throwing a boy out of school

Sometimes it isn’t.

I heard a story once about a bachur in a Satmar yeshiva who did a truly outrageous aveira. It wasn’t specified in the story what he did, but apparently it was very bad. Everyone wanted him thrown out of the yeshiva. They went to Reb Yoel and asked if they should expel him. He said absolutely not – what would become of him if he was cut off from Torah. So he was allowed to stay and, long story short, many years later he’s a fine Yid with a fine family and a pillar of their community.

This is a volatile topic. What is saddest is that the Gedolei Yisroel of recent generations have provided guidance on the subject, and the current practice is to ignore that completely.

The expected arguments include the mismatch of a talmid to a yeshiva, and that expulsion rectifies this. We will also hear a position that some behavior is that serious that expulsion is the only fitting consequence.

There are other reasons besides behavior that have prompted yeshivos to throw out talmidim. One of them is the non-payment of tuition. That subject has yielded much rage, and gedolim have spoken up on the matter. We all know that running a yeshiva is expensive, and that most yeshivos are running at a deficit. How expulsion solves the problem is still difficult to explain.

The expulsion issue today is even more serious than it was decades ago. The street is an extremely dangerous place. And getting accepted after being thrown out is harder than scaling a cliff. But I do not run a yeshiva, and cannot address every single aspect to the issue.

R’ Yaakov Bender shlita often tells a story about his Rebbe, R’ Shmuel Berenbaum zt”l. There was a bochur in the Mir who developed a gambling problem. He ended up drawing in others in an attempt to deal with his own mounting debt.
R’ Bender, along with a few other elder bochurim, approached the Rosh Yeshiva, and told him about the situation, and they told him they felt the boy must be expelled. They weren’t prepared for the response that followed. R’ Berenbaum yelled at them, “Did you fast 40 taneisim before making such a decision?!?! How can you decide dinei nefashos without fasting for 40 days?”
R’ Berenbaum worked closely with the bochur, and he eventually turned his life around, and became a well-known talmud chacham (of course, R’ Bender never says who he is.)

We in the CR can’t say someone should be kicked out of a school.

Or to put it simply, just because you “can” (legally) doesn’t mean you should. The OP frames the question as “is it right” which I interpret to mean is it consistent with daas torah as well as morally.

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Can you imagine how bad yiddishkeit would be if he wasn’t thrown out of Yeshiva?

Trotzsky was thrown out of yeshiva

Copy and paste from a comment by zahavadad on a thread some years ago.

Once a Rav brought another rav to meet with the Chofetz Chaim , and the Chofetz Chaim threw the second rav out. As the Chofetz Chaim was not known to act this way. The came back a second time and he threw them out again.

The came back a third time and before he could throw them out, The 2nd rav (The one who was thrown out) asked, Why do you throw me out.

The Chofetz Chaim asked him do you remember Lev Bronstein. The rav answered. YES I do. I had to throw him out of the yeshiva..

The Chofetz Chaim told him that Lev Bronstein was now Leon Trotsky head of the Bolshevik Revolution.

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Nice lomdus. But a great many gedolei Yisroel challenged that. The Satmar Rebbe ZT”L once told a Rosh Yeshiva who feared that a talmid would have negative influence on the other 26 talmidim to throw out those 26, and give all his time to that one talmid. Similar stories about Rav Shach, the Chazon Ish, and others.

No one ignores that one bad apple can have destructive impact on others. But the knee jerk to discard the kid is not acceptable in Torah view. HKB”H never abandons any Yid, and has built in mechanisms for teshuvah. Should we not our part to emulate His midos? The expulsion often follows failed efforts at discipline, but sometimes is a rapid fire reaction to a behavior that is feared. It is not beyond the desire to uphold a stated standard (such as no phones, etc.) But who says that this is Torah acceptable? Perhaps the discipline approach is not the effective one to be used. The attitude of hanhalah must always be to look for ways of including the talmid, not how to exclude. If the focus was less on the amount of data, and more on the modeling of midos and cheishek for learning, we would observe a huge difference in behavior.

I hear your math, but that doesn’t explain why HKB”H addresses us as individuals – “kivnei maron” on Rosh Hashanah. The true explanation is that the expelling Rosh Yeshiva or menahel ignores the impact of that action on the talmid. What about the future chinuch of the kid? WEll, there are plenty of yeshivos. Let any of them try their luck with this misfit. All that matters is that he is no longer our problem. Common statements. I have heard them many times. Did you?

Never throw a boy out from above the 3rd floor.