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i said so: Oh, no! Don’t feel that way. Maybe your year will turn out to be gr8! I happen to have had a hard time. (Also, it IS called “sour seventeen”, y’know.) But, please don’t go around being terrified cuz I had it hard!!
And happy birthday!! Ad Meih Veesrim!!
Good!! Enjoy it while it lasts!
I’m under seventeen and its been a tough year. I hope I won’t be having a sour seventeen cuz i dunno how much more i can handle.
mischief: It’s possible that ur havin’ your hard time now and by the time ur 17 you’ll be over it. Good luck!
Oh, I’m happy now that I’m 18!
I sure do! But, really your happiness depends on YOUR outlook in life. You gotta be a positive person to enjoy life with its ups and downs.
oh my…..i loved my teenage yrs! had an awesome time! my only fear was of becoming that “dreaded teenager”
hey hey! im younger than 17!!!! and im loving it! and im not really lookin 4ward to bein 17! i like it this way! i love bein a teen! i wish i can skip the shiduchim stage though- and just get married! but that sounds too good to be true! lol!
I feel sad because I am being shifted out of my younger years. Things grow old when you don’t look. I remember when I was 16 here, boy was that fun. Now I am 19 and it seems all the posters keep getting younger and everything has changed. I mean I have a nephew and niece getting married in the near future (niece this wednesday and nephew end of sivan), I am dating, where did it all go? I want to be a kid again
Zuberman!
Yossi: Mazel Tov upon your neices and nephew’s weddings! Enjoy growing up! It’s no fun being a kid for too long.
I know that I am now moving on to the next stage in life but ALL my teenage years were very rough (with some good spots here and there) and I just want to go back and re-live them (yeah I know not realistic but I still want my innocence back and not to have had to have gone through all of what I went through) kinda like a bachelor party, one last shot before things really change.
Sorry for kvetching here I just had a rough day today (spent three hours finding out every reason why a girl is not for me) and want my happy/innocent/carefree days back
Zuberman!
I really am thankful that I have gotten to the place in life where I am now (matured, grown, capable person) but there are just some days I wish I never had to grow up
Zuberman!
yeah yossi z. i agree with you 100% but think about how immature we all are back then and how mature we can get in the years to come! Of course we need this maturity to grow into better people, and we can only do this by climbing the ladder upwards, and aging!
And im sure it’s hard to have a girl be “not the right one”, but you gotta remember ur only 19! you are still young!
>O<613
But why can’t maturing come without all the anguish? I know I am still a teen, I am not being pressured into anything but there is a difference between someone not being the right one (which I have no issue with as they can be very nice and everything as a person just we wouldn’t work as a couple) and being so off as to be ludicrous (talk about needing to be mature).
I feel bad kvetching to all of you here like this. I think all I need is to sleep. Good night
Zuberman!
it’s ok you can kvetch all you want to us. That’s what we are here for right? I know how you feel, and often feel the same way! too bad there’s no good answer to this question! it is really hard but always keep in mind you are not alone! We’re all doing it along with you!
>O<613
Thanks I appreciate it. Now I will smile again 😀 see?
I still should go to sleep as I need to get to work tomorrow and being that it is a big day (we have to take care of three days worht of work in one) I need all the rest I can get
By the way, an interesting topic, what is it about going through the same experience that lends comfort? Or in different terms, what about
saying someone had it worse or someone is going through the same thing offers comfort? Is it knowing you aren’t alone? Is it being understood and having full sympathy/empathy because the person has a full understanding of what you are going through? Just an interesting thought
😀 Zuberman! 😀
It seems like there are always challenges along the way. They say everyone has their share of nisyonos-does that mean that everyone is always having s/t tough going on? When I’m over with what I’m dealing with I won’t have a break?! I can’t!
Mischief: life aint that bad. First of all you learn from your mistakes. Second, call it a challenge. How would you like doing a sudoku that’s geared for 5 yr olds? It’s no fun, cuz it’s no challenge. Nisyonos matures you and helps you deal with life. Enjoy the exciting journey!
Being a teenager is awesome. I love it. But I want to get married Be”H very soon…looking for the right one…I know Hashem will send my zivug bekarov at the right time. Amen!
observanteen: u seem to be getting awfully philosophical. Probably something to do with u turning 18 and all.
yossi-
are you trying to stop the shidduch crisis by getting married at 19? or are you a girl?
: )
I think it’s ok 2 date when ur young. Depends whether you’re ready – not on ur age.
but if u date not for the purpose of marraige…ull prob end up getting hurt…see chapter 13 this june…:)) lol
huh? Who dates not 4 the purpose of marriage?
I am a boy (and have stated so quite often around here) and my background is, if the kid’s ready, let them get married. Un/fortunately I have been through a lot of experiences in life which have allowed me to grow a lot in less time.
The backgrounds that marry young lichatchilah, I believe the way the mind set is, that they are brought up with certain things as givens hence they behave and have certain maturity at an earlier age so they get married then.
Am I trying to solve the shidduch crises? I am only one boy …
😀 Zuberman! 😀
I said so: 🙂 keep up the humor it brightens the day lol
😀 Zuberman! 😀
observanteen- are you serious?????
I just read the thread for the first time. I am a teenager glad to be out of school.
But being a teen can be awesome it all depends on your way of looking at it. i can tell you, as a teen you grow from any “hardships” you go through. And it depends a whole lot on your attitude ,with things ‘when things happen for example with friends and simple things at home (each persons things for themselvfe) and even out of school. looking for a job and being in shidduchim can all be tough.
For those who r still in school and want to get married. wait till the right time, no rush just njoy your teen yrs. the time will come and njoy it then. GETTING MARRIED DOES NOT GET RID OF PROBLEMS.
change your attitude and things will be different.
Attitude is not everything. Many things cannot change.
Also, many people have hardships that have to do with other people (ex. s/1 who’s sick). Such things are hard but its possible to cover up or escape the situation when in school. When the hardship is in YOU its impossible to escape. It follows you around which makes you not be able to have relief, even in school. Teens are very insensitive (myself included) and they’re quick to judge. Just realize, people are going through nightmares that you can’t even understand so don’t be quick to call them “a nerd”.
I’m done my rant. 🙂
’bout what?
Mischief: Ok, ok…. seems life’s pretty rough, ‘aint it? Well, I used to be the same. Boy, was I a negative thinker! Everything was bad! Everyone was cruel! Life wasn’t fair! And it truly wasn’t fair! I whent through some reallyyy hard times (like all of us). But u know what? I decided I’ll stop making it even harder! I started looking at the bright side of things. And it really helped me. I’m B”H so HAPPY nowadays. I never believed I’d ever smile again! So, no, attitude doesn’t CHANGE the facts, but, it certainly makes you happy and relaxed. Isn’t this what we all wish for?
i am here:
I couldn’t agree more. I’m not a teenager anymore, but in retrospect, I can give some advice. If you think you have responsibilities, wait till you get married. It doesn’t get any easier. I’m not saying this to make anyone depressed. Just want you to enjoy life to the fullest every day. Teenage years are the best years to grow in every aspect. Take advantage of that!
OK I’ll give in and just say it: I am depressed and thats why i keep checking the Depressed-I need help! thread cuz I’m in a similar situation. Now I’m just davening that nobody knows who I am cuz if they do…I’m gonna be super embarrassed.
I can’t exactly change my attitude. Depression is what makes you think negatively. I’m totally stuck. It follows me around everywhere. I can’t even enjoy h.s. cuz I’m in this horrific depression. Now every other hardship [2 many of them:(] that I have seems much worse because of my negativity. It’s all plain torture.
** and anyone who did figure me out tell me at least**
i agree with everything that was said about changing your attitude and making one a happier person, and it really does work! There is just one thing i learned that one needs to be careful with. If something is bothering you or going wrong, dont just bury it deep down and pretend all is good, keeping a smile pasted on your face. It is important to walk around happy and not depressed, but if there is an issue you need to work out, talk to someone! work it through! dont bury it deep down, it only grows bigger when you do that.
>O<613
mischiefmaker:
Attitude may not change the facts. But you’re wrong when you say it’s not everything. While it may not change the facts, it’ll definitely change how they affect you. So in a way, IT IS everything!
Candy: ur 100% right. I used to do that too. I buried my emotions deep down and swallowed hard and just pasted a smile. It didn’t work! The crying in my heart didn’t stop. Whenever something’s bothering me, I look for a solution to the problem. And if the problem can’t be helped, I pour my heart out to a good friend. It always helps!
Mischief: No, I’ve no idea who you are, but I still care for you. You seem to be going through a lot. You wrote that you read the depression thread. Did u read my post there? Maybe u can order the program. It really is amazing. If you need more info, i’ll post. I still listen to some of the CDs when I’m in need of a boost. But most of all: LOOK FOR HELP!! DO something abt ur depression! I hope I didn’t offend you, but you gotta take action!
about “huh? Who dates not 4 the purpose of marriage?”
Whatddya mean? Do u know ppl who get married 4 other purposes?
you said who dates not who marries. and yes i know ppl who date not to get married
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