of the shanah reshonah wives. (I’m passed that stage so I don’ get anymore…)
Um…most weddings I go to have a mixed Shmorg 😉 (Not to mention mixed seating but that is a different story.)
deiyezooger – actually about 10 years after shanah reshonah the wives start to send plates over again.
Except, that they only send plates of salad . . .
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