Shidduch info misrepresentation

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    ckbshl
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    I’ve recently become aware of a trend for girls to state in writing or verbally that they want a learning guy yet they want someone who will have a parnosa. Now my understanding is that they often mean that they don’t want a “Lakewood learn forever” type. However the impression given by this phraseology leads one to the wrong belief that they want to give up working the moment they have a child (which clearly won’t work for an aspiring kollel fellow). Are they confused what they want- or unable to express it: They don’t want a learn forever guy…?

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    chofetzchaim
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    Um, you sound funcused.

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    eyefortruth
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    if i may, i think these girls want a guy who works but are too afraid to say that for fear of not being considered a good candidate for a shidduch. so they say they want a guy who learns and works.

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    HIE
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    eyefortruth: i second that!

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    hudi
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    Another option is that they want a person who will learn for as long as possible, who will stop learning when a parnassa is needed.

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    aries2756
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    I believe what they mean is they want someone with a “plan”.

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    GumBall
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    they probably like dont know what they want…..

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