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Would u rather to be in physical pain or emotional?
obviously neither but emotional is far worse.
Physical!
I’ve been in both physical and emotional pain and emotional is much harder (for me atleast). People understand physical pain, you get sympathy. People do not understand emotional pain. They may try to understand it but no one can understand it perfectly unless they’ve been through it themselves.
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we try not to choose bw 2 bad things coming upon us. words or even typed words can be extremely powerful. We dont want either! There is a story that two high school girls were once sitting and discussing which is worse not getting married until 30 or waiting 10 years to have children. They each picked differently and were talking about the pros and cons. The girl who said she would rather not have children for 10 years was one of the first to get married but didnt have any children for 10 years and the other girl didnt get married until 30 and had a very difficult time in shidduchim through it all. So weather this story is true or not, i think we should just be careful with the way we talk and word things so as not to bring any ayin hara or other bad upon us! Thanks!
~GaUrDiNg My ToUnGe FrOm CaViTiEs~
Emotional pain is a lot worse, in my opinion. The crazy phenomenon of kids cutting their hand, originates with this, according to psychologists. They have emotional pain so, they create physical pain to help them “forget” their emotional pain.
Of course the emotional pain remains, just the physical is now added.
Emotional pain is a lot worse, you don’t even have your mind to retreat to. Also, as happiest says, people have sympathy for someone suffering physical pain, but someone suffering emotionally or mentally can even be made fun of, sometimes.
tbt – it’s the same reason, you bang your head or punch a wall when you’re angry (not you, necessarily, but just stereotypically). You try to take your mind off the emotional pain by distracting yourself with physical pain.
Bochur- nobody hits a wall to inflict pain upon themselves. People do it out of desperation.
It does in no way take away emotional pain. It’s just an instant response for some people.
Candy, I don’t understand the equality of the two sides. A single girl is alone. She has no husband or kids, and doesn’t know if she’ll ever have either. She is probably lonely and in her parents house, and feels like she’ll never have one of her own.
A married girl at least has a husband, and can feel like she is not a total reject, and can have a Jewish household. True she does not have kids yet, but nobody looks down at her because of that. Everybody knows kids are a gift min hashamayim.
How could not having a husband or kids ever possibly equal having a husband, but no kids.
Please clarify.
smartcookie: Hello.
Are you sure? What purpose does this instant response serve? I would think, out of desperation of try to alleviate the pain/problem they’re in, they create a distraction. The physical pain serves as a distraction.
this thread is rather depressing…
pashutah yid u completely missed my point! i was trying to say that it is not smart to pick 1 of two bad things bc your choice and the words you say can be very powerful. I was explaining that it probably is not smart for someone to decide whether they want to be in emotional or physical pain because we dont want either of them, and this could cause ayin hara upon us. The story was just an example of whats happening here. Two girls decided between two bad things which would be better and the way they chose brought ayin hara and it came true. I’m not sure if the story is true, and dont feel the need to go into the pros and cons of each side, but just hope you understand my real point!
~GaUrDiNg My ToNgUe FrOm CaViTiEs~
smartcookie – I was referring to the subconscious psychology behind it. It is a way of releasing stress, but also it causes a physical pain. It doesn’t take away the emotional pain but it is distracting for a few seconds and that is ONE reason people do it.
As nuts as it sounds, I think I could overcome an emotional whack sooner than a physical one. If someone were to lose a limb, that’s not growing back.
If someone loses an emotional battle (scars and all) a good friend can get you back on your feet much faster that Phys. Rehab. can from an accident.
Like things physical, staying in shape emotionaly (reading positive things, thinking positive thoughts, ect) can help prevent damage from occuring in the first place.
bpt – I think the question was meant to compare 2 similarly intense things. Of course the emotional pain of losing a dime is not something more difficult than becoming a paraplegic, c”v. Severe emotional pain such as one that comes from, lo aleinu, the loss of a child or something like that also can’t be compared to the physical pain of a paper cut, but some may take losing a limb over losing a child.
“but some may take losing a limb over losing a child. “
Every parent worth the air they breathe would do this.
Yes, I meant the pain of 2 similiar experiences. Loss of life is not an “emotional” one. Its an irreplacable one.
And I could never put myself in someone elses shoes on emotional pain. All I meant is, I think (hope?) I could bounce back from an emotional setback easier than from a physical one, because of how I look at life as a whole.
I’ve touched bottom several times (in both the personal and professional arena) and instead of throwing in the towel, I took stock, recovered and tried again, all the while, making sure not to repeat the same mistakes twice.
Doesn’t emotional pain almost inevitably in some way lead to physical pain?? And vica versa doesn’t physical pain somehow lead to emotional pain?
We are not talking about loss here just pain. Physical pain is easier to treat and deal with than emotional pain.
Never tried REAL physical pain but, seems to me emotional pain’s practicly MURDER. Refuah Shelaima to all sick people. (I certainly would appreciate a more uplifting thread… This is getting me pretty depressed.)
s2021 – there are some really strong drugs you can take if you have physical pain, like morphine…
Neither is good, but physical pain is more readily apparent, and will garner more sympathy. I know people who suffer from both, and they have expressed that the physical pain is worse, because it CAUSES emotional pain.
S2021-NOT TRUE!! People don’t understand what emotional or mental conditions mean. The person CANNOT control it (in many cases). There are things they can do to eliminate the pain but they didn’t put themselves into that emotional or mental state. There are people who are on medication-because the CAN’T control it. Trust me, unfortunately I have lots of experience.
And about which is worse-when I’m in physical pain I think emotional is better; when I’m in emotional I think physical.:)
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