due to low selfesteem, one usually feels more comfortable dating one that they feel they are better than. they inevitably hit it off from feeling comfortable to express thier true selves without putting on a show. however in such a situation, respect is inculcated as a one sided affair and the realationship does not end up being eqaul.
therefore prior to any shidduch dating young guys and girls should go for theraputic sessions to ensure that their self esteem is ensured for life. I believe all marriage disasters stem primarily from low self esteem. they should be evaluated so that the guys and girls are dating each other on thier level.
2 levels of social acceptance is a no go.