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  • October 26, 2016 3:19 pm at 3:19 pm #618563
    Lilmod Ulelamaid
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    Sparkly – I am starting to worry about you. I don’t think you have posted for a while. I figured you might not have been able to post over Sukkos, but now Yom Tov is over, and I am getting WORRIED!!!!

    Please let us know you are ok. Thanks!!!!

    October 26, 2016 9:43 pm at 9:43 pm #1189545
    Lilmod Ulelamaid
    Participant

    I’m really getting worried about her! Does anyone else share my concern?

    October 26, 2016 10:03 pm at 10:03 pm #1189546
    👑RebYidd23
    Participant

    Maybe she forgot us.

    October 26, 2016 10:32 pm at 10:32 pm #1189547
    Lilmod Ulelamaid
    Participant

    I doubt it. She was really depressed about an acquaintance’s suicide a few days before Rosh Hashana, and then she stopped posting shortly afterwards. That makes me nervous!

    October 26, 2016 11:08 pm at 11:08 pm #1189548
    yeshivishe kup
    Participant

    BD”E I feel so sorry for sparkly. I think she just needs time. I know people who went through similar things. If she doesnt show up within 5 days, then id start to worry….

    October 27, 2016 8:08 pm at 8:08 pm #1189549
    Shopping613 🌠
    Participant

    Calm down. We teens are very moody and flighty. I remember diasapearing and reaperaing a lot here.

    October 27, 2016 9:47 pm at 9:47 pm #1189550
    Lilmod Ulelamaid
    Participant

    Shopping – you’re not Sparkly. I am worried about her. But, in any case, there is nothing I can do about it. And you could be right, although my guess is that there is more to it than that.

    October 28, 2016 12:13 am at 12:13 am #1189551
    Abba_S
    Participant

    Ask the Mod to send her an email that we are worried about her

    October 28, 2016 7:10 am at 7:10 am #1189552
    WinnieThePooh
    Participant

    maybe she is busy with midterms.

    maybe her account was closed (I seem to remember some comment by a moderator recently about such a possibility)

    I agree with shopping that there is no reason to worry.

    October 28, 2016 2:55 pm at 2:55 pm #1189553
    non of yo beez wax
    Member

    no offense to anyone, but if you are starting to lose sleep over someone you dont even know then its time to also close your account (because its becoming too much part of your life) for all we know sparkly doesnt exist! Also look at the bright side- maybe she shtarked out and went to seminary. So maybe she is doing things more productive than chating on the CR like she used to do. We should all learn from Sparkly!

    October 28, 2016 3:51 pm at 3:51 pm #1189554
    Meno
    Participant

    “if you are starting to lose sleep over someone you dont even know then its time to also close your account”

    Unless you’re a Jew and you have good reason to believe that the other person is also a Jew.

    Not saying I agree that people should start worrying, just saying that you have the wrong idea.

    October 28, 2016 6:03 pm at 6:03 pm #1189557
    zahavasdad
    Participant

    I have seen on other sites people care about people they dont know so its not unusual for people to care

    October 28, 2016 7:16 pm at 7:16 pm #1189558
    Mashiach Agent
    Member

    Maybe she is here just under a different user name

    October 29, 2016 11:15 pm at 11:15 pm #1189560
    Lilmod Ulelamaid
    Participant

    Meno: “Unless you’re a Jew and you have good reason to believe that the other person is also a Jew.”

    Ditto. It’s a basic part of being a good Jew. Just for the record, I am not losing any sleep over it, although, if I were Rav Shach Zatsal or Rav Shlom Zalman Auerbach Zatsal, I would be.

    Rav Shach had a hard time eating breakfast every morning because he was thinking of all the Yiddishe kinderlach who were starting their day w/o saying Shema. And Rav Shlomo Zalman Auerbach lost sleep worrying about a boy he didn’t know whose grandfather was concerned about the fact that he was being sent to a less Frum school than he could have been.

    I’m not on that level and not pretending to be. But I think that feeling and expressing some concern over a fellow Jew is the least I can do for them.

    October 29, 2016 11:17 pm at 11:17 pm #1189561
    Lilmod Ulelamaid
    Participant

    Also, she had recently undergone a traumatic experience, so there is reason for concern here. According to the “Yesod v’Shoresh HaAvoda” when you feel someone’s pain, you actually lessen their pain (and the Shechina’s as well, since the Shechina “suffers” whenever a person suffers), so by feeling concern for someone, you are actually helping them.

    October 29, 2016 11:46 pm at 11:46 pm #1189562
    non of yo beez wax
    Member

    Mashgiach Agent- are you by any chance Sparkly?

    October 30, 2016 12:34 am at 12:34 am #1189563
    Lightbrite
    Participant

    Maybe busy with college stuff. Exams. Studying for midterms. Projects. Group projects. Homework. Commuting. Time off to recuperate from CR burnout. Focusing on building connections beyond the screen. Hopefully taking care of herself and receiving the blessings you LU and the rest of CR are sending her <3

    October 30, 2016 12:35 am at 12:35 am #1189564
    Lightbrite
    Participant

    For old times sake, maybe one of us should accuse someone else of being a troll, in Sparkly’s honour 🙂

    October 30, 2016 12:36 am at 12:36 am #1189565
    Mashiach Agent
    Member

    No but i am blessed with a sparkling life

    October 30, 2016 4:52 am at 4:52 am #1189566
    Lightbrite
    Participant

    MA: You must be living a real Manischewitz

    October 30, 2016 6:57 am at 6:57 am #1189567
    Happygirlygirl
    Member

    Yeah where is sparkly

    November 1, 2016 3:26 pm at 3:26 pm #1189568
    I. M. Shluffin
    Participant

    Maybe she switched user names to form a new reputation as her alter ego.

    November 1, 2016 4:25 pm at 4:25 pm #1189569
    Lilmod Ulelamaid
    Participant

    I think I may have spotted her, but not sure.

    November 1, 2016 5:08 pm at 5:08 pm #1189570
    Meno
    Participant

    I thought so too. Username and content seemed to fit, but not the writing style

    November 1, 2016 8:24 pm at 8:24 pm #1189572
    WinnieThePooh
    Participant

    I though one person could not have more than 1 username?

    November 1, 2016 8:54 pm at 8:54 pm #1189573
    Lilmod Ulelamaid
    Participant

    “I thought so too. Username and content seemed to fit, but not the writing style”

    Those were my thoughts. However, I think that she may have used more than one writing style on occasion. That is why I thought it could be a possibility.

    November 1, 2016 8:56 pm at 8:56 pm #1189574
    Lilmod Ulelamaid
    Participant

    “I though one person could not have more than 1 username?”

    I’m not sure, but I think it might only be a problem if it’s at the same time, but I may be wrong.

    Also, there seemed to be some implication from a Moderator at some point that if you discuss it with them and explain the reason, they may allow it.

    But, again, don’t take my word for it.

    November 2, 2016 8:53 am at 8:53 am #1189576
    Person1
    Member

    How on earth are the moderators suppose to know whether a user used to have a different username?

    November 2, 2016 9:29 am at 9:29 am #1189577
    Person1
    Member

    I later realized they look at the ip address. Should have thought of that before…

    November 2, 2016 3:45 pm at 3:45 pm #1189578
    Lilmod Ulelamaid
    Participant

    “I later realized they look at the ip address. Should have thought of that before…”

    What is an IP address? Does that have to do with the computer you are using? That isn’t necessarily proof because two people can use the same computer, and one person can use 2 computers.

    I saw an old thread on this topic – discussing how the moderators can know if the same person is using more than one user name. There was some discussion regarding the fact that if 2 people are both using Yeshivanet, then they could have the same IP address, and the moderators might think they are the same person even thought they are not. I didn’t quite follow all the techinicalities of the discussion.

    I did notice that at some point, someone thought I was Sparkly. I thought that was a little strange! I would have to be both a really good actress and really bored to be able to pull that one off!

    November 2, 2016 3:46 pm at 3:46 pm #1189579
    Lilmod Ulelamaid
    Participant

    From the old discussions I saw on this topic, it sounds like the moderators can’t tell for sure, but they have ways of guessing

    November 2, 2016 5:27 pm at 5:27 pm #1189580
    yichusdik
    Participant

    Having tried to interact with her constructively, I concluded that she is a well intentioned person who could use some maturity and guidance. What she seems to have sought here was affirmation and confirmation of her perspectives and support regarding her insecurities. I do not recall seeing her take up any of the many constructive and purposeful suggestions that were made to her by several posters.

    As is often the case, when someone doesn’t get what they want they leave and look for it elsewhere.

    In any case I wish her hatzlocho in whatever endeavour and derech she chooses and that she gets (and listens to) the guidance that she needs.

    November 2, 2016 7:22 pm at 7:22 pm #1189581
    Happygirlygirl
    Member

    Did anyone else think princess cape is sparkly?

    November 2, 2016 7:41 pm at 7:41 pm #1189582
    Meno
    Participant

    “Did anyone else think princess cape is sparkly?”

    Yes, that’s exactly what I was thinking. Writing style is a bit different though.

    November 2, 2016 7:44 pm at 7:44 pm #1189583
    YW Moderator-💯
    Moderator

    I do not think it is her.

    November 2, 2016 10:42 pm at 10:42 pm #1189584
    Lilmod Ulelamaid
    Participant

    Yes HGG, that is what we are talking about. But the moderators probably know best. And Meno has a point – that was my hesitation as well.

    November 2, 2016 10:44 pm at 10:44 pm #1189585
    Lilmod Ulelamaid
    Participant

    Yichusdik – I know it seemed that way, but I don’t think that it was completely the case. I had the impression that she was “mekabel” to a large extent (or at least to the extent that she was able to)

    November 2, 2016 11:29 pm at 11:29 pm #1189586
    golfer
    Participant

    LU, you seem like a very caring kind person. But it doesn’t make much sense getting attached, or feeling as if you have a personal relationship with people you meet in the CR, or anywhere online.

    I’m sure you realize that Sparkly could have been two bored yeshiva guys who have found something else to waste their time with… Or a similarly bored 9th grade girl having some fun and now moving on to other amusements… Or any number of possibilities.

    November 3, 2016 12:16 am at 12:16 am #1189587
    Lilmod Ulelamaid
    Participant

    Golfer – as I pointed out above, Yidden are supposed to care about and feel an attachment to all other Yidden.

    No, I am not falling apart over this, and I have not spent much time thinking about her (although if I were a better person, perhaps I would be), but taking a moment to express concern for a fellow Jew is appropriate and the least I can do.

    And there definitely was what to be concerned about there.

    November 3, 2016 12:17 am at 12:17 am #1189588
    Lilmod Ulelamaid
    Participant

    And if someone was faking, there is probably even more to be concerned about!

    November 3, 2016 12:53 am at 12:53 am #1189589
    Person1
    Member

    “And if someone was faking, there is probably even more to be concerned about!”

    Nice!

    November 3, 2016 7:50 am at 7:50 am #1189590
    WinnieThePooh
    Participant

    I really am curious though to know if she makes it thru her courses and actually becomes a pharmacist.

    maybe she will peek in here at some future point and update us (assuming the rest of us are still around)

    All she has to do us use H”H and we will know it is her- it’s sort of her personal signature or fingerprint!

    November 4, 2016 3:31 am at 3:31 am #1189593
    Princess Cape
    Member

    Happygirlygirl: I just saw that now, but I can reassure you I am not Sparkly although I hope she’s pkay.

    Even the mod agreed that I’m not her.

    November 4, 2016 4:05 am at 4:05 am #1189594
    Lilmod Ulelamaid
    Participant

    I just received confirmation from the moderators that you are definitely not her. Sorry for suspecting you of being her.

    There was no confirmation. The comment was that her Sparkly account is blocked.

    November 4, 2016 4:33 am at 4:33 am #1189595
    Princess Cape
    Member

    It’s totally fine! Funny how a few people agreed with you that she sounds like me.

    November 4, 2016 4:45 am at 4:45 am #1189596
    Lilmod Ulelamaid
    Participant

    “There was no confirmation. The comment was that her Sparkly account is blocked.”

    Oh, sorry, for making assumptions. So if someone is blocked, they can just open a new account?

    November 4, 2016 5:22 am at 5:22 am #1189597
    Lilmod Ulelamaid
    Participant

    Princess Cape – I think the main thing was the name. She used to go by the name Princess, so as soon as I saw the name “princess”, I thought of her. And then when I read the content, it also fit. That is probably what others were thinking as well.

    November 5, 2016 11:27 pm at 11:27 pm #1189598
    Princess Cape
    Member

    Oh lol nope I’m kinda new here.

    November 6, 2016 7:52 am at 7:52 am #1189599
    Happygirlygirl
    Member

    Question why would the mods block an account…I have to know what not to do….btw mods can I switch my email for this account?

    November 6, 2016 4:20 pm at 4:20 pm #1189600
    Lilmod Ulelamaid
    Participant

    “Question why would the mods block an account…I have to know what not to do.”

    lol, I was wondering the same thing. Also, what is the point if someone could just reopen with a new name?

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