Touro 23rd Street

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  • #608090

    What does yeshivah world think of a girl who went to bais yaakov schools and then to seminary, going to touro college SCAS (mixed program), regarding shidduchim?

    #930757
    shein
    Member

    Lower your shidduch expectations.

    #930758
    OneOfMany
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    Why do you prefer it over Touro’s other programs?

    #930759

    🙁 I’m looking for a learner/earner type of guy..

    #930760
    singleme
    Member

    It depends on the girl if you just go in and out of class-no socializing it’s not a real issue. also depends on what type of guys your dating (If it’s solely to go to class-not a big deal in my opinion but if your going to touro why not go to touro thats separate?-if that’s a concern)

    #930761
    ThePurpleOne
    Member

    ur doing scas for a long time or just one semester? cuz scas doesnt have the greatest ppl in it…mainly blacks..

    #930762
    Torah613Torah
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    Onthemarket: Why are you going there? Is it the undergraduate or graduate SCAS division? The undergraduate is a problem in terms of tznius, like any other college. The graduate division, depending on your program, is generally not a problem and no one should question your going there.

    I’ve had good experiences visiting classes in SCAS, but the other Jewish people in the class ranged from secular to MO Liberal types.

    #930763
    ThePurpleOne
    Member

    i think shes a girl so not a huge tznius prob.. more like good surrondings and classmates i think

    #930764
    OneOfMany
    Participant

    torah613: Why is undergraduate more of a tznius problem than graduate study?

    #930765
    gavra_at_work
    Participant

    It is a positive to be in a controlled mixed environment. But then again, I wasn’t asking my shver for life support.

    #930766

    I am at touro scas for undergrad just because they offer day classes while all the non mixed ones only offer evening classes…is that a good enough reason/excuse???

    #930767
    OneOfMany
    Participant

    Check into Lander College for Women.

    #930768
    anon1m0us
    Participant

    on the market: Most learning boys won’t care as long as you support:)

    #930769
    Torah613Torah
    Participant

    On the market: Lander College for Women in Manhattan also has day classes, has an honors program if you’re interested, and has kosher food in the cafeteria, as well as really nice fellow students. It’s only a few minutes extra from Brooklyn once you’re going to 23rd street. I would go to LCW if day classes is your only issue (that was my reason for not going to Flatbush too, and I was very happy with my choice.)

    If you tell us your major, I can tell you what the positives and negatives are. I know the Touro system of undergrad pretty well. 🙂

    #930770
    truthsharer
    Member

    Just go to Brooklyn College, it’s much cheaper and you’ll have the same Beis Yaakov (or yeshiva if you’re a guy) experience as Touro.

    #930771
    Torah613Torah
    Participant

    Truthsharer: No, you won’t. And if you’re smart, the Touro scholarships can make your tuition cheaper in Touro than anywhere else.

    #930772
    anon1m0us
    Participant

    truthsharer: Don’t go there. That topic was already discussed and I agree, Brooklyn is a more affordable and better college. However, you’ll have a hard time convincing these people of that.

    #930773
    Health
    Participant

    truthsharer -“Just go to Brooklyn College, it’s much cheaper and you’ll have the same Beis Yaakov (or yeshiva if you’re a guy) experience as Touro.”

    How anybody here can push Brooklyn College after what they are allowing people over there to do with their Anti -Israel protest is beyond me. Nowadays being Anti-Israel, unless you’re NK, is just Antisemitism. Why would any Jew esp. a Frum one support such a school?

    #930774

    first of all im not going to landers because they require you to take judaic classes every semester, which will slow me down and because its muuchh more expensive. But would the learner/ earner guys mind a girl who is in a mixed college???

    #930775
    popa_bar_abba
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    There are no learner/earner guys. Don’t waste your time looking for them or preening your pedigree for them.

    #930776
    OneOfMany
    Participant

    So seeing as you are going to a mixed college anyway…why exactly did you choose SCAS? There are many cheaper options (that would give you a better education to boot).

    #930777

    If I can weigh in on various comments…

    1. Based on the websites, Brooklyn College is just under $3,000 per semester (with fees) while SCAS is close to $6,500. LCW is upwards of $8,000. While I don’t doubt that SOME people get good enough scholarships from Touro to make it the cheaper option, I would think that those people are in the minority. (Very much in the minority.)

    2. Assuming that you are not dorming, LCW is not THAT much more expensive than SCAS. But, like you said, it probably will slow you down.

    3. I’m sure there are learner/earner guys out there.

    4. I’m no expert shadchan or anything like that, but it seems to me that with 7 billion people in the world, you’ve got a match. I think good general advice would be to live your life – in the way you see as proper – and you’ll find someone who fits you. Are there SOME people who will not want to marry you because you went to Touro on 23rd street and not 60th? Probably. But considering that you don’t think there’s anything wrong with 23rd street, do you think that those are the people for you to marry?

    5. Why is it that Neturei Karta is allowed to hate Israel but others aren’t?

    6. Somebody asked for your major. Depending on your major, it really might make sense to steer clear of Touro.

    #930778

    Because i was already in a different touro campus and i didnt want to deal with transfering credits and because i dont have to worry about having school on yommim tovim and because there is more jewish people in scas then any other college. but can anybody answer my question of if guys would care if im a mixed setting????

    #930779
    Torah613Torah
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    on the market: Dating is a mixed setting by definition. Whoever is destined to marry you will marry you regardless of where you go. Like Popa wisely said, you really can’t try to make your life around the person you imagine will marry you, just do what is best for you now and will help you grow the most where you are.

    On the topic, I am pretty sure that LCW in Manhattan is MUCH better than SCAS, I know a lovely person who transferred from SCAS there.

    #930780

    yea but thats my problem! That i know now that i am in a mixed college more then ever, how wrong and bad it is and how noooo frum person should be in his setting for ANY reason. What goes on there is horrible and i was even asked out a few times. so anyways my point is that I want a guy who disagrees with going to not jewish colleges, but then im contradicting myself because i am in one…

    #930781
    Torah613Torah
    Participant

    yea but thats my problem! That i know now that i am in a mixed college more then ever, how wrong and bad it is and how noooo frum person should be in his setting for ANY reason. What goes on there is horrible and i was even asked out a few times. so anyways my point is that I want a guy who disagrees with going to not jewish colleges, but then im contradicting myself because i am in one…

    On the market: That is a problem. It’s not terrible to be asked out, merely uncomfortable, but it doesn’t seem that you want to be the type of person whom one usually finds in that setting.

    You can’t realistically ask for something that you really aren’t holding by, so if you are serious about wanting a frummer type of boy, who, were he to ch”v (jk) go to college, would be in a frum one, you probably should switch to a frum college.

    In general, a mixed college is a bad place for a girl to be. I don’t know what it’s like for boys, but I find it very difficult. You can’t be too friendly or unfriendly, you have to make sure nothing you say can ever be misunderstood and there are constant challenges.

    #930782

    yes its very bad when it comes from frum guys wearing their tzizis out…pretending to be the whole thing and then acting totally different.

    #930783
    OneOfMany
    Participant

    how wrong and bad it is and how noooo frum person should be in his setting for ANY reason.

    If that’s what you believe, then WHY ARE YOU THERE.

    #930784

    “That i know now that i am in a mixed college more then ever, how wrong and bad it is and how noooo frum person should be in his setting for ANY reason.”

    on the market:

    If that’s really what you believe, maybe you should switch. Based on the calculations I listed earlier, the monetary difference between different Touro schools is not that great (though it might take longer in a different school and I obviously don’t know your financial situation).

    Anyway, since you seem to really be concerned about this, let me just say that I’m guessing the majority of people you’d be interested in wouldn’t have a problem dating someone who went to SCAS. (Though I should say that I’m not entirely sure what you’re looking for; I’ve heard the term learner-earner used, but I don’t think I’ve ever heard it defined.)

    Also, I think a lot of frum people wold disagree with you about being in a mixed college setting. For example, BJJ’s founder got a doctorate from Columbia. (I don’t know, but) I would guess that she didn’t think it was such a horrible thing.

    #930785
    WIY
    Member

    Torah

    Non Jewish men are asking you out?!

    #930786
    Torah613Torah
    Participant

    On the market: It sounds like you really want to switch, but have other reasons you are not telling us that is making this a major challenge. That’s fine but you really need to think on it.

    WIY: It would be so much better if it was Jewish men who aren’t frum?

    Edit: It’s not like it happens all the time, and I make it pretty clear I’m not interested if I so much as sense interest. But I can’t even imagine what it’s like for someone straight out of BY.

    #930787
    SaysMe
    Member

    a bit of a late reply, but

    on the market, if you were asked out a few times in just a few months, maybe consider if you’re being too friendly?

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