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So what do you say about sleepovers for your children?
a)”Sure, why not?”
b)”No way! If they want a sleepover, their friends can come to my house.”
c)”Yes, free babysitting.”
And, at what age would you allow sleepovers?
I think sleepovers are a great way to teach your children independence. When I was little I was very, very attatchment to my parents. I didn’t like playdates or babysitters ( I was completely normal bH just a “mamas girl”. My first 3 sleepovers atleast, my dad had to come get me before midnight, but over time I got more comfortable sleeping out and it helped me to not be SO attached to my parents. I don’t think you should send your child on a sleepover kicking and creaming c’v but it’s ok for them to be a little home sick once in a while.
And it should go without saying make sure the house has acceptable kashrus etc.
I had kids come to my house first, so I could see how they interacted with my children. Some of them were too immature and young to sleep over (and I had to bring one child back who missed his mommy). The age of first sleepover was about 7-8, depending on the child. Once I knew for certain that the child was pleasant and came from a reliably kosher home, and had met the parents, I started with playdates at their home, and eventually, sleepovers. Most of my kids loved going away, most of their friends LOVED coming to us for a Shabbos (maybe I made better desserts). I loved having the kids’ friends over, and still do.
Why would anyone allow their kids to be friends, in the first place, with anyone of questionable character or kashrus?
Let’s say for example, you hold by a certain shechitah or hechsher. You wouldn’t want your child to eat food that was not acceptable to you. If you drink cholov Yisrael and they drink cholov stam, you would feel more comfortable to have their child by you.
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