shiduchim

more info needed. is your child male or female? yeshvish? chasidish? litvish?

Despite your efforts, the moderators won’t allow any personal contact between posters.
Hatzlacha anyway.

where’s commonsaychel with the Wikipedia page on trolling?

I don’t know the exact demographics of Lakewood to know if it’s 1/3 Khasidim.

I also don’t think it’s ideal to mention the girl’s parental income because then, you’re attracting guys who want the income and not the girl.

I won’t post any contact information on Shadkhanim, but there should be some good ones in Lakewood as well as Monsey.

What other “decisions” has she made?

your loss.

but good for you for making sure both my parents’ 1st language was yiddish. i actually know someone whose mother’s first language was polish and I definitely wouldn’t want to marry him.

Daughter makes more money than anyone her age? So she’s a Saudi princess. This is not the right website for her.

I went through the Shadchan system when I was a young man in my 20’s. I learned pretty quickly that Shadchanim could only help you if you had at least one of the following qualities.

1) You were very rich.
2) You were a big learner and intended to be in Kollel
3) You had a large family and exceptional Yichus

Unfortunately, I had none of those qualities. My father died when I was 16 and left us no insurance, so I was not rich. Because I was not rich I had to finish my secular education and get a job as soon as I could, so I wasn’t a big learner and couldn’t be in Kollel. And my parents were Auschwitz survivors who lost most of their families to the Nazis and had to rebuild almost from nothing, so I didn’t have a large family or Yichus. So, as a result, most Shadchanim wouldn’t help me and the ones who did redt me girls who were not suitable for me (ten years older, et al). I finally married at 30 thanks to my mother’s friend, who knew a woman who knew a single girl. No Shadchanim.

I hate Shadchanim.

5TR: Who were meshadech your children?

@ eishis chayil, she sound perfect for my nephew, he has yichis, looks, money, speaks a fluent yidddish. lets do it

so is it better to get a boy from a open not so strict family or rather a boy from the same type of harsh strict up bringing

Any mother who purposely brought up her children in a strict environment would never ask this question. In her mind that is the proper upbringing and also, she wouldn’t consider it strict. She would think it’s normal.

And if you didn’t have a say in how your daughter was brought up, then why would you have a say in who she marries?

Was she brought up elsewhere, and now she lives with you? It is usually better to marry a likeminded person. If you have think that maybe it would indeed be better for her for marry someone who is not so strict, you should be discussing that with your daughter, not with strangers on an anonymous forum.

Maybe you did bring her up and had a say and now regret how strict you brought her up? If she’s ready for marriage, it’s probably too late to change that.

To ujm: (a) I am not confused. (b) I consider “JAP” an anti-Semitic term. (c) Saudi princesses make more money and/or have more wealth than anyone else their age.

It helped narrow down the pool of eligable bucherim

Eishes Chayil: I’m beginning to think you are engaged in a really good troll. Hopefully, by now, you have narrowed your search and decided to rely exclusively on the advice of one our resident CR shiduchim to find a husband for your beautiful, financially independent and VERY, VERY chassidish daughter. He is from a mixed family (Vishnitz father, Belz mother) but went to a well know Litvish yeshiva where he became a big talmid chacham (at least in his own mind) who is considering starting his own chassidus, but in the interim earning some extra money running up and down Eastern Parkway waving a yellow flag advertising the Thursday afternoon mincha minyanim at the Sloatsburg Rest Stop on the New York Thruway. Does that sound about right?

Eshes Chayil: You have here a dedicated team of CR peers who are staying up late at night trying to brainstorm for your teirer tochter.
Please enumerate the list of terms and conditions that the choshuve choson must sign on, so that we can get down to work already.

BTW, I’d love to know what T&C your choshuve man agreed to before marrying you, but that is not leto’eles – would you tell us anyway?

To what degree do hasan and kallah have to come from the same shita? Is the ideal where both come from the same shtetl and have all same minhagim?

There used to be an idea that rich people should marry daughters to students. Is it harder now, when everyone is looking for someone with the same opinion on everything, including how to work and what to learn.

See for Tu B’av, https://www.theyeshivaworld.com/news/promotions/1993659/video-got-90-seconds-why-is-everyone-talking-about-live-tu-bav-together-4-shidduchim.html
Say Tehillim 32, 38, 70, 82, 121, 124, 127 and 128 where each has a reference to shidduch.