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do mothers of the top boys rly have lists of the girls from bjj, bnos chava.. ect. and then choose the 1s that r the prettiest or have yichus and money? is this true or just a rumor??
Sounds like a rumor to me
The sad thing is the truth is most likely alot worse.
People have a vested interest in getting the “best” and not the “right fit”
As long as the attitude is I want the best this or the best that then your going to have this self imposed crisis.
Best advice I can give you is networking, I would tell you to just be yourself and unique but that doesnt go over well.
Good luck!
Yes, its true. But relax, becuase the mothers who have “top boys” rarely do. So they are chasing an illusion to match up to their own illusion.
You, on the other hand, sound real, so your chances (regardles of your $, yichus or looks) are as good as the next girl.
Look at it this way: are you as qualified as your parents when they were dating? Chance are, (if you’re like my kids), your more qualified than your parents were. Yet despite their “hadicaps” they got married. What makes you think your chnaces are any worse?
That’s basically true and if you want to test it just call one of those mother and offer her a nice girl.
True. I agree with that tobg.
But you know what- THE UNIVERSAL TRUTH IS..no matter what “lists” boys have etc…it WILL NOT TAKE AWAY FROM UR DESTINED ZIVUG!!!
HASHEM IS THE SHADCHAN- EVERYONE HAVE FAITH THAT HE’LL TAKE CARE OF YOU NOW, LIKE HE HAS YOUR ENTIRE LIFE!!
…THATS WHAT I’M DOING!!:)
….CUZ HONESTLY, THERE IS NO OTHER WAY…:)
RedNails19, you’ve nailed it!
ty tobg 🙂
RedNails, that is a great attitude. I really don’t like the way a lot of people handle the dating process, be it having lists, or mothers having lists, or asking tons of questions that don’t matter, or stretching truths, or parents making decisions that the child should make, etc. Because ultimately, as you said, G-d is control. Yes, we should do our part, and be proactive about it, but seriously, people, just be sensible.
Middlepath- I REALLY like you attitide!!!:)
you just my kind..lol
There’s no security in being sensible when being all sorts of extreme works like gangbusters.
cleverjewishpun, That is all too true.
RedNails, Perhaps I am. But then again, this is an online forum, so I could easily be an 80 year old woman pretending to be a 22 year old guy..
and i would care because??
I might not know who u r, and i honest dont care if ur 2, 15, or 100 m/f..ur point was very much an attitude I appreciate!
Ah, then forgive me for assuming something I should not have. I am happy you appreciate my point.
np np dw
I’ve been wondering…
what makes somebody a “top boy?”
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