I don’t know what schools you people go to…
Of course, there are some teachers who will answer your questions with, “A yid is not allowed to speak that way,” or “C”V to even think like that,” but there are others who will direct you to appropriate sources for answers.
My kids go to more Yeshivish schools than the one I attended, but their schools pour on the warmth and love of Yidden and Yiddishkeit, something my school had not done.