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hay if you have tips on living a happy and fulfilling life please share.
Set the bar low
איזהו עשיר השמח בחלקו if a person appreciates what he has to gain the most benefit out of it, and does not desire what others have, will find fulfillment and happiness in his life. עשיר stands for עינים. שנים, ידים, רגלים.
write down every single day at least 5 good things in your life. may be simple things as:
i had a good night sleep;
i am healthy;
i have food for today;
i have family/relatives;
i have a roof over my head;
i have clean cloths for today;
i have some income;
i have heat;
my phone is working;
i have ‘theyeshivaworld’ to go to.
I am sure you can add many more things.
do this every single day, and THINK about the good things you are writing downTake a trip to a hospital and see how many reasons you have to be happy
We should always say, גם זו לטובה this also is for the best.
Keep in mind כל מה דעביד רחמנא לטב עביד everything Hashem does is for the good. Thw Chasam Sofer explains וראית את אחורי ופני לא יראו we only see the benefits from hindsight.
Main tip for being happy – take care of yourself
Learning Torah makes one the happiest possible.
live in the present and appreciate what Hakadosh baruch hu gives you! Don’t live with regret from the past and don’t worry about the future!
Live a life of bitachon and emunah in Hashem (faith and trust) when a person’s entire life is around bitachon and emunah then you get to be the happiest person in the world cause nothing in the world can effect you. EVERYTHING in your life from your health to livlihood and family etc… Is ALL around Hashem the king of kings and ruler of the world. And not aroaround your job, Rebbe or doctor etc…. These are all middlemen and just agents of Hashem but ONLY HASHEM can help you with anything from health to livlihood to happiness etc….
Start to make a daily learning time of the Sefer Chovos Halevovos (Duties of the heart)
May Hashem help you with all your needs whenever you Call out directly to Hashem from your heart
Two things guarantee happiness: gratitude and חסד. Be grateful to Hakodos Boruch Hu, and do חסד to other people. Both will fill you with happiness, I promise you.
A happy marriage. How do you have a happy marriage? mutual respect. Open and honest communication. Shared goals and aspirations. Shared responsibilities.
But what if you are a yeshiva bachur how can you be happy without a wife.
Dance daily and you will be happy every day. Don’t worry, when you dance you will see that you have reason to be happy. Whether you’re married or not.
cg1994, The Ibn Ezre says, מה שהיה – אין what was, is gone, מה שהוא – עדיין, what is is and מה שיהיה – מנין what will be is unknown. Live in the present, `חזק ויאמץ לבך וקוה אל ה strenghten your heart and trust Hashem.
smile no matter what is going on
I think the Slonimer Rebbe or someone said that the best way to be happy is working on your middos.
contrary to common conception
A person chooses to be happy or not
“וְשָׂמַחְתָּ֣ בְכׇל־הַטֹּ֗וב אֲשֶׁ֧ר נָֽתַן־לְךָ֛ וכו'”
the choice to focus on the good or the badcontrary to common conception
being happy is a choice or bechirah
“ושמחת בכל הטוב אשר נתן לך ה’ וכו”
to choose to look at the good instead of the bad is to choose to be happyמי האיש החפץ חיים אוהב ימים לראות טוב in order to appreciate and love the dqys, see the good in them.
Joeshmo, if you are getting married in order to be happy, that means that you wanto be a ‘Taker’, taking from your spouse whatever you can to make you happy. this approach is not a healthy one for a happy marriage. To be a ‘Giver’, to give to your spouse constantly is the health approach for a happy marriage.
The Ben Ish Chai says, עבירה stands for הב ירע when someone says constantly, give me, is and will be bad.
On Purim we say ארור המן ברוך מרדכי on Chanukah there is argument between Beis Shamai and Beis Hilel how to light. Is the destructiion of our enemies or salvation of us greater? The gematria for Purim is the same, but ארור is greater than המן indicating that he diminished, whereas ברוך is less than מרדכי indicating he was elevated. The Beis Hilel emphasizes the elevation of the spirit whereas the Beis Shamai the dimishment of the phisical and material. The Maasei Hashem says on the Haggadah of Pesach on והקב’ה מצילנו מידם and HKBH saves us from their hands, saving is greater than destruction. Saving proofs that Hashem loves us, but their destruction does not prove we are good only that they are bad.
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