Home › Forums › Family Matters › When a child eats traif.
- This topic has 82 replies, 27 voices, and was last updated 12 years, 6 months ago by Kozov.
-
AuthorPosts
-
June 26, 2012 5:43 pm at 5:43 pm #881197MorahRachMember
Speak for yourself. I personally work with a number of goyim who I consider friends. I have gone to get togethers at a mom-Jews house and they ordered in triple wrapped food from a place acceptable to my family, we had a table just for our food and the entire party was served on plastic ware. I am not of the belief that I am on a higher level then a fellow Jew OR fellow human. We are all on this earth together.
Back to the OP. as long as you supervise your child you should be fine! Gl
June 26, 2012 9:14 pm at 9:14 pm #881198ItcheSrulikMemberzdad: Yeah, I know though it’s not quite that close, I’ve read some of the studies. Though I know that it’s not closer than third cousin because I know who all my relatives are that far out and none of them are frum.
June 26, 2012 11:00 pm at 11:00 pm #881199pcozMembershaigetz – Aryeh Kaplan has the observation that every Jew is descended from approximately every Jew that lived 500 years ago about every 500 years
June 26, 2012 11:08 pm at 11:08 pm #881200oomisParticipantoomis: I’m sorry to tell you this, but that is not a good proof. It is very easy to browse without leaving a history, as well as to delete specific things from the history. “
Thank you for this information, of which I was unaware.
June 26, 2012 11:40 pm at 11:40 pm #881201shmoelMemberThe lowest Yid is on a much much higher madreiga than the best goy.
June 26, 2012 11:46 pm at 11:46 pm #881202pcozMemberdisagree – depending on your definition of Yid
June 26, 2012 11:53 pm at 11:53 pm #881203far eastParticipantshmoel- “The lowest Yid is on a much much higher madreiga than the best goy.”
so according to you levi aaron is better then the best guy. Intelligent obervation :
June 27, 2012 1:16 am at 1:16 am #881204KozovMemberFrame your question any way you want, a Jew is a Cheilek Eloka Mimaal, a goy isn’t. I’m not minimizing any atrocities.
June 27, 2012 3:11 am at 3:11 am #881205yitayningwutParticipantoomis –
Might I suggest you watch R. Gil Student’s recent video clips entitled “The Internet Shiur.” You can find them on his blog (Torah Musings) or via Google search. His hashkafa is much closer to yours than what is being espoused by others these days, and you may find a lot of what he says enlightening. I found them worth my while.
June 27, 2012 3:31 am at 3:31 am #881206oomisParticipantThank you, Yitayningwut, for the suggetion.
June 27, 2012 3:35 am at 3:35 am #881207yitayningwutParticipant🙂
June 27, 2012 3:43 am at 3:43 am #881208pcozMemberKozov – if the jew has destoyed their chelek elokah mimaal (im timze lomar), then they are no longer a chelek elokah mimaal
June 27, 2012 3:59 am at 3:59 am #881209oomisParticipantOk, I just watched Part 1 of Rabbi Student’s lecture. He is a really noteworthy speaker, and I agree with everything he said, though he certainly does not need my endorsement.
Shmoel- the lowest Yid has the spiritual potential for greatness, more than a non-Jew. But to say that the lowest Yid is higher than the best Goy, is a remark that requires scrutiny. I know some non-Jews who will ALWAYS be better than some Jews whom I know. The sad fact is that Hashem gave Klal Yisroel a matana, and not every Yid makes proper use of it, or even appreciates it. Many non-Jews are fine, eidel, and kind-hearted people, who live a moral and caring life. Would you consider them to be lower than any Yid, even a murderer or pervert, simply by virtue of their non-Jewish status?
June 27, 2012 4:11 am at 4:11 am #881210yitayningwutParticipantoomis – glad to hear.
June 27, 2012 4:28 am at 4:28 am #881211KozovMemberpcoz- Elokus is indestructible. And a Jew is always connected (though how much varies). See Tanya, Iggeres Hatshuva, and specifically the end of Perek 5. Here’s a link:
http://hebrewbooks.org/pdfpager.aspx?req=49432&st=&pgnum=192&hilite=
oomis- you’re right that it requires scrutiny, but i think you’ll agree that shmoel intended something that runs much deeper than utility and appreciation.
June 27, 2012 5:12 am at 5:12 am #881212pcozMemberkares means that a jew is excised from their spiritual source
June 27, 2012 8:30 am at 8:30 am #881213zahavasdadParticipantWho is a greater person Bernie Madoff or Rauol Wallenberg?
June 27, 2012 1:48 pm at 1:48 pm #881214ItcheSrulikMemberpcoz: Kares means that the neshama ceases to exist after the body dies. See RaMBaM hilchos teshuva.
June 27, 2012 2:43 pm at 2:43 pm #881215oomisParticipantI think that Shmoel’s post intentionally or not, reflects an elitist idea that many Jews hold, because they take the expression that Jews are superior to non-Jews as an all or nothing idea. Jews are superior in a spiritual sense, our neshomas have something extra with which Hashem has gifted us. But the lowest Jew IMO is not better than the best non-Jew, if by low we mean scrum of the earth (and R”L there are such Jews). Levi Aron, is not better than a morally pure non-Jew who saved Jewish lives during the Holocaust. His Jewish neshoma has the potential to make him better, but he chose to ignore that potential and be a rasha. I will take the Goy over him anyday.
June 27, 2012 3:44 pm at 3:44 pm #881216susheeMemberIf the only two men in the world left were Raoul Wallenberg and Bernie Madoff, I would hope anyone would marry their daughter to Madoff rather than Wallenberg.
June 27, 2012 3:56 pm at 3:56 pm #881217KozovMemberOomis, surely you are aware that the quality of a Jew doesn’t only lie in his potential. Consider for example the statement of our sages “maaminim ubnei maaminim” or “af al pi shechata yisroel hu” (though these things also have to do with potential). There is a bigger picture you are ignoring or missing. And that doesn’t mean action is inconsequential and that goyim have no significance. Shmoel wasn’t talking about that. There may be cases where someone gets his soul cut off entirely as people have suggested and sourced here, i’m not sure, but on the most part even a Jew rasha goes to gehinnom and then goes to gan eden, as opposed to a goy. The eternity of the Jewish reflects this deeper reality than you seem to be expressing. We all share the same soul root, thats why perfect tzaddikim like the Arizal said viduy, its the essence of ahavas yisroel and the reason for kol yisroel areivim ze laze and that explains why choosing Jews isnt unfair because they were not chosen in a lottery but rather they originally come from a higher realm than the physical. That is why so many things. This concept has so many ramifications and is so integral to Judaism. Its quite ridiculous to say that Shmoel was intending to argue with your point about a wicked Jew’s actions being filth compared to a goy’s. I also struggle to understand some of these value scales and notions but since its what our sages tell us i try to understand it, and its not as intuitivelly challenging as you make it sound. Again, you challenge Shmoel as if its an argument but you’re really discussing two different points.
June 27, 2012 6:35 pm at 6:35 pm #881218zahavasdadParticipantIf the only two men in the world left were Raoul Wallenberg and Bernie Madoff, I would hope anyone would marry their daughter to Madoff rather than Wallenberg.
If your daughter Married Wallenberg, your grandkids would be Jewish and they would have a Tzddik as a father and learn about proper middos
If your daughter Married Madoff, the grandkids would be jewish , Learn about how important money is and lose their neshma to it.
June 27, 2012 7:08 pm at 7:08 pm #881219Josh31ParticipantIf the only men in the world available to your daughters were the sons of Moshe Rabeinu and the sons of Korach….
June 27, 2012 8:53 pm at 8:53 pm #881220WolfishMusingsParticipantIf the only men in the world available to your daughters were the sons of Moshe Rabeinu and the sons of Korach….
I’d worry far more about the character of the individual son than who their fathers are.
The Wolf
June 27, 2012 10:31 pm at 10:31 pm #881221oomisParticipantIf the only men in the world available to your daughters were the sons of Moshe Rabeinu and the sons of Korach….”
FTR, the sons of Korach did teshivah and were saved. No?
And to answer Kozov, I still do not accept that the worst Jew is better than the best Goy. Not if his worst is REALLY heinous. It might be better to BE the lowest Jew (economically, socially, and educationally than the best Goy, but I don’t think that’s what was meant, though I could be wrong. And though we believe that Af al pi shechatah, Yisroel hu, depending on the cheit, he could be chayav kareis, and the Goy could be going to his chelek in olam haba whatever that is. I just don’t believe we should be so full of ourselves that we say stuff like “the worst Jew…” etc.) Hashem made Bnei Noach before us, and they also are rewarded for their 7 mitzvos.
June 27, 2012 10:58 pm at 10:58 pm #881222pcozMemberItcheSrulik Shaigetz – that is ridiculous and against the theory of conservation of (spiritual) matter
June 28, 2012 12:09 am at 12:09 am #881223WolfishMusingsParticipantbetter
Until someone defines this term (i.e. better in what way? What does being “better” mean?), the discussion at hand is pointless.
The Wolf
June 28, 2012 12:13 am at 12:13 am #881224KozovMemberfunny. But no not neccessarily because the neshoma might leave the guf.
June 28, 2012 1:39 am at 1:39 am #881225ItcheSrulikMemberpcoz: Take it up with the Rambam. He apparently didn’t hold of applying Thermodynamics to Ruchniyus, after all he considers Merkava and Bereshis separate limudim.
June 28, 2012 1:57 am at 1:57 am #881226pcozMembertoo hard, I can’t get my head round that. I’m just a simple Isaac Newton man
June 28, 2012 2:14 am at 2:14 am #881227☕ DaasYochid ☕ParticipantUntil someone defines this term (i.e. better in what way? What does being “better” mean?), the discussion at hand is pointless.
Good point.
June 28, 2012 8:30 am at 8:30 am #881228HaLeiViParticipantHow did this come in here?
As to the original topic, you should realize that most 7 year olds have the concept of Kosher and Traif deeply ingrained. Children relate very well to the untouchable concept.
When a child has frequent contact with close people who eat Traif, he will not be able to view non-Kosher as off the map. It will be more like we don’t eat it but they may. That is why the child is sneaking a piece.
Adding to this is the fact that most probably we are dealing with a BT, who may have the disadvantage in Chinuch of the children feeling that all this is a choice of their parents, rather than iron-clad.
When someone has such a situation it will take a lot more effort to give over the correct attitude to the child. It is hard to give specifics, but having more solid Frum aquaintances is one idea. More importantly, speak often and a lot of Hashem, the Torah, Olam Haba, S’char, Moshiach, Kedusha, Neshama, Matan Torah and Mitzvos.
June 28, 2012 12:39 pm at 12:39 pm #881229KozovMemberoomis, I would be intrigued to hear your opinion on chayavei misos beis din. And don’t forget, even chayavei krisus are still around inasmuch as they can do teshuva until they die. So as long as they’re around they’re Jewish as before.
-
AuthorPosts
- You must be logged in to reply to this topic.