I’ve recently become aware of a trend for girls to state in writing or verbally that they want a learning guy yet they want someone who will have a parnosa. Now my understanding is that they often mean that they don’t want a “Lakewood learn forever” type. However the impression given by this phraseology leads one to the wrong belief that they want to give up working the moment they have a child (which clearly won’t work for an aspiring kollel fellow). Are they confused what they want- or unable to express it: They don’t want a learn forever guy…?