Shidduch World

What kind of shidduch help? Curious

It is an interesting idea but there needs to be a lot more people using it for it to be real useful. Maybe they can work into the system a way for other shadchanim to add information on their existing “clients”. I know it’s difficult to get shadchanim to work together but I think that would be great. The website is done very well and I hope it’s successful.

I find it a little puzzling to think that there are people out there who would be willing to pay a relatively unknown organization $360.00 a month to attempt to find a Shidduch for them (Shiduchworld offers extra help at that price). Can anyone clarify please? Who are the Shadchanim who work for them? If it’s private, why?

ronrsr – it’s registered to a very dedicated person who volunteers his time to try to help singles. He felt that there are many singles that won’t be comfortable on most dating websites, and need another option. He invested much time, effort, and money to create a site – under the direction of Rabbonim – that is appropriate for all Frum singles.

AZOI.IS – that’s one of the features of the site. I’m not sure how that works, and can’t answer your question on that. But, the main purpose of the site is the database -singles enter their info & are matched up with possible shidduchim. Which, by the way, is at no cost to them.

BB1, I think you can’t beat success as an advertisement, and if they’ll come through with many engagements, that’s the time to offer “special treatment packages”, and not before, when no success has been proven.

Otherwise, IMHO, it’s a way to risk/spend money for the rich and/or desperate, and their offer to look for Shidduchim for free, for others, where they admit to spending less time, becomes less interesting and attractive.

Shidduchworld, by redd the shidduch, do you mean that you get a yes from the other side before presenting it to the customer?

How many shiddcuhim has shidduch world made to date???

How many dates have they set up??

Shidduch Solution:

“You wrote $360. Is a monthly fee”

If this isn’t a typo, please clarify.

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To all the singles out there, I would like to give you a glimpse as to what goes on in a Shaddchans home between our dates. Most Shaddchanim are not interested in wasting time just to please one of us out there. A lot of thought goes into every aspect before they give us a name to check into. As a human, they are allowed to make wrong suggestions. They are only here to help bring “Shleimus” to yours and our world. The time and phone calls they place on our behalfs cost money as well. It takes time from their families wives/husbands and anyone else involved. If you ever redd a Shidduch, or were involved with one, you surely understand why someone would charge a fee. You have the choice to advocate for yourselves. Most Shaddchonim are either Yeshiva men or people working in order to enhance our society. $360.00 is just a small amount to pay a Shaddchan to help us. You never know how many potential Shaddchonim will be turned on to adopt a single because of this small bonus from a single, thereby causing them to help others alon the way, and eventually do this all LiSheim Shomayim. Chances are you are giving Tzeddakah and in that Z’chus you’ll find your Bashert. Do a Chessed for one, and you might be doing a Chessed for yourself. Just as a side point, most Shaddchonim from the Lakewood, NJ area are people who are learning in Kollel and doing this on their side time. They are Yirei Shomayim who at the same time deserve a token of appreciation for their time and efforts spent on all our behalfs. May Hashem help each one of us to find our Bashert and help us help others to find theirs.

To oomis1105,

I have found that in the past even if you hired someone for just a month, they didn’t just forget about you. They set up after that time as well. What was gained was that now my name was on their mind, although maybe not the first one on the table. In my eyes it’s a long term gain.

“BTW, SYAS charges about $20.00 a month and is also done b’Tznius with Shadchanim matching profiles. Singles have an option of being visible to their Shadchan only. “

That is a reasonable cost, and they do work to redt the shidduchim. The problems only really arise when people are not honest in what they post in their profiles. No one is verifying the information. Also, the shadchanim often steamroll over someone’s expressed wishes. My daughter was redt shidduchim with people who had dogs or cats, when she expressly put in her profile, “NO PETS,” and explained that she is very much afraid of dogs and is not particularly fond of cats, either. She also said she is a non-smoker who hates the smell of tobacco, and was still set up with a guy who smokes. She doesn’t want a shidduch with someone who expects to sit and learn and not earn a living for even a limited amount of time after the wedding. She was set up with several kollel types. Shadchanim have to listen to and respect what people say to them. These are not naarishkeiten.

It is nice to think, as Baltashchis does, that a shadchan who was hired for only a month will continue to “work” for you and keep you in mind, but I sincerely doubt it, as they will always have other paying customers, apparently, and if one is paying for their services, there is an obligation to that customer, certainly in teh customer’s mind.

Shidddcuh Solution:

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For the record: having been involved in the process for a while (you know who i am), the idea of hiring a private advocate IS the proper approach and makes sense. (I hope u only do it with close the age gap in mind-othewise you are practically wasting your time)

However $360 a MONTH is ridiculous. In speaking to numerous shadchanim 1,500-2,000 per year and the shadchan can within reason guarantee 3 dates a year. To think you can promise more than that for normal good girls between the ages of 21-24 is simply unrealistic.

tzippi, ” it’s amazing that people who can spend 4k a year on this site are having problems getting shidduchim redt.” Brilliant!

Those that have that kind of money already have the ears of all the top Shadchanim.

baltashchis, most posts here are relevant.

I think that everyone is focussing on 1 small part of this site. I think the main goal is to create a huge database of Frum singles. This is a great idea & I wish the dedicated person who set this up much Hatzlocha!!

In deference to haifagirl, I believe it’s “might not” rather than “may not” :).

Anything the is done to facilitate shidducim (close in age expecailly) is helpful. Anyone who is active in doing so sicharchem harbei meod.

The shaddchanim out there are hounded and abused and anyone who can encourage more people to get involve is doing a tremencous service.

The person running shidduch shidduch world it totally lsheim shamayimi-no question about it.

I was taken aback by publicly marketing of a specific part of your project where unwitting people who could then become disatisfied. It would do your project no good. If my comments where taken in any other vein I apologize. Addtionally, I should have called the phone number instead of using this public forum- very fair.

the website is a great concept but I checked it out and there really are not a lot of young guys on the site. How long ago was this site created?

happy girl & haifagirl – the site was only recently launched. That’s why people speading the word about it will greatly help in adding adding names of singles. The larger the database becomes, the more people will be helped.