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January 20, 2011 5:50 pm at 5:50 pm #594356OfcourseMember
Personally, Id like to see all my kids happily married. Meaning, those who are married B”H, should stay happy and those who arent should find Shidduchim.
January 20, 2011 6:11 pm at 6:11 pm #730434wanderingchanaParticipantTo see frum grandchildren find their basherts.
January 20, 2011 6:15 pm at 6:15 pm #730435OfcourseMemberwanderingchana, I agree, that would mean Id be much older at the time…Why didnt I think of that? Ill add that to my list of dreams.
January 20, 2011 6:23 pm at 6:23 pm #730436AinOhdMilvadoParticipantTo Know that all my children and grandchildren have proper Torah values and priorities and have increasingly strong emunah and bitachon that will be needed for the times that must be faced before bee’at Mashiach, may he come very soon.
January 20, 2011 7:52 pm at 7:52 pm #730437TheGoqParticipantto see a time that the frum world realizes that a person can have a meaningful complete life even if they are single
January 20, 2011 8:01 pm at 8:01 pm #730438OfcourseMemberThe Goq, the “frum world” isnt perfect, only the Torah is. The Torah COMMANDS Pru u’Rvu. The question is, is the person single by choice, or against his will, despite adequate Hishtadlus. Only the One Above can judge. The “frum world” can not!
Singles dont have to care/accept what the “frum world” thinks or doesnt think of them. The “frum world” has about as many opinions, in varying degrees, on any subject, as tastes in ice cream.
But Goq, how meaningful can life be when someone is single (by design) and has to repeatedly ignore human instincts? How normal is someone who doesnt have normal human instincts? How meaningful is a life thats not normal? These questions only apply to those who are single by design.
January 20, 2011 8:02 pm at 8:02 pm #730439truth be toldMemberThe goq: The Torah tells us “Lo tov heyos he’odom levado”. Did you mean a full life thats “lo tov”?
January 20, 2011 8:02 pm at 8:02 pm #730440Feif UnParticipantI once received a bracha from R’ Scheinberg that I should see my great-grandson put on tefillin.
January 20, 2011 8:33 pm at 8:33 pm #730441TheGoqParticipanti am not able to be fruitful and multiply for physical reasons
January 20, 2011 8:34 pm at 8:34 pm #730442TheGoqParticipanti am sorry if this makes me abnormal but this is how i was born
January 20, 2011 8:47 pm at 8:47 pm #730443OfcourseMemberThe Goq, this week, I heard of a frum girl in her twenties who has the same issue, who needs same. Might it be interesting to you?
January 20, 2011 8:51 pm at 8:51 pm #730444truth be toldMemberVery sorry to hear that, The Goq. Do you feel people judge and catergorize you negetavly sine you arent married?
May I suggest we start a new thread for this and move these comments there?
January 20, 2011 8:52 pm at 8:52 pm #730445TheGoqParticipanttoo young for me but ty
January 20, 2011 8:56 pm at 8:56 pm #730446smartcookieMemberThe Goq- I know of two such couples who are happily married anyway.
Just giving you some Chizuk here!!
January 20, 2011 8:56 pm at 8:56 pm #730447postsemgirlMemberI’m too young for this but I really hope some people in my family resolve their fight that has been pulling us all apart for years.
January 20, 2011 9:46 pm at 9:46 pm #730448watermelonMemberGoq passed the test of not deceiving anyone for selfish reasons.
As far as my wish,it’s that my immediate family one day understand “loyalty”.Until then,I can at least teach it to my own children.
January 20, 2011 9:49 pm at 9:49 pm #730449TheGoqParticipantyes truth i do feel i am judged negatively but hey why should i be bitter i’m a man so obviously i can’t be a victim of the shidduch crisis right?
January 20, 2011 9:51 pm at 9:51 pm #730450always hereParticipantI’d like to see all my grandchildren married, with my husband & me in attendance… iy’H with me walking.
January 20, 2011 9:54 pm at 9:54 pm #730451chayav inish livisumayParticipanti dont think u shud give up because of this many such ppl get married
January 20, 2011 10:22 pm at 10:22 pm #730452OfcourseMemberNot only do “many such ppl get married”, they are adored by their step-children and their wives who are grateful that they have someone to help raise their children.
January 20, 2011 11:06 pm at 11:06 pm #730453TheGoqParticipanti didnt say i gave up
January 21, 2011 3:35 am at 3:35 am #730454oomisParticipantTo see the marriages of great-grandchildren, the grandchildren of all my children, as a nechama to me for the fact that my own parents did not live to see the marriage of even one grandchild, when their greatest joy in life was those aineklach. I would feel like Hashem was giving me my parents’ portion of nachas that they never got to experience while still alive.
January 21, 2011 6:40 am at 6:40 am #730455OfcourseMemberThe Goq, may Hashem send you and all those looking for Shidduchim, their soulmates b’Karov and may you/they have amazingly meaningful lives that you/they never dreamt would be possible!
January 21, 2011 1:55 pm at 1:55 pm #730456TheGoqParticipantty ofcourse but i can have a meaningful life even if i dont get married we have to stop treating older singles like they are diseased and tsk tsk oh that poor girl, life is not always how u would dream it to be but life goes on i appreciate your warm wishes
January 21, 2011 3:55 pm at 3:55 pm #730457mikehall12382MemberMy children and every generation after me cling on to their Jewishness as much as someone would cling on to a lifeboat in the middle of the ocean…
January 21, 2011 7:09 pm at 7:09 pm #730458bptParticipant“i didnt say i gave up”
Good thing, Goq. Because there is a shidduch out there that is custom made for you and your particular situation.
Each of us have areas which are, for whatever reason, out of our reach (like, I can’t bring bikkurim, becuase I don’t have an orchard).
Doen’t mean we’re not able to fufill the goals we can meet.
Al tisyaesh, Goq!
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