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March 10, 2014 11:45 pm at 11:45 pm #612311ihearMember
i know that many people have many opinions on this matter so im going to take that into consideration but im curios what is generally considered late for a guy who is in yeshiva and college to get into the parsha, i mean age wise 22? 23? 24? never considered late?
March 11, 2014 12:18 am at 12:18 am #1007750mybrotherMemberi know quite a few really good guys 24 – 25 that are still not really “in the parsha”,
For good reasons ,most of them its for financial reasons, its not easy these days 🙁
A woman needs a man she can respect, for example he can work and support the family OR he can dedicate his life to learning Torah.
Those who aren’t up to par in that area are setting themselves up for a tough married life.
Take your time, Be a man your woman can respect =)
March 11, 2014 12:58 am at 12:58 am #1007751LogicianParticipantWhy do you care the slightest what is considered late ? Are you really going to jump into something like marriage because of others’ perception ?
Based on your feelings and reasons (which I would hope you would filter through the Torah figure in your life), make your own decision, and Hatzlacha!
March 11, 2014 4:55 am at 4:55 am #1007752jbaldy22MemberHave a rebbi who can help you decide. everyone is different it really depends on whether you are in a position in life where you have worked on yourself enough to be a good spouse. Financial concerns are not always a good reason to push things off this is where consulting with a rebbi/mentor will help you figure these things out.
March 11, 2014 1:24 pm at 1:24 pm #1007753ihearMemberAll great answers thanks guys, but more precisely at what point does it become a question of “why hasn’t he started dating yet”? Is more what I mean.
March 11, 2014 3:02 pm at 3:02 pm #1007754popa_bar_abbaParticipantAnything past 18 is considered late. Then the question is how late.
The answer is a complicated formula. You take your current age, denominated in years, and you subtract the gematria of chai, and that yields your lateness factor.
If your lateness factor is over 6, you should see a therapist immediately.
March 12, 2014 2:02 am at 2:02 am #1007755ihearMember…Arbitrarily engaged in skepticism
March 12, 2014 3:11 am at 3:11 am #1007756Veltz MeshugenerMemberI was mature enough to get married at 13, but the rest of the world had not adapted sufficiently to my maturity. Also my wife was immature for her age (she was 29 at the time.)
March 12, 2014 10:24 am at 10:24 am #1007757no longer need seminaryMemberLogician, i agree with you
March 12, 2014 5:19 pm at 5:19 pm #1007758Torah613TorahParticipantYou should start to date when you are able to be a good husband and future father.
This means different things to different people.
March 12, 2014 11:48 pm at 11:48 pm #1007760LogicianParticipantTorah613 –
You should not date if you are UNable to be a good husband and future father. That much is true.
March 13, 2014 1:27 am at 1:27 am #1007761ihearMemberu guys are saying good but from an outside perspective as a klall what is considered the avg age to start or the avg time that is considered late to start, obviously if one feels he isnt ready to be a good father or husband he shouldnt begin but from an outside view what do people consider late
March 13, 2014 4:29 pm at 4:29 pm #1007762jewishfeminist02MemberIt really depends on the community. There are different standards in different places.
March 13, 2014 6:43 pm at 6:43 pm #1007763ihearMemberWell that’s not ambiguous at all
March 13, 2014 6:57 pm at 6:57 pm #1007764jewishfeminist02Memberso what do you want? Ask a specific question and maybe you’ll get a specific answer! Do you expect a complete list of the standards of every single community in the world??
March 13, 2014 10:20 pm at 10:20 pm #1007765golferParticipantStart after Purim.
There. That’s settled.
Ah freilichen!
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