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July 1, 2013 1:40 pm at 1:40 pm #965197gavra_at_workParticipant
(I’d also note that your arguments would not carry to incest or to plural marriages.)
Expect to soon see many same gender (which may not be blocked by incest laws) “marriages” between parents and their children for both tax and benefits purposes. I can’t see any acountant worth their salt not using this ruling to get around estate taxes.
July 1, 2013 2:20 pm at 2:20 pm #965198interjectionParticipantMany here seem to be unable to put their finger on why it is perverse other than because they inherently ‘believe’ it should be. So this is my opinion.
Every action in the world has some good that can possibly result. Marriage between man and woman is sacred because although there is desire involved, there is also a higher purpose as there is a potential to create something. Same-sex marriage, on the other hand is perverse – and similar to rape/incest/bestiality – because it is desire for the sole means of acting on desire. Being openly gay is a public expression that one views himself foremost as a physical being as there is nothing positive that can come from same gender relations.
Jf: what you say about roommates – if they want to announce their love for each other, they can buy BFF necklaces and wear them every day. It’s quite different to believe that they should get marriage benefits because of their love. Marriage is a step toward creating a family – creating our (all of mankind’s) future – which is why it makes sense for the government to grant those benefits. (So gays can adopt…I hear)
All that being said, no one is denying their feelings for each other much like one can’t argue with an engaged couple that the feelings aren’t real as ‘true love only comes after marriage’. Instead, my contention is the following: I believe it is perverse because 1) it belittles marriage in general by saying it marriage is nothing more than an expression of love rather than a sacred union, and 2) it is announcing to the world without leaving any room for doubt that ‘I don’t think through through my brain but rather through what will offer me more pleasure’.
July 1, 2013 2:30 pm at 2:30 pm #965199heretohelpMemberGAW wrote:
“Expect to soon see many same gender (which may not be blocked by incest laws) “marriages” between parents and their children for both tax and benefits purposes. I can’t see any acountant worth their salt not using this ruling to get around estate taxes.”
This comment is so off-base and silly I don’t even know where to begin.
The slippery slope argument is a bad and unconvincing argument. Just argue against Toeiva marriage and/or state regulation of marriage. It has nothing to do with parents marrying their kids, people marrying dogs, etc.
July 1, 2013 2:40 pm at 2:40 pm #965200Sam2ParticipantHonestly, I can’t see a legal reason for the US to not rule this way. If they are ruling on marriage at all, then they are clearly deciding that marriage is not a religious concern (otherwise it would be covered by the establishment clause). If it’s not a religious issue, then who cares how you define marriage? In Japan, people marry their cars. Let people here marry whomever or whatever they want. It’s a meaningless piece of paper now, so what’s the big deal?
July 1, 2013 3:51 pm at 3:51 pm #965201gavra_at_workParticipantThis comment is so off-base and silly I don’t even know where to begin.
The slippery slope argument is a bad and unconvincing argument. Just argue against Toeiva marriage and/or state regulation of marriage. It has nothing to do with parents marrying their kids, people marrying dogs, etc.
It is not a “slippery slope argument”. It is a fantasic loophole in the tax code that could save families millions of dollars. I don’t expect these marriages to be “real”, but real enough for tax purposes (as the two parties do care for each other, etc.) that the IRS would have a hard time fighting it.
July 1, 2013 4:01 pm at 4:01 pm #965202benignumanParticipantheretohelp,
It depends on how you use the “slipperly slope” argument. Arguing because we allowed A we will allow B is unconvincing.
Arguing that just as you agree we can prohibit B, we can also prohibit A is a convincing argument.
If, as the Supreme Court held, moral disapproval is not a valid basis for prohibiting something, then it is very hard to justify why bestiality, poygamy and incest (where both parties are adults) can be prohibited. The other reasons given for prohibiting those acts, like those regarding mishkav zachor, do not hold up to an serious scrutiny.
July 1, 2013 4:16 pm at 4:16 pm #965203heretohelpMember@benignuman wrote:
“heretohelp,
It depends on how you use the “slipperly slope” argument. Arguing because we allowed A we will allow B is unconvincing.
Arguing that just as you agree we can prohibit B, we can also prohibit A is a convincing argument.”
Only if A and B are similar. Nobody reasonable thinks that marrying a dog is similar to marrying a person, even if the person is a toievanik.
July 1, 2013 4:19 pm at 4:19 pm #965204heretohelpMemberGAW wrote:
“It is not a “slippery slope argument”. It is a fantasic loophole in the tax code that could save families millions of dollars. I don’t expect these marriages to be “real”, but real enough for tax purposes (as the two parties do care for each other, etc.) that the IRS would have a hard time fighting it.”
It is not a fantastic loophole. It is impossible. Such a marriage is already illegal in New York and elsewhere. West Virginia I’m not so sure. The recent rulings have nothing to do with the ability to marry your children. Stop being ridiculous.
July 1, 2013 4:24 pm at 4:24 pm #965205gavra_at_workParticipantOnly if A and B are similar. Nobody reasonable thinks that marrying a dog is similar to marrying a person, even if the person is a toievanik.
Never say no one….
But you chose the extreme case. What law prevents Christa Badger from “marrying” Jacqueline Mars (her mother) and thereby circumventing any and all estate taxes? And when it comes to money, people will try anything to not pay taxes. Here it might work (I’m not giving a tax opinion, ask your accountant).
July 1, 2013 4:47 pm at 4:47 pm #965206heretohelpMemberGAW wrote:
“What law prevents Christa Badger from “marrying” Jacqueline Mars (her mother) and thereby circumventing any and all estate taxes? And when it comes to money, people will try anything to not pay taxes. Here it might work (I’m not giving a tax opinion, ask your accountant).”
In New York State, New York State law prevents a mother from marrying her daughter. Every state has a similar law. And what does this have to do with the recent rulings- why weren’t mothers marrying sons and fathers daughters prior to the recent rulings?
For your reference, the NY law is Article II, Section 5 of New York’s domestic relations law.
I think the toeiva aspect of this has gotten you all riled up that you can’t think straight.
July 1, 2013 5:51 pm at 5:51 pm #965207playtimeMemberThis thread is pointless. I submitted my view on these matters and it wasn’t even edited; just completely deleted.
July 1, 2013 6:50 pm at 6:50 pm #965208gavra_at_workParticipantheretohelp: I fully expect that to be challenged in court as
discriminatory. Even now, let’s say it was two brothers for health benefits (which is not blocked by the law you quoted).
July 1, 2013 7:19 pm at 7:19 pm #965209heretohelpMemberGAW- you fully expect that that be challenged as discriminatory? Really, because of all the people who’ve historically wanted to marry their children? As for two brothers “for health benefits” (whatever that means) yes, marriage of two brothers is blocked by the law I quoted. It states brother and sister but that does not mean that brother and brother is allowed- courts have interpreted it to mean that sibling marriage is not permitted. And why would this be all of a sudden and related to the recent rulings? Its been this was for a long time?
Why can’t you just say that you don’t approve of toeiva marriage because its contrary to the Torah and Hashem’s law and that we should build a society that even if not a theocracy, nonetheless stands up for basic morality and principles of Torah law. It has nothing to do with brothers marrying brothers, anyone marrying dogs or anything like that.
July 1, 2013 7:49 pm at 7:49 pm #965210gavra_at_workParticipantheretohelp: I’m not arguing that point at all (and my point has nothing to do with slippery slope or even why Toeiva should be outlawed). All I’m saying is that it seems to me that SCOTUS has just created a great tax loophole (not as a legal opinion). You are disagreeing that it would work as a tax dodge.
Your points are reasonable, but I think (but I don’t know) in a court (especially in California) they would not be upheld. I would like to see (and expect) someone to try it.
July 1, 2013 8:21 pm at 8:21 pm #965211benignumanParticipantheretohelp,
You wrote: “Only if A and B are similar. Nobody reasonable thinks that marrying a dog is similar to marrying a person, even if the person is a toievanik.”
The issue is not whether A and B are similar in an absolute, compare every aspect sense. The issue is whether they are similar in the important sense used as a basis for arguing the acceptance of A in the first place.
The Supreme Court struck down anti-sodomy laws in Lawrence v. Texas because such laws were based primarily on moral disapproval, and moral disapproval, where there is no actual injury to society, is not sufficient basis for telling someone they cannot do something they wish to do.
In that sense, which is the important sense in this case, sodomy and bestiality are very similar.
July 1, 2013 8:27 pm at 8:27 pm #965212gavra_at_workParticipantbenignuman: WADR, animal cruelty comes into play as well.
July 1, 2013 9:07 pm at 9:07 pm #965213benignumanParticipantGAW,
Is there really animal cruelty in all bestiality situations? What if the animal is during heat? What if it is a male animal that is advancing on a femal human (this has happened with baboons)?
There are plenty of situations where there would be no cruelty, but it is still illegal and taboo in our society.
July 1, 2013 10:30 pm at 10:30 pm #965214charliehallParticipant“The real poll was that the people of California passed Prop 8.”
Actually, the real poll was the 2010 California Gubernatorial election. Jerry Brown, while Attorney General, chose not to defend Prop 8 in court. Californians enthusiastically supported that decision by electing him governor by a landslide — by a much larger margin than had approved Prop 8 in the first place. (Maybe they changed their minds?) Interestingly, Brown’s 2010 Republican opponent, Meg Whitman, now supports same sex marriage, too.
“The DOMA case was about a federal law that defines marriage for all federal purposes as being between one man and one woman. The Court held this unconstitutional as a deprivation of the rights of those who want to marry someone of the same gender. This was a substantive ruling.”
This is one that split Movement Conservatives. On the one hand, they hate gays (or at least they feel they have to pretend that they do; I don’t think their heart is in this one). On the other hand, they also hate the Estate Tax and the plaintiff was a woman who was trying to get a refund of over $300,000 she had paid in Estate Tax.
July 1, 2013 10:36 pm at 10:36 pm #965215heretohelpMemberPlease stop talking about beastiality. It is too disgusting to think about and not the issue here.
July 1, 2013 10:44 pm at 10:44 pm #965216HealthParticipantbenignuman -“If, as the Supreme Court held, moral disapproval is not a valid basis for prohibiting something, then it is very hard to justify why bestiality, poygamy and incest (where both parties are adults) can be prohibited. The other reasons given for prohibiting those acts, like those regarding mishkav zachor, do not hold up to an serious scrutiny.”
Yes, this was my point. The defenders of Toeiva marriage here, namely, “heretohelp” & “jewishfeminist02”, can only bring a defense for bestiality, but they have no argument why polygamy is illegal. To me, many of our Gov. and many of the pop. have no problem putting polaygamists in jail, but OTOH they scream civil rights, not just Not to put Toeivaniks in jail, but they must have legal marriage too!?! This is a case of if you’re an Achzor (mean) when you should have Rachmonus (mercy), like on people marrying more than one woman, then you end up having mercy where you should be an Achzor, like by Toeiva!
July 1, 2013 11:01 pm at 11:01 pm #965217popa_bar_abbaParticipantThis is one that split Movement Conservatives. On the one hand, they hate gays (or at least they feel they have to pretend that they do; I don’t think their heart is in this one).
They hate gays? Charlie, you don’t even pretend to try to be intellectually honest, do you?
(Also your point is idiotic, because like any “contradiction” of this type, it can be flipped back at you.)
July 2, 2013 12:08 am at 12:08 am #965218jewishfeminist02Member“The defenders of Toeiva marriage here, namely, ‘heretohelp’ & ‘jewishfeminist02’, can only bring a defense for bestiality, but they have no argument why polygamy is illegal.”
Excuse me. Please read what I actually wrote.
1) I did NOT defend gay marriage. I merely explained what those who defend gay marriage commonly argue in the context of explaining what we can respond to them so as not to be painted as homophobic religious extremists.
2) I already explained that the difference between gay marriage and bestiality is not the same as the difference between gay marriage and polygamy.
3) I also already explained that polygamy should remain illegal because of a “legitimate state interest” in that the federal government does not want to have to pay health benefits for Ploni’s 200 spouses.
July 2, 2013 1:26 am at 1:26 am #965219heretohelpMemberI’m defending toeiva marriage? Really?
Because I disagree with Health’s legal analysis?
July 2, 2013 2:06 am at 2:06 am #965220yytzParticipantOpponents of same-sex marriage don’t “hate” gays. This is a highly ideological canard widely used by the left to delegitimize not only political opposition to gay marriage, but also religions (such as ours!) that disapprove of homosexual behavior.
We don’t hate gays at all — we just disagree on what the proper response is to people’s same-sex desires (embrace them and normalize them vs. ignore or suppress them and refrain from acting on them).
In fact, many opponents of toieva marriage have expressed great caring and compassion for those with same sex attraction, because it must a very difficult nisayon, and very hard to know what to do about it. This comes across very clearly in some Orthodox rabbinical statements regarding homosexuality (many of the signatories of which are certainly against gay marriage).
July 2, 2013 2:19 am at 2:19 am #965221yytzParticipantThe analogy to bestiality is absurd, and it’s counterproductive to even bring it up.
Not so with polygamy. The constitutional case for overturning state laws against polygamy is very strong, especially now.
The strict scrutiny test definitely applies, since the bans are motivated, at least in part, in animus against certain politically unpopular groups, such as fundamentalist Mormons and Muslims.
So the question is, are these bans narrowly tailored to support a compelling government interest? Ultimately, the answer judges will give is probably yes, which means that courts will uphold polygamy bans.
The reasons given will probably be that polygamy potentially harms women and harms men by reducing the pool of mates. Since it might hurt women and women are seen as underdogs, this is a politically acceptable argument that will appeal to judges.
Even so, I think the legal case against polygamy bans is very strong, because it’s clearly motivated by bias.
Regardless, analogies won’t help much in convincing people to oppose toieva marriage, and they can hurt. Other lines of argument need to be emphasized (and tested on focus groups!)
July 2, 2013 4:16 am at 4:16 am #965222benignumanParticipantyytz,
Just saying something is absurd without explaining why is conclusory and pointless.
The only mildly valid (relevant) distinction I have ever heard is animal cruelty (as if hunting for sport was fun and games for the animals). While that distinction holds up in some cases, it doesn’t hold up in the cases I mentioned above. Which is why far left “moral philosophers” like Peter Singer have said that bestiality is morally sound in those cases.
Peter Singer is merely being consistent and willing to admit that bestiality does not always harm the animals involved.
I agree that comparing the two sounds absurd but that is only because people are comparing them on a macro level (the same way they used to compared heterosexual relationships to homosexuality). If one drills down to the legal basis for the Supreme Court’s holdings in Lawrence and Windsor, the distinction shrinks away.
I don’t think these rulings will lead to bestiality becoming legal (because, boruch Hashem, there are very few practitioners), but if we take take the position that moral disapproval cannot serve as the basis for laws, then outlawing all forms of bestiality is hypocritical.
July 2, 2013 4:35 am at 4:35 am #965223HealthParticipantyytz -“The analogy to bestiality is absurd, and it’s counterproductive to even bring it up.”
Actually the legal analysis is the same. It just makes people uncomfortable, but PBA’s legal analysis on this subject is correct.
“The reasons given will probably be that polygamy potentially harms women and harms men by reducing the pool of mates.”
Oh really? And how does allowing Toeiva marriage not harm those seeking mates? Marriage is more of a commitment, but before this even if they were Toeiva prone these relationships could and would end and the possibility of becoming straight again is much more likely than once there is legal marriage. Anyone can think up a million differences between anything that they want, but does it pass the test of logic? And the biggest proof that these differences aren’t logical is because the Torah says one is Ok and the other is Not, even for Goyim. If the 7 Mitzvos Bnai Noach weren’t logical, Hashem could never hold them responsible to keep them!
July 2, 2013 3:20 pm at 3:20 pm #965224yytzParticipantContrary to your assumptions, it is not the case that any law expressing some kind of moral disapproval is now prohibited. Virtually all of our laws, including those against murder and tax evasion, express moral disapproval.
This is how it works. If a law (such as those against bestiality) do not burden a protected group, then rational basis review applies. Bestiality practitioners have never been recognized as a vulnerable social group. That means that courts will uphold anti-bestiality laws as long as there is some rational basis for them. There is a rational basis for laws against bestiality, because animals cannot give consent and it can harm animals. No court would disagree with this.
Regarding polygamy, as I mentioned, bans on it do seem to express animus towards a politically unpopular, vulnerable group, which means that strict scrutiny review applies. This means that courts can only uphold if it is narrowly tailored to serve a compelling state interest. This is a much harder test, but ultimately I think courts will uphold it. This is not to say they should — it’s just a prediction.
Health, I agree that promoting homosexuality could reduce the pool of mates (depending on the relative rates of homosexuality among the genders). I also think the ban on gay marriage not only has a rational basis (many bases, really), but also is narrowly tailored to further a compelling state interest. However, as a practical matter, courts are not adopting these arguments, in part because, unfortunately, it’s not generally seen as politically correct to make arguments against a group (such as gays) seen as an underdog. That’s an unfortunate feature of our country’s messed-up political discourse.
I enjoyed reading Scalia’s dissent in the DOMA case, and I largely agree with him, but I don’t think this case will directly lead to the Supreme Court forcing all states to have toieva marriage, at least not anytime soon. Kennedy’s federalism concerns will keep that from happening, I think. The important thing is who replaces the next few justices who retire.
July 2, 2013 4:07 pm at 4:07 pm #965225BronyParticipant“the number of con law scholars on this board is astonishing.
Con law? What is that–slang for constitution law?
My aren’t we cooooooooooooooooooooooool”
you got a beef with me bro?
July 2, 2013 4:44 pm at 4:44 pm #965226benignumanParticipantyytz,
Although the Supreme Court normally uses the rational basis/intermediate/strict scrutiny framework it has not done so in Lawrence and Windsor. It has never held that homosexuals are protected group warranting special protection and it has never held that sodomy was a fundamental right. Rather Justice Kennedy has eschewed the normal framework for an inquiry focused on the motivation behind the law. If that motivation is soley or even primarily moral disapproval or animus then the law is invalid.
Alternatively put, moral disapproval is deemed by the Court not to be a “rational basis” and if that is the primary basis, the motivating factor, of a law that restricts people’s freedom then that law would be unconstitutional.
It is true that most prohibition express some moral disapproval, but those prohibitions will primarily motivated by other grounds, i.e. to prevent some harm that will come to someone or to create some efficiency.
July 2, 2013 5:27 pm at 5:27 pm #965227yytzParticipantBenignuman: I’m sorry, but that’s incorrect. First of all, the phrase “rational basis” doesn’t appear in the opinion.
Second, homosexuals have in fact been recognized as a protected group, in the sense that legislation against them invites strict scrutiny. In Romer v. Evans, the Court overturned a state law on equal protection grounds because it sought to disadvantage a politically unpopular group (homosexuals). 517 U.S. 620, 624, 634 (1996). The same occurred in Windsor.
Lawrence v. Texas was different — that was decided on due process grounds. If I remember correctly, equal protection was not an issue, because sodomy was illegal regardless of the sexual orientation of the people doing it. The case didn’t exactly proclaim a “fundamental right” to sodomy, but it did declare that the government can’t make it illegal for consenting adults behind closed doors to commit sodomy.
Windsor applied some form of heightened scrutiny (without explaining itself very well) to overturn DOMA on equal protection grounds. (See Alito’s dissent for a better explanation). It is an equal protection case, like Romer.
It’s a confusing opinion, as Scalia’s dissent points out. But it doesn’t establish a general rule that laws expressing moral disapproval are invalid. It is an equal protection opinion, with a “whiff” of federalism concerns, that strikes down a federal statute because it based on a animus toward a group and desire to disadvantage that group, the same group the state sought to protect.
July 2, 2013 5:31 pm at 5:31 pm #965228popa_bar_abbaParticipantDude, romer was rational basis.
July 2, 2013 5:42 pm at 5:42 pm #965229yytzParticipantIt’s true that the Romer Court said the amendment (to Colorado’s constitution) did not even withstand rational basis review. However, it was still an equal protection case, and the Court’s main concern was that the amendment was class-based legislation that disadvantaged an unpopular group.
Given the Court’s strong language in this regard, I think there’s no question that if they’d skipped the rational basis test or actually found it to have a rational basis then they would have applied strict scrutiny and overturned the amendment on that basis. So Winsdor did go beyond Romer by applying a heightened form of scrutiny, but not by much.
July 2, 2013 6:35 pm at 6:35 pm #965230jewishfeminist02Member“And how does allowing Toeiva marriage not harm those seeking mates? Marriage is more of a commitment, but before this even if they were Toeiva prone these relationships could and would end and the possibility of becoming straight again is much more likely than once there is legal marriage.”
This is absolute nonsense. Even in states where gay marriage is prohibited, there are many gay couples who have lived together for decades and consider themselves to be “married” even if the state doesn’t. They’re no more likely to break up than they would be with an official marriage license.
Furthermore, sure, those relationships *can* end. But even when they do, the gay people will just find new partners, or engage in sexual activity outside of relationships. There is no way to “become straight again” because homosexuality is biological.
No straight woman in her right mind would ever want to be married to a gay man.
July 2, 2013 6:49 pm at 6:49 pm #965231benignumanParticipantyytz,
The Court in Romer, Lawrence and Windsor never described itself as using strict scrutiny or even intermediate scrutiny. They are all rational basis cases. Windsor didn’t explain that it was applying heightened scrutiny, because it wasn’t. I would guess that Kennedy was leaving himself an opening (by not declaring it a fundamental right or homosexuals a protected group) to leave the decision up to the States in a future case (hence the federalism dicta).
My broad description of these cases actually comes from an interview with Justice Kagan who explained them as being based on this idea that moral disapproval or animus cannot be the primary basis of legislation.
Left unsaid, but I think obvious, is that the legislation would only be problematic if it infringed on somebody’s rights. But those rights need not be “fundamental” (in the classical sense) and, therefore, almost all prohibitions qualify.
“Unpopular group” has not been a legal designation under the Court’s precedents. Anyhow, it is hard to imagine a more unpopular group that practioners of bestiality.
Agav, Windsor is really a 5th Amendment Due Process case, applying the “equal protection aspects” of that clause.
July 2, 2013 8:14 pm at 8:14 pm #965232yytzParticipantI see what you’re saying, though I don’t agree completely. An “unpopular group” has in fact been a term used by the Court. See this sentence from Windsor:
The thing about practitioners of bestiality is that they’re not really a “group” in any recognizable way; they’re just people who happen to all have some desire or practice in common. For this reason I don’t think the Court would take seriously their complaints of being discriminated against. Gays, by contrast, have everyone treating them as if they’re a full-fledged race. (Toeiva advocates can barely talk about their issues without invoking race metaphors.) This doesn’t make sense — it’s just how it is. They see themselves as a social group and so does the law.
It’s in Kagan’s interest (as a member of the hard left of the Court) to spin this case as primarily being about moral disapproval, because that’s a broader concept than animus and it increases the likelihood that Windsor will be used as a precedent to impose toieva marriage everywhere.
Windsor does use the term disapproval (once). But Windsor says a lot more than moral disapproval — it also mentions animus, bare desire to harm, etc. Even if there is some great unexplained significance to the term disapproval, it doesn’t mean that any laws based on moral disapproval are invalid. Rather, it would mean that laws based on moral disapproval that are meant solely to harm the disapproved-of group call for heightened scrutiny or are invalid.
The funny thing is that the Court’s decision does not say whether it is applying rational-basis or heightened scrutiny, while Scalia’s dissent seems to argue that the majority either employed rational-basis review or was a substantial-due-process case in disguise, and Alito’s dissent says the Court used some kind of heightened scrutiny. Confusing indeed. I believe Kennedy is known for his confusing opinions — this case will certainly support that aspect of his reputation.
July 3, 2013 12:25 am at 12:25 am #965233benignumanParticipantI agree that Kennedy is very vague in Windsor. But leaving Windsor aside, he did categorize the issue as being about moral disapproval in Lawrence:
“For many persons these are not trivial concerns but profound and deep convictions accepted as ethical and moral principles to which they aspire and which thus determine the course of their lives. These considerations do not answer the question before us, however. The issue is whether the majority may use the power of the State to enforce these views on the whole society through operation of the criminal law. Our obligation is to define the liberty of all, not to mandate our own moral code.”
Kennedy also expressly adopted the following statement originaly written by Justice Stevens in his dissent in Bowers: “the fact that the governing majority in a State has traditionally viewed a particular practice as immoral is not a sufficient reason for upholding a law prohibiting the practice.”
Lawrence overturned Bowers on exactly those grounds. Bowers held that moral disapproval was a valid basis for a law restricting liberty and the Lawrence held it was not a valid basis.
Under Lawrence bestiality laws should be unconstitutional.
July 3, 2013 7:05 am at 7:05 am #965234popa_bar_abbaParticipantThis is absolute nonsense. Even in states where gay marriage is prohibited, there are many gay couples who have lived together for decades and consider themselves to be “married” even if the state doesn’t. They’re no more likely to break up than they would be with an official marriage license.
Actually, gay relationships are usually very different than straight relationships in fundamental ways. Importantly, they do not have the same concept of exclusivity with one’s partner. This is not controversial and not debated. So to compare the relationships is kinda silly.
Furthermore, sure, those relationships *can* end. But even when they do, the gay people will just find new partners, or engage in sexual activity outside of relationships. There is no way to “become straight again” because homosexuality is biological.
That is a nice opinion. I don’t know why you declare it though as if undisputed fact. It is in no way known that homosexuality is biological in the way you mean (I think the better word for what you mean is congenital.)
July 3, 2013 12:28 pm at 12:28 pm #965235heretohelpMemberAnd how did popa become such an expert on homosexuality?
July 3, 2013 1:41 pm at 1:41 pm #965236yytzParticipant“Under Lawrence bestiality laws should be unconstitutional.”
I don’t think so. The Lawrence court emphasized the fact that the sodomy was consensual. See this quote from Lawrence:
“The present case does not involve minors. It does not involve persons who might be injured or coerced or who are situated in relationships where consent might not easily be refused.”
July 3, 2013 1:55 pm at 1:55 pm #965237benignumanParticipantNobody knows what causes homosexuality.
The following is a quote from the American Psychological Association on the topic:
“There is no consensus among scientists about the exact reasons that an individual develops a heterosexual, bisexual, gay, or lesbian orientation. Although much research has examined the possible genetic, hormonal, developmental, social, and cultural influences on sexual orientation, no findings have emerged that permit scientists to conclude that sexual orientation is determined by any particular factor or factors. Many think that nature and nurture both play complex roles; most people experience little or no sense of choice about their sexual orientation.”
“Research over several decades has demonstrated that sexual orientation ranges along a continuum.”
There is a myth out there that science has demonstrated homosexuality to be “genetic” or biologically “hardwired” and that orientation is like a switch either on or off. Neither are true.
July 3, 2013 3:06 pm at 3:06 pm #965238popa_bar_abbaParticipantAnd how did popa become such an expert on homosexuality?
Same way he became an expert on everything else.
10% paying attention to the world, and 90% boich.
July 3, 2013 4:35 pm at 4:35 pm #965239HealthParticipantyytz -“I don’t think so. The Lawrence court emphasized the fact that the sodomy was consensual.”
So now are the courts gonna say that polygamy is Not consensual?
Hypocrisy at its’ finest. Is there a way to impeach Judges? I think the Courts have erased the morality that was founded by the forefathers with their decisions of abortion and Pro-Toeiva.
The forefathers are turning over in their graves how these people have manipulated their constitution to allow all this immorality.
July 3, 2013 5:07 pm at 5:07 pm #965241benignumanParticipantyytz,
Bestiality can be consensual too. In fact it can be initiated by the animal (there is a Gemara in Kesubos that describes such an occurence and my understanding is that this is not uncommon [relatively speaking of course]).
That being said, I can see a distinction between the two. However, I do not believe that distinction (the greater potential for abuse) is the reason why we treat the two differently. The real reason is that we find it perverse, disgusting and morally deplorable.
July 3, 2013 9:11 pm at 9:11 pm #965243jewishfeminist02MemberSaid Fr. Arne Panula, Director of the Catholic Information Center, in a recent press release:
[Supreme Court’s decisions on Prop 8 and DOMA]
The future of the family is the future of society. I couldn’t agree more. (Maybe we have more in common with the Catholics than we thought…)
July 4, 2013 12:02 am at 12:02 am #965244HealthParticipantjewishfeminist02 -“This is absolute nonsense. Even in states where gay marriage is prohibited, there are many gay couples who have lived together for decades and consider themselves to be “married” even if the state doesn’t. They’re no more likely to break up than they would be with an official marriage license.”
Just as much nonsense as Not allowing polygamy, except polygamy is a crime, not like Toeiva. And your argument will apply to polygamy also.
“because homosexuality is biological.”
So when s/o starts becoming like this at 40 -where were they all these years? Late bloomers – huh?
“No straight woman in her right mind would ever want to be married to a gay man.”
But there are Toeivaniks that have split loyalties and these were forced out of the pool by the Court ruling.
July 5, 2013 12:38 am at 12:38 am #965245adamsParticipantFrom a frum perspective, the gay person if they are from the Orthodox community, should make efforts to change the behavior, (or attraction?) but what should they do if they cannot win that battle?
If they are forced into hetero marriages the likelihood is that they will find a side person. Of course, they are probably very in the closet so it won’t come up. I can see them being pressured in shidduchim and having a problem. I am assuming that most of these folks are in the closet. So in a way, it would be better to let them be out of the closet thereby not forcing them in the normative Shidduchim parsha.
I have heard of a couple of such folks who do not engage in actual act of prohibited but simply prefer their company.
I don’t say I have proof that this is so but from what I read they are genuine Ye’ras Shomayim oriented.
Would there in fact be an Avairah, if they lived withhout that particular act?
July 5, 2013 7:09 pm at 7:09 pm #965246HealthParticipantadams -“From a frum perspective, the gay person if they are from the Orthodox community, should make efforts to change the behavior, (or attraction?) but what should they do if they cannot win that battle?”
Then they aren’t Frum anymore!
“I can see them being pressured in shidduchim and having a problem. I am assuming that most of these folks are in the closet. So in a way, it would be better to let them be out of the closet thereby not forcing them in the normative Shidduchim parsha.”
Pressure and forcing are two different things. If s/o doesn’t like people of the opposite gender -they shouldn’t marry until, if they can, work out their issues.
“I have heard of a couple of such folks who do not engage in actual act of prohibited but simply prefer their company.
I don’t say I have proof that this is so but from what I read they are genuine Ye’ras Shomayim oriented.”
This to me is a Chiddush, but if it’s true -these are the minority.
Most Frum people that I know that became this way -aren’t what you call Frum anymore.
“Would there in fact be an Avairah, if they lived withhout that particular act?”
I’m not a Poisek, but I think the S’A says the Issur of Yichud would apply.
July 5, 2013 8:26 pm at 8:26 pm #965247Sam2ParticipantHealth: It’s not an Issur Yichud. It’s just an Eitzah Tovah to avoid Yichud.
July 5, 2013 11:11 pm at 11:11 pm #965248HealthParticipantSam2 -“Health: It’s not an Issur Yichud. It’s just an Eitzah Tovah to avoid Yichud.”
Time to Chazer S’A. EH 24 says where there are Prizim you should be Marchik and the Gra says because the only Heter is because we aren’t Choshet.
So in this guy’s case it’s Not a Chumra but an Issur.
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