Shidduchim – Divorced Homes

Dear Common,
1) I am not a long anything. 2) Unfiltered internet does not bother me anymore. 3) I promised myself that I will not be in the parshah until I make peace with the concept of Today’s Jewish Community/ies. 4) Zero interest in getting married now.

@n0m “Once a boy gets to extreme erudition of shas, he must have overcome his personal tendencies”.
– Not quite sure what you are referring to? – Do you mean like a Brisker or Breslover who live their lives according to the extreme dictates of their philosophies or are you talking about somebody who has found the inner meaning of the Torah and darshens his own rules and laws?
– At the end of the day man and wife have to live together and be happy, eat meals together, change nappies and bring up a family. Go on holiday and clean the dishes.
– Anything else and you are asking for trouble in a marriage.
– You know the story of RABBI Moshe Feinstein and the little boy in camp, Reb Moshe was learning one day, but saw a little boy left playing on his own. Reb Moshe got up and started playing ball with him. Why should that little boy be left alone and unhappy if I can make him happy! To be precise Reb Moshe’s middos tovos, which he learnt from the Torah, brought about his great love of Klal Yisroel and made him a true Tsaddik and Godol Hador!

@n0m
Reason #3, then you better be prepared to die single, no one ever solved that issue.

Dear Daas,
I used to cringe when someone would say I do not need a filter. My mindset has changed from hearing too many people boast that they got around the filter. Whatever people choose, they have to abide by it. Or loose their freedom of choice.

PS This device is filtered.

Dear Grateful,
The Torah defines and redefines our activities ad infinitum. What seems like a universal halachah to the everyday Talmid Chohom, is actually a panorama of responses for a Master of Shas. This is demonstrated through the biographies of Reb Chaim Brisker and Rav Meir Shapiro. Even though they were fundamentally meticulous with themselves, they were extremely patient and caring with the well being of others. To an extant that seemed to go against halachah in the eyes of the simple folk. To reach that point of erudition in Shas, requires one to drop their own preconceived notions even in regards to themselves.

Dear Waiting,
Great idea!

How about a chosson or kallah teacher that has serious marital problems?

Why? He probably knows things from his friends.

“What is worse; giving a bochur unfiltered internet, or giving him filtered internet that he will get around easily without you ever knowing about it?”

@n0mesorah

This makes me sad to even hear this. I hope these are rare cases. I feel sorry for these bochurim. They are substituting internet addiction for the true, everlasting happiness that comes from marriage with a beautiful wife.

Dear Bsharg,
The thinking that a teenager wants unfiltered internet predominately for that, is a myth. The number one reason Yeshiva Bachurim want to be online is social media. The less serious guys want to connect with people, as everyone around them is seriously learning. And the solid guys need to know what the next ‘biggest happening’ will be so they could know which night they should schedule their next break. Because chas v’shalom should a solid bachur spend his free time according to his own plan.
Also, the guy with a side obsession – history, science, sports, movies, clothing, novels, politics, or social media itself – has an easier (And bothers the other bachurim less.) time having good internet access. Plus, those that are high maintenance (e. g. clothing, food) stress about it much less if they have access to it without leaving yeshiva.