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January 24, 2011 10:28 pm at 10:28 pm #594447OfcourseMember
In this weeks Yated- teaching Savlanus (and other Midos) in the Yeshiva of Kelm, sparked serious discussion at my Shabbos table.
R’ Lipshutz’s remembers his Zaidy R’ Levin… R’ Lipshutz quotes his Zaidy: “Every boy who came to Kelm was examined by the Alter and the people who came after him and given a middah, a trait,which he was to work on during his period in the Kelmer Yeshiva. Mein Middah iz geven Savlanus. To me, they gave the trait of Savlanus,remaining calm. Ziben yahr hob ich ge’arbet oif der middah…I worked on this middah for seven years…” (page 50, January 21, 2011)
This paragraph lead to a very emotional discussion at our Shabbos table.
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Question:
If Savlanus, an extremely worthwhile Midah, can be taught, why cant we teach it today?
Was some form of negative reinforcement used, that would never be allowed today?
Have our methods of teaching and our treatment of kids, helped our kids? Are kids today better off with less serious emphasis on Midos?
January 24, 2011 10:50 pm at 10:50 pm #731860eclipseMemberI started learning the sefer Haser Kaas Mileebcha.It answers all of the above questions!
January 25, 2011 1:45 am at 1:45 am #731861aries2756ParticipantMaybe the way to teach savlanus is to have savlanus and show it. If you give it some thought do WE as parents, mechanchim, etc. show the salvanus needed to teach it? Do we show other midos and are the best role models we can be in order to teach the midos WE need to teach?
January 25, 2011 2:07 am at 2:07 am #731862OfcourseMemberaries2756, Lav Davka. Often parents are too accepting, giving and patient and that spoils the kids. Thats the atmosphere today. The parent/child relationship these days is unrecognizable from years ago. Its a Dor Hafuch.
But Id like to hear what Mechanchim in Kelm might have done to encourage/teach Savlanus.
January 25, 2011 2:14 pm at 2:14 pm #731863OfcourseMemberre my question: “But Id like to hear what Mechanchim in Kelm might have done to encourage/teach Savlanus”
No one has any thoughts on what their approach was? Have I stumped everyone?
January 25, 2011 2:58 pm at 2:58 pm #731864eclipseMemberI think they emphasized HUMILITY which eliminates a lot of triggers!
January 25, 2011 3:17 pm at 3:17 pm #731865truth be toldMemberOfcourse: It may be worthwhile to read up about Kelm. Once you get more of a picture of Kelm and its exactness, please present it to us.
Reb Yaakov Kamenetzky also learnt in Kelm. During his first week, at Krias HaTorah the gabbai called up a Yisroel for the Cohen’s aliya, assuming no Cohanim were present. Reb Yaakov pointed out that there was indeed a Cohen present. He wasn’t thanked, he was punished. Was not allowed into the Bais Medrash for a day. His crime: Looking around durring davening.
January 25, 2011 3:19 pm at 3:19 pm #731866OfcourseMemberIf/when desiring to emphasize humility, how did they attempt to bring it about? What was their means?
Im thinking- just by Shiurim and learning Halachos? I doubt it.
January 25, 2011 3:35 pm at 3:35 pm #731867OfcourseMembertruth be told, thanks for offering these instances! I’ve now gained insight into life in Kelm.
Although, if certain Talmidim were singled out for improvement in Savlanus and other specific Midos, I doubt they were left to pick things up on their own from observation of others, and nothing else. I think it would probably have been more individually tailored.
What do others think about whether it was individually tailored and how it might have been individually tailored?
January 25, 2011 4:04 pm at 4:04 pm #731869truth be toldMemberOfcourse: You’re welcome. I don’t think I even scratched the surface of Kelm
January 25, 2011 4:15 pm at 4:15 pm #731870gavra_at_workParticipantAnother taste of Kelm:
(I have heard of, but have not seen for myself) A well know Gadol who is still alive today (AMUSH) who says in the middle of a Shmuz “This is what has to be done if you find out your pants are Shatnez” and goes ahead and takes them off (in front of all those present).
Sheviras Hamiddos!
May we be so strong.
January 25, 2011 5:49 pm at 5:49 pm #731872truth be toldMembergavra_at_work: This “gadol” could not have learnt in th Kelmer talmud Torah. Its not a taste of Kelm at all.
January 25, 2011 5:55 pm at 5:55 pm #731873OfcourseMembertruth be told, yes, I think the picture in my mind of that scene would NOT contribute to Kvod HaTorah/Rabbonim. Quite the contrary.
January 25, 2011 6:26 pm at 6:26 pm #731874gavra_at_workParticipantTBT:
Of course he didn’t, he would be well over 120 at this point (for real Kelm).
The idea is Mussar vs. a non Mussar approach.
OC: That assumes the Gadol cares one Iota for his own Kavod, and doesn’t feel the lesson taught to his talmidim is more critical.
January 25, 2011 6:31 pm at 6:31 pm #731875YW Moderator-80MemberGedolim may not care for their own covod but they care a great deal about Covod Ha Torah, which they represent
January 25, 2011 6:41 pm at 6:41 pm #731876OfcourseMemberI just learned something:
Someone who discovers they are wearing shatnez is required to remove the garment immediately.
January 25, 2011 6:43 pm at 6:43 pm #731877gavra_at_workParticipantMr. 80:
That is why I said the second point. Limud goes before Kavod.
Besides, if it did actually happen, do you have a Hava Amina that Kavod HaTorah would be Doche the Issur of Shatnez?
January 25, 2011 6:45 pm at 6:45 pm #731878YW Moderator-80Memberi wouldnt poskin based on an article from the aish website.
im sure it depends on which garment and who is present and the weather conditions
there are factors of sakana and covod ha briah which need to be considerd.
January 25, 2011 6:45 pm at 6:45 pm #731879truth be toldMembergavra_at_work: here are some of the people who learnt in Kelm (amongst many others..)
Reb Nosson Vachtfogel of Lakewood
Reb Yaakov Kaminetzky
Reb Elya Lopian
Reb Chazkel Levenstein Zecher tzadikim L’vrocho.
The OP also mentions the article about Reb Layzer Levin
If these are the Talmidim, they’re approach is the one I would believe is closer to the Kelmer approach. And there are honest books out there about them.
January 25, 2011 6:47 pm at 6:47 pm #731880YW Moderator-80Memberi thought that was Slobodka
January 25, 2011 6:50 pm at 6:50 pm #731882truth be toldMemberMod 80: the story? I read it about Kelm. Writers do occasionally interchange stories.
January 25, 2011 6:51 pm at 6:51 pm #731883YW Moderator-80Memberi didnt get the impession from the story that he was wearing shaatnez, only that he was illustrating with action what would need to be done in the event he was.
limud comes before covod cannot be applied so broadly, certainly not to a Godol removing his pants before a rabbim. do you think a Godol would teach while sitting on a Sefer Torah to make some point of limud?
January 25, 2011 6:52 pm at 6:52 pm #731884gavra_at_workParticipantI just learned something:
Someone who discovers they are wearing shatnez is required to remove the garment immediately.
Of Course. That is the point.
January 25, 2011 6:54 pm at 6:54 pm #731885YW Moderator-80Membercould be Kelm, my memory has a leak.
January 25, 2011 6:56 pm at 6:56 pm #731886gavra_at_workParticipantlimud comes before covod cannot be applied so broadly, certainly not to a Godol removing his pants before a rabbim. do you think a Godol would teach while sitting on a Sefer Torah to make some point of limud?
If needed, Yes. No less than Avraham Avinu told Eliezer to place his hand on his Makom Milah, since it was needed. (Just thought of that off hand as an example, don’t ask me specific questions)
I don’t feel you need to follow his Mehalech (I’m not of that camp), so don’t feel it is required. I imagine many Roshei Yeshiva would never think to do such a thing.
January 25, 2011 7:01 pm at 7:01 pm #731887YW Moderator-80Memberokay
January 26, 2011 12:31 am at 12:31 am #731888eclipseMemberRe:the Shatnez inyan,keep in mind that once upon a time even undergarments were fairly modest.D’rache’ha darchei no’am.
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