Which CR Poster do you want to meet in real life?

“Just in case you didn’t understand – WYSIWYG = What You See Is What You Get – it is a compliment, as far as the CR goes, meaning that you don’t come across like you’re trying to be someone you are not, and that you appear to be very genuine.”

Thank you.

“My open invitation to make contact with me is limited to the male faction of the CR. Curious as I may be to meet you all, I don’t feel it would be appropriate to socialize or “get to know” the females on board.”

True. Glad to hear you’re Frum.

Although in my case, it would probably be less of a problem since I’m probably old enough to be your mother, and my friends’ kids let me talk to them. Or at least some of them do – it depends on the kid. And some of them seem to go through different stages, and I always have to figure out what stage they’re at.

LF – that’s so nice of you! Thanks! I’m actually in chu”l. right now, so the meeting might have to wait until we are in the same country.

Actually, I’m curious about the leftist posters, too (you know who you are).

I’m not.

Are you moichel me for jesting with you?

I nearly actually met Yekke2 last night. He texted me that he was at a wedding that I was invited to but could not attend.
We’ll get there…

And yes, I’m moichel you.

Thanks for the compliment, Golfer!

I agree with what you said about the other posters.

I also think that I come across the way I really am.

“For your part you’d probably find exactly what you expected in an ordinary sort of way.”
Not sure what you mean by that.

Haleivi: Not that I’m aware of.

LilmodU,
What I meant was- if I was to meet you then obviously you would also meet me. And for your part, that’s most likely the impression you’d have.

IMHO people should try not to be insulted by comments of anonymous faceless entities on their computer screen that can be zapped into oblivion with the click of a mouse.
We have enough to keep us busy in Elul finding forgiveness in our hearts for the real live speaking breathing humans who insult us.

Golfer, while you are right that each person should work on himself to be moichel others, IMHO, you can’t tell people that they shouldn’t be insulted by people who insult them. And the fact that it’s a “computer person” doesn’t matter. They are still real people. That concept has come up before (by others) and I think it’s ridiculous.

It may happen occasionally that someone is insulted by something ridiculous in which case, PERHAPS, one can tell them that (but be very careful before deciding that it’s ridiculous or that it’s your place to say so), but that has nothing to do with whether or not they are computer people.

In fact, I think that it can be easier to be insulted by people in the CR than in real life. For one thing, in real life, you can choose who you talk to, whereas in the CR, you can only choose whether or not to be in the CR.

Also, in real life, it is easier to let people know if you are insulted: They can see your facial expressions, and it is easier to have a conversation with them. In real life when people insult me, I let them know so that they can have the opportunity to ask me mechila and not get gehinnom. In the CR, it is not possible to do that, and it really concerns me.

I think that it is a big Mitzvah to let someone know (politely) if they insulted you, and really cruel not to.

Again, on the person’s part – of course he should work on not being insulted and/or being moichel, but I don’t think that’s something that you can tell others to do (and it isn’t always a healthy approach -many people need to work on validating their feelings)

Golfer – I hope you weren’t insulted by my strong response! I just saw SYAG’s (after I posted) and I see that she said the same thing but less strongly.

Let me know if you’re insulted, so I can ask you mechil (and I am serious).

And you’re definitely welcome for coffee!

I Can Only Try

Syag: Thank you!! Does this personal wish of Mazel Tov mean we have to acknowledge that we’ve already met?

Golfer – you’re safe! B”H, I only saw both of your responses now at the same time. Actually, I even kind of saw your second one first, since I went to the bottom of the page first and as I was shifting up to where I left off, I saw your second post first.

I actually had not yet seen your post before I posted my apology since it wasn’t up yet (even though you might not be able to tell from the order that the posts were modded, although you can tell from the numbers).

As for where you can meet me for coffee, sorry but I don’t know how I would be able to let you know that 🙁

And by the way, I didn’t really think you were insulted – I was just playing it safe. I know that you are not the type to bear grudges or think badly of others.

LU: By the way, you’re on the top of my list. I felt uncomfortable posting a list of which CRers I’d want to meet in real life, because I don’t want to exclude anyone.

When it comes to male posters, I’d want to see them in their natural habitat, but not necessarily meet them. Just out of curiosity to see if they’re like I imagine.

Yepp yepp 🙂

Possible male CRers’ natural habitats (at least where I’ve seen frum men in places):

-Men’s section at shul
-Mingling in a group with other men, over drinks and snacks, during Shabbos
-Over there on the couch talking about something after kiddush at someone’s house
-Costco on Thursdays (my natural habitat as well)
-Restaurant on date night with wife
-Restaurant with family
-On the road walking on Shabbos
-At the Rabbi’s home during Shabbos
-In the car driving
-Torah classe
-Jewish event, like a big shiur with a visiting Rabbi

Just like basic places where you find people living life, except a little specialized to account for a frum Jewish man’s life

Can you think of any other places where you may find male CRers?

Thanks Joseph 🙂

Lol… seriously lol Joseph 😄

I’d like to meet The Wolf, oomis, Lightbrite, and CTLAWER – the four of them are the most down-t-earth and seemingly real people in the CR. Unfortunately, at least 3 of them (maybe even all four) live in the states, and since it’s fairly rare that I’m back there, I don’t think a meeting would ever happen.

“Can you think of any other places where you may find male CRers?”

At the Kosel on Motzei Shabbos:

Which CR Poster do you want to meet in real life?