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Yes, I know, another shidduch thread, but this is a result of (a) different thread(s) so it really is only a moving of conversation being held in the wrong thread(s).
It has been noticed that some of the posters here would make good shidduchim with other posters. This thread is being dedicated to think up what would be (a) way(s) to possibly get things rolling without infringing on privacy (publicizing who someone is to everyone) and the YWN-CR rules.
I am not a shaddchan, I am a single boy (I already revealed all on different threads so for me personally there aren’t any issues with who I am and it isn’t hard to find me), and I am just bringing the conversation discussed in more than one thread into one central location.
😀 Zuberman! 😀
I disagree.
I think that if there is a possibility of meeting the other posters, it removes whatever veneer there currently is which keeps our contact appropriate.
If I am able to find out who the women I am talking to are, we are no longer merely faceless people on line. We are real people with potential for real relationships.
I guess that nixes it. He’s the Mora D’Asra of YW CR.
That would bother me also. I would not be comfortable talking to the females on this board if there was any chance I could ever meet them through this board.
I think I would stop posting.
I think that the mods themselves decide on their own to redt shidduchim and email potential “daters” if they are interested in finding out more about “screen-name”. If both parties agree, the mods can forward the resumes to both parties and set them up.
Popa I’m with you on this one.
popa,
You don’t have to nix the whole idea, you could personally opt out.
(I’m not in favor of the idea for a different reason.)
i think i agree with popa even though i was the one who suggested it to you yossi….. to me it would take away the annonimity (spelling?!?!) of the CR. plus how would one know anything about the 2 parties? posting on a chat room is not really a way of knowing a person…..
i think the best thing about the anonymity is that for asll i know wolfish can be an 80 year old lady and brooklyn yenta can be a yeshiva bachur. it wud kill everything to reveal who we really are
I don’t think it’s a bad idea but I doubt it will end up happening.
Yossi: I think this will cause more harm than good. Doesn’t this idea resemble facebook somewhat (which is why I have a filter)? Y’know, I know some girls who met boys through facebook and were/are in deep trouble. I don’t think it’s ok for everyone to know who everyone is. ESPECIALLY, since you really cannot know what the person is like just by reading his/her posts. I certainly think this is a breach in tznius. What if a girl and boy get to know each other, but are totally not meant for each other? I don’t think it’s safe.
We are mods, not shadchanim, we leave that up to Hashem and professionals.
Please be advised that in adhering to the CR code, we try our best to maintain each posters identity remain confidential. The CR is to chat and shmooze about whatever you please, but we do not give out any personal information under any circumstance even if a poster gives permission. Also, the last thing we need is a lawsuit, I will let you figure that one out on your own.
If you read even just the last bit of the original post, you will see that I said all I was doing was centralizing the discussion.
Yossi, read the middle of your OP, it sounds like you’re in favor of it.
Yossi, you’re a stand up guy, but I still don’t understand; why would you open a thread to form a central location for CR shidduchim if you don’t like the idea?
LOL
Mods, what lawsuit? You would only reveal the contact info with written consent of both parties.
Don’t worry, I’m just dreing you a kup 🙂
Yossi, if you don’t mind, please don’t use my real name. I slipped and let it out once, but the fewer people who know, the better.
Yossi, if you want to get married so badly get out of the CR and go onto JDATE. This is theyeshivaworld, not a dating forum. Please respect our policies and don’t try to overstep them.
Pusateh, imagine we get consent from both parties to reveal the information but the man or woman are not who they say they are and something terrible happens. We allow shidduch topics be discussed in the CR, but we leave the rest to the professionals.
Hey, why not suggest/try shidduchworld, advertised (used to be?) right here on YeshivaWorld
I don’t want to get married that badly
You should want to get married that badly.
Observerteen: I think a lot can be known about a person through following their posts; like hashkafa, middos, personality. I would say even more so than from real dates. The only obvious part which can’t be seen is their physical appearance.
Yossi –
I cannot say that I don’t sometimes think to myself, “Hey, that sounds like a person I might really like,” and, as a single guy I really do understand your sentiments. However, I agree with the mods that it is a bad idea – at least according to the general spirit of this site, which is, at least from my perspective, trying to present information at a standard expected of the name it bears, and a forum for discussions of such ideas that would be discussed in the ‘yeshiva world,’ but not in any way a social network or a dating site. I don’t really think the reasons need to be explained.
Oh and by the way, who says you’re not a minor? Or a married person looking for something on the side? I don’t think the mods would find an efficient way to find that out, and would probably find themselves in a lot of trouble if something like that did happen.
mod 613 i still havent figured it out
i think if we revealed identities this site would be just as assur as facebook myspace etc…
ISNT THIS SUPPOSED TO BE YESHIVA WORLD NEWS???
mods please bold the word yeshiva i dont know how to
oysh i didnt know that the joke i made would go so far….
Yes chayav, it seems we agree.
Can you put up a profile on jdate or whatever and put theyeshivaworld.com in your “interests”?
Daas: you weren’t kidding then?,
Actually, I was kidding again. That’s not my real name (unless I’m kidding now).
Daas: you know I am really suspecting you are either related to me or you are someone I know with the way you are uh shall we say driving me up a wall? LOL!!!
I think I’ll just keep you in suspense 😉
LMA: True. But, it still is hard to know exactly what one’s hashkafas are. You’re right about the fact that ppl feel free to write what they think, but, it’s a great risk. Y’know, what if their hashkafos AREN’T comapatible, and they meet? Besides, there are many shidduchim forums out there. Why not stick to coffee?
hey yossi z- random question is it true ur chassidish??????
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oh i never saw that thread i guess. We were looking at the jewish star auditions and we thought we saw you, but didnt think it was you because the person was chassidish lol but i guess it was! Just wasnt expecting it! 😉
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well after being in the cr for a while, u kinda get a picture in your head of each person, based on their posts, and responces to others. Do you know what i mean? So basikly i just didnt picture you being chassidish. That’s all – nothing wrong with it, just wasn’t expecting that! 😉
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Yossi can I start a thread about you?
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