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    yoyo56
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    is it normal for someone to start talking to you about dating if you are only sixteen (and a girl)

    #735369
    ☕ DaasYochid ☕
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    Normal? Yes. Productive? No.

    #735370

    if someone starts to thinking it, you can start talking about it, but you don’t have to act on it…

    #735371
    maynish
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    yes get married young.. avoid being in the shidduch crisis. and remember the older you get the more picky . so settle down early in life.

    #735372

    its a total waste of time because you will go to seminary in between now and when you start dating, and you might change completely

    #735373
    real-brisker
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    Are you in the parsha yet?

    #735374
    yoyo56
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    Real Brisker:

    Huh?

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    why did this need to be edited?

    It was edited for all caps.

    oh please

    #735375
    real-brisker
    Member

    yoyo – What don’t you understand about my question?

    #735376
    yoyo56
    Member

    what do u mean am i in the parsha yet as in do i live in those times?!?

    #735377
    real-brisker
    Member

    It may not be the norm, But everything is possible!

    #735378
    yossi z.
    Member

    Yoyo56: the term “in the parsha” is used instead of are you on the dating scene (don’t ask me why because I don’t know) but from your original post I would assume not (and to answer your question, depending on the circles would depend if it is “normal.” for example there are certain chassidim amongst whom it is quite common to find the girls getting married at or around 16)

    Oh and no one should be talking to the involved parties unless there is going to be something lemaaseh (a date) happening (that mistake was made by me but thankfully it was caught and taken care of)

    #735379
    aries2756
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    Who would the “someone” be? Are your parents speaking to you, a 16 year old, about dating? Are they preparing you for the future?

    Anyone else speaking to you about dating would be inappropriate and should be directed to your parents. What I would advise you to do is simply say “I am only 16 and not in the parsha yet.”

    #735380
    bpt
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    Cut to the chase, Yoyo.

    Ask them how much $$$ they are offering. Then ask for 20% more, just to see if they’re serious.

    (its the only answer that’s appropriate to the question)

    Unless, the talk is along the lines of “you need to start acting like a young adult, becuase sooner than you think, you’ll be in shidduchim”

    But real shidduch talk? At 16?

    Gimmie a break.

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