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Can a single woman housesit at her neighbor’s home when her neighbor goes out of town if her neighbor has a grandfather clock in the living room?
It might actually be a grandmother clock. Did you ask?
By the way, Yichud does not matter if one is single or married. Actually, the consequences could be worse if the woman is married.
As long as there is a La-Z-Boy or Fry Daddy (an electric deep fryer, for those who may have never seen one), Mike&Ike candies, etc, no problem.If the woman is married, she can bring her husband. For single women that is not an option.
Is it permitted for a man and a woman to be the sole posters on on CR thread? BTW, theSepharadim have separate “mi sheberach”s for the cholim and cholot, or as some put it, the mitrapim and mitrapot (OK, the nusachot are different. The women are called “hanashim hakevodot”. I told them to be careful it does not come out “hanashim hakevedot”).
Not to worry, it doesn’t work:
My Grandfather’s ClockMy grandfather’s clock was too large for the shelf
So it stood ninety years on the floor
It was taller by half than the old man himself
Though it weighed not a pennyweight more
It was bought on the morn of the day that he was born
And was always his treasure and pride
But it stopped, short never to go again
When the old man died
Ninety years without slumbering
His life seconds numbering
It stopped, short never to go again
When the old man died
My grandfather said that of those he could hire
Not a servant so faithful he found
For it wasted no time and had but one desire
At the close of each week to be wound
And it kept in its place, not a frown upon its face
And its hands never hung by its side
But it stopped short, never to go again
When the old man diedI’ve been sick with some virus that I caught from the kids and spending way too much time in bed with nothing to read but the CR. Either the virus is attacking my rational brain or my immune system is weakened and your sense of humor is contagious.
Refuah Shelaima!
Actually, yichud can be more of a problem if the woman is single. If she’s married and her husband is in town, it might not be a problem halachically.
There are always the silent lurkers and the mods.
A single girl with her brother would be yichud for a second man?
Lilmod, that does not sound right.
Rebshidduch, there is a concept called ืืขืื ืืขืืจ “her husband is in the city”. According to halacha, if a woman’s husband is in the same city, the laws of yichud are more lenient. This is because there is a fear that he may come home at any moment.
One should ask a sheilah before applying this leniency as it may depend on the situation.
It definitely can make things easier in certain circumstances:
1. When you have a Frum workman over
2. If you have a boy boarding/living by you.I know someone who relied on this leniency when a teenage boy who couldn’t live at home was living by them. Otherwise, he would never have been able to be in the house when she was home and her husband wasn’t which would make things very complicated, since women are generally home a lot more than their husbands.
But lilmod, in LB’s story, the woman is house-sitting in a neighbor’s house, alone with the grandfather clock. I think that halacha would only apply to the husband coming to his own home, no?
You forgot the tick-tock-tick-tock sound effects part after the slumbering and numbering…
I didn’t know anyone else knew that song!WTP – oh, good point. I’m not sure though. I feel like I may have read something about using this heter for doctors’ visits, but it was years ago, and I really don’t know if I am remembering right.
I do think that the heter is based on her fear of her husband, so I can see how it might be possible that it would apply even not in her own home (since it’s not just based on the technical fact that he might walk home but on her feeling of fear which might be there just based on knowing he’s in the city).
But I’m really not sure.
Ummm… A grandfather clock is not a person
Meno – really? So you mean there is no halachic issue here???
I’m not a rabbi
Iโm not a rabbi
So how do you know that a grandfather clock is not a person?
Regarding yichud with non-persons:
I once worked at a job at which I was allowed to choose my own hours according to my convenience. This arrangement worked really well for me since I was allowed to go to work and leave whenever I felt like it.There was only one man who worked there besides the boss. One day, he told me that he lost his key so he wanted to know what hours I was going to be there since he didn’t have a key to get in or lock out so he could only work when someone else was there, and I was the only one who ever worked in the evenings.
I had asked a sheilah about yichud and was told it was no problem since there were other people in the building and since anyone could enter at any time. But it was annoying for me to have to decide exactly when I was going to be working. The reason I liked the job was precisely because I could work when I felt like it.
However, since it was a one-time thing, I didn’t make a big deal out of it. But then he kept asking me every day to let him know when I’d be working. I couldn’t deal with that, so I asked him why he didn’t just ask for a new key. He said his Rav had told him he’s not allowed to have the yichud with the computer, so that’s why he didn’t have a key.
I told this story to someone and he thought it was funny that “yichud” with a woman was okay but not with a computer. I also thought it sounded funny, but I also thought it made sense.
The differences are:
1. It’s easier to be machshil with a computer, because you can convince yourself that it’s not a “real” aveira.
2. With another person, both people have to be nechshol.
3. People are embarrassed to do something wrong in front of other people.
4. It wasn’t yichud for me because someone could come in at any time. With a computer, it’s easy to quickly shut it off when you hear/see someone coming.That being said, I don’t think anyone would say there’s a yichud problem with a clock. And I don’t think you have to be a rabbi for that “psak”.
Winnie The Poo, I assume you deliberately omitted the George Foreman from the list because he isn’t a ืืฉืจ.
I think it’s important to point out that the ืืืชืจ of ืืขืื ืืขืืจ does not apply in the case of ืืื ืืก ืื, which may well include a next door neighbor or a boarder.
“I think itโs important to point out that the ืืืชืจ of ืืขืื ืืขืืจ does not apply in the case of ืืื ืืก ืื, which may well include a next door neighbor or a boarder.”
Thank you for pointing that out. I was wondering about that. I am pretty sure that I know people who relied on that heter for a boarder. On the other hand, I know people who were extra careful about yichud when I lived by them for that reason. I am guessing that it’s more complicated when the issue involves a single girl as opposed to a married lady and a teenage boy.
About 12 years ago, my Rav said to me that if there had been internet in the time of Chazal, they would have instituted a gezeira or something of that sort, that would make it yichud for a man to be alone with a PC that is connected to the web. At the time I was considering a business to look up things for people in my area (medical, repairs, warrantee info, directions, whatever they needed), who did not have access to the web. I had many acquaintances who were always asking me to print out stuff for them, or would call me for directions because they were lost. I don’t think it was his opinion alone. It sounded like the concept had been discussed among other Rabbonim.
In some communities, long before TAG was born, it was a given that if someone had internet access in their home it should only be located in a central location. And there are families where the password on their internet filter – or maybe the password for the master user account is made up of two parts. The husband knows one half, and the wife knows one half. They set up their computer that only a master account can access the web. That is the way they protect each other from using the computer clandestinely, or changing any protective settings. They both have to be present, and informed when either one of them is going online.
Obviously this only works when the couple are true yirei shamayim, who, as a team are trying to make sure they don’t fall into a bottomless pit of “trouble” when using the internet.
sometimes girls have boys’ names and vice versa. You can’t judge someone’s gender by their name (just look at the CR)
Is it yichud if there’s little tikes around?
bmyer- good one
how old are the little tikes?Even if they are men, as long as they are Frum and not “prutzim”, it ‘s fine. Two men and one woman is not yichud (as long as they are Frum and not “prutzim”.
Although if one of them is a man and the other is a woman, you have a problem. What kind of a name is Ike?
But then again, they hang out so much together, I assume they are married, so in that case, it’s fine anyhow.Ike is short for Isaac.
They’re prutzim, though. Did you ever see the loud colors they dress in?
“Ike is short for Isaac.:
Thank you. I hadn’t known that. I guess they are Jewish then – ืืืืื and ืืฆืืง
LB – little tikes is a term for little kids. According to halacha, if there are kids in the room/house (I think you need one boy and one girl), then it might not be yichud. But they have to be a certain age. It is not the same age at which yichud would actually apply to them.
Joesph, no it is not a problem for her brother.
If they are men, they are allowed to wear loud colors.
LB – I’m sure it was a play on words – I just wasn’t sure if you got the other meaning of the word. Sorry for doubting you.
I think he means – is it yichud for the second guy? I’m fairly certain that it’s not, but I don’t want to say 100% for sure.
Any time there are people present for whom there is not a problem of Yichud, there is no problem for anyone else who is there. Since the brother and sister are allowed to be together, there is no problem for the second man either.
Mr. Clean is definitely a Parutz. I believe the same is true for Cap’n Crunch. I don’t know about Granny Smith, but it’s a moot point since she’s a woman.
Gefen and Manischewitz, though, should be ok (as long as they’re both present).little tikes is the toy brand
tyke is a small child. note spelling difference.
It was an obvious and cute play on words.“Any time there are people present for whom there is not a problem of Yichud, there is no problem for anyone else who is there. ”
That’s what I thought, although I wasn’t 100% sure. Also, one case in which I don’t know whether or not that rule applies and I’m not sure what the halacha is: If there is 1 man, 1 married woman whose husband is in town, and 1 single girl.
It’s not a problem for the married woman since her husband is in town (assuming all necessary conditions for this rule to apply are in place), but would that make it okay for the single girl? ืืขืื ืืขืืจ doesn’t help her, so why should it be okay just because it’s okay for the other lady?There is an expectation that nothing inappropriate will be allowed to occur, since the married woman in any case won’t participate.
This psychological insight provides the basis for much of ืืืืืช ืืืื.
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