Why aren't you lookin @ ur Kallah?

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  • #598115
    Legen-dary
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    I went to a wedding some time ago, and me and my friends ALL noticed how very strange it was- the chatan/chosson did not look at his Kallah through the whole wedding, even under the chupah- it was weird…they might be yeshivish but its just weird!!

    ( and it had nothing to do with any kind of suspicious stuff, plain and simply he didnt look at his kallah, almost ina snobby way)

    #788034
    adorable
    Participant

    usually after the chuppa they look at each other for a minute. nothing can compare to that one minute look. its pure bliss

    #788035
    Droid
    Member

    Umm, why most he noticeably “look” at his Kallah in front of everyone? Yidden don’t show public displays of love or affection.

    #788036
    IUseBrains
    Participant

    Maybe ur coming from a different angle, howver,from other perspectives this is well understood,look at the story of Avrohom and Soro!

    #788037
    golden mom
    Member

    One of many reasons y the kallah walks around the Chasan is she he could “look” at her and her characteristics and “know” its her and not to be tricked like by Yaakov Avinu

    #788038

    More importantly, you (seem to have only) seen it once. What’s the big deal?

    #788039
    smartcookie
    Member

    The poor child was probably dead nervous and stagefright.

    #788041
    tobg
    Member

    legen-dary,

    Didnt he pickup the veil to see if its her?

    #788042
    Legen-dary
    Member

    I’m saying he should be staring at her with his eyesballs poppin out, and I understand those who say he doesn’t have to show “public affection” but at least show that you notice she exists!

    Even by dancing when the kallah sat in the men section and she was trying to talk to him, he looked away with disintrest, it looked strange, rude and mean.

    And no, I have never seen this before @ any wedding wherre the chosson doesnt aknowledge his kallah! I sure wouldn’t want that!!

    #788043
    Legen-dary
    Member

    tobg- a quick side glance…like “lets get over with this shindig”

    #788044
    gefen
    Participant

    “Even by dancing when the kallah sat in the men section and she was trying to talk to him, he looked away with disintrest, it looked strange, rude and mean.”

    yes – that does sound very strange! i hoped he’s looked at her since then. otherwise i feel very sorry for her.

    #788045
    Another name
    Participant

    Legen-dary

    I hope you were just overinternalizing. Maybe he was a little nervous or uncomfortable to display his true feelings in public.

    #788046
    love a yid
    Member

    I CAN SAY SOOOO MUCH

    ….BUT ILL JUST SHUT-UP NOW!

    #788047
    oomis
    Participant

    I also saw something similar once, and the emes is the marriage broke up within a few months. I am thinking the chosson in that case felt guilty about going through with the wedding when he was very conflicted about marrying her. Hope that was not what happened in your scenario.

    #788048
    fix-it-up
    Member

    love a yid-say it say it! im so curious 🙂

    #788049

    Legen-dary, your description of this chasan sounds like my husbands’ type of personality. He definately acts very shy and modest and humble and temimesdik in public. For example, in public he will not lean close in to me when we’re talking, he stands at a distance.

    During our chuppa and mitzva tanse he did not look at me either. Its a modesty thing.

    #788050
    Legen-dary
    Member

    I can understand the whole tense and modesty thing- but in this case the chatan wasnt this greasy shvitzer, shy type of guy- i mean when it came to his friend congratulating him, he was all over the place- dancing etc. it was very strange.

    #788051
    Eizena Kup
    Member

    What’s the question? Why I’m not looking at my Kallah?

    Simple, she’s 100 miles up north in the pool, I’m down here in the sweltering sun shvitzing (and posting).

    #788052
    Legen-dary
    Member

    lol eizena Kup!

    #788053
    adorable
    Participant

    maybe you didnt see everything or are over reacting. i would say that if they are happily married dont ever ever say anything.

    #788054
    ronrsr
    Member

    Perhaps he does not yet realize how fortunate he is.

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