- This topic has 36 replies, 23 voices, and was last updated 13 years, 8 months ago by .
-
Posts
-
In the Mishpacha serial “Charades” Gila is torn between cutting clean or going back, what do you think she should do?
Divorce is a dirty word. This serial sounds treif.
well its not 4 letters long so it cant be a dirty word
tums don’t be a serial killer
Divorce does not cure eveything. They will be better off getting help as a family- including the kids.
she cant accept or demand a divorce unless he wants to give one.
It’s fiction. Whether “she chooses to accept it or not” is up to the imagination of Riva Pomerantz.
Spoil sport.
No she should NOT! Motty is totally a changed person and he finaly realizes that he needs help and that he was wrong how he treated Gila and the kids all these years. Looks like he is gonna make a turn around and they’ll all go the family therapy and will work it out.
of course she’s not going to – wouldn’t be allowed to go through mishpacha if that’s the end. they’ll all work on themselves and then live happily ever after.
the kids are happier without him. she seems to be happier without him too. so i think its better for all if they do get divorced. Or, let them seperate see if he really goes for the help and then they can take it from there. But does an abusive person ever change? hes got a LOT of changing to do! also how can a community ever forgive Mottie for what he did? I really think that if Mottie is truly sorry, then he’s got a lot to prove!
edited
So lets forget about fantasy, in reality if this happened to you or someone you knew what would you do or advise Gila to do.
how can a man just run off like that??? not only that hes abusive! i would tell Gila, that she should really weigh her pros and cons. the pros of her staying married is the kids and money. but the cons…1.he ran away. 2. hes abusive. 3.hes not a mentally stable person. 4.kids are scared of him. 5.wife is scared of him. 6.she is doing better without him. there that settles it!
yes abusers can change but not easily. when abuse is involved I tell them to run the other way. (I check with counselors first to confirm that it’s the right advice at the time.)
How can a frum magazine glorify divorce as just another happenstance even in fantasy, let alone in reality.
grandmater – i’m sure it’s not going to
TUMS is a four letter word.
Ask p’sak from a Rav!
Gila should take the offered GET as quickly as she can. It would make for a more interesting ending as opposed to “happily ever after”.
Happily ever after may not be as interesting, but is certainly a better option than unhappily ever after, as your suggested ending generally leads to.
I haven’t followed this story (don’t always get Mishpacha), but there is no happily ever after with most abusive men. She should get her divorce and then see if he gets his act together with the help of extensive therapy and counseling. If he can prove to her that he truly has changed, they can remarry, if he is not a Kohein, and if she did not remarry in the interim. (Yes, I KNOW it’s just a story). Most leopards never change their spots. I doubt that Mishpacha is trying to glorify divorce. But even Hashem lets us know that a divorce may sometimes be necessary. We are not Catholics.
no but is still better not to just divorce unless its really necessary
Riva Pomerantz happens to be one of many of my favorite authors. this is the first time I am not liking her material. But since I started the serial I cant not finish it.
i most definetely think she should divorce! The kids r terrified of motty and so is gila! And like her mil said – abusive ppl dont change – proof that she herself wants to get out!!!
i didnt read the story and i dont know the details but i will answer blind!
when i was getting divorced someone told me, “you couldnt have been worse than my husband, i put him in prison for what he did to me!!! today we have a great marriage” she was with her husband when she said this to me.
Divorce is NEVER a solution, it is switching one (or more) problem for many others, especially when children are involved.
if there is a realistic chance for them to get back together, if he is willing to go for help, therapy, whatever, if there is a possibilty that things will get better, then my advice is to get back together.
divorce wont run away, Beis Din aint going out of business any time soon, there is always time tomorrow to get divorced why run into it.
dont rush into divorce, definitly dont listen to those who tell you to get divorced, either they dont know what it means or they are looking for “sisters/brothers in sorrow”
Hey, I’m not following the story. Anyone willing to brief me? Please?
Gila and the kids were happier without him. why should she take him back?
Is this a fiction fantasy or for real? I HATE emotional fiction, they pull my heart – for no reason.
Gila decides to give her husband a second chance, he turns into the nicest, sweetest guy, the community forgives him for his kashrus indiscretions, and Gila even loses 50 pounds since she is so happy with her life that she doesn’t need to overeat. The children grow up to be gedolim and roshei yeshiva and rebbetzins.
This is the ending I predict.
Anyone out there disagree?
Shrek, that is funny. I like the part with the losing 50 pounds!!
How about Tirtsa? She becomes world’s most popular party planner and rakes it in!
Tirtsa decides to become a Bais Yaakov teacher because party planning is too “gashmius-dik” for her.
- You must be logged in to reply to this topic.