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  • #597090
    bpt
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    A while back, there was a discussion about the required guidelines. Sacrilege (and possibly others) noted “toes and heels” need to be covered to which I expressed my surprise to hearing that heels are included in the “must cover” list.

    What I meant to say is, I am surprized that heels need to be “covered” as in only closed back shoes maybe worn. Many people wear sling back shoes, so how does this mesh with the understanding of tznius a large part of Orthodoxy adheres to?

    It was then I realized my mistake. While I see many people in my circle / neighborhood wearing sling back shoes, IT IS WHILE THE LEGS ARE COVERED WITH HOSE OR TIGHTS, and not bare legged.

    My point in this post is not to debate wether or not bare legs are ok or not; its merely to clarify whatI meant to say, and retract the comment I made that sounds like taking bare legs lightly.

    I realize that my statement could be misunderstood, and for this I apologize.

    #771834
    shlishi
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    Many people wear sling back shoes, so how does this mesh with the understanding of tznius a large part of Orthodoxy adheres to?

    Oy! This is how non-tznius dress spreads unfortunately. Just because “a large part of Orthodoxy” does something, does not make it permissible.

    #771835
    apushatayid
    Participant

    Obviously, someone still does not understand 🙁

    #771836
    charliehall
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    ‘Just because “a large part of Orthodoxy” does something, does not make it permissible.’

    Actually, numerous poskim over the centuries have used that argument to declare things mutar.

    #771837
    Sacrilege
    Member

    My name in the OP! *squeal*

    ‘t

    I didnt realize that you didnt understand that I wear open toe and sling backs… just gotta have ’em trusty uh, hose as you call them underneath.

    #771838
    oomis
    Participant

    Just because “a large part of Orthodoxy” does something, does not make it permissible. “

    And conversely, just because “a SMALL part of Orthodoxy” does something, does not make it assur.

    #771839
    bpt
    Participant

    ” Obviously, someone still does not understand 🙁 “

    Sorry, let me try again.

    Last week, someone said that “heels need to be covered” to comply with tznius.

    I said I never heard of that.

    What I meant was, heels (that are covered with hose or tights or socks) can be “exposed” as in sling back shoes.

    But what it may have sounded like, was that I was saying its ok to go bare legged, with heels exposed.

    And that is not what I meant to say.

    #771840
    oomis
    Participant

    Actually, numerous poskim over the centuries have used that argument to declare things mutar. “

    Good point. Acharei rabbim l’hatos.

    #771841
    me too
    Member

    Or struggled to find a ????? ???? ??????

    #771842
    oomis
    Participant

    And conversely, just because “a SMALL part of Orthodoxy” does something, does not make it assur.”

    I am correcting myself, humbly. I MEANT to say, just because a small part of Orthodoxy does something,does not make it HALACHA.

    #771843
    bpt
    Participant

    ” just because a small part of Orthodoxy does something,does not make it HALACHA. “

    That. Oomis, depends on which “part” is doing the doing 🙂

    (does a smiley face count the same as the sarcasm face?)

    😉

    #771845
    Dave Hirsch
    Participant

    bpt,

    Can you name one Posek who rules that toes/heels may not be uncovered?

    Shok B’Isha Erva is above the ankle according to the most stringent opinions. The Shevet Halevi rules that a woman does not have to wear stockings if her skirt reaches below her ankle.

    #771846
    bpt
    Participant

    As I noted in the OP, I was stating MY opinion, so no, I don’t have to name a posek; its what we (meaning the larger BP community) accepts as the standard.

    Does your Rov says is ok for your wife / adult daughter to walk outside bare legged? I’d love to hear it. (not the name, just that you asked, and he said yes)

    #771847
    oomis
    Participant

    “(does a smiley face count the same as the sarcasm face?)

    😉 “

    Sometimes, but not usually. 🙂

    (And yes, I got it)

    #771848
    bpt
    Participant

    Here’s another tznius issue that recently came up.

    At a simcha, a family friend wore a dress made of black and a contrast color / contrast fabric. Without going into too much detail, the construction of the dress and placement of the contrast fabric, was done to acheive maximum impact and maximum wow factor.

    Some of the other women were scandalized, and some were livid, becuase now the bar just got moved. Because the livid ones don;t like to lose at this game, and the stakes just got higher.

    To be fair, all the tznius checkpoints (elbows, knees, ect) of the dress were within the accepted parameters, and she was wearing pumps, so even the heels were covered!

    But was the woman dressed tnizusdik?

    You decide.

    #771849

    absolutely not

    #771850
    A Heimishe Mom
    Participant

    I can’t give you a posek, but I have been told, that heels should not be exposed is a ruling from the days of the gemara when women, who always wore skirts to the floor – or close to it – would put little bags of perfume under their heels so that as they would walk a pleseant smell would be emitted to attract attention. The implication was that you should at the very least wear socks (or “hose”) when wearing backless/slingback footwear. But Halacha l’Moshe miSinai? no.

    #771851
    A Heimishe Mom
    Participant

    bpt: The big issue is the spirit of the law vs the letter of the law. Was the letter followed? Yes, it was. The spirit? Not at all. This problem is rampant. Even the frum stores don’t see it anymore!

    #771852
    adorable
    Participant

    no she was not dressed properly. heard a great story from reb. leah horowitz- she walked into a store and was horrified to see hoe a certain frum girl was dressed. when she was trying to figure it all out she realized that the girls was all perfectly covered but was dressed like a cowboy. the “look” was very wrong!

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