Sheva Brachot and DJs

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    agittayid
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    My aunt is negotiating with other relatives to make a sheva brachot for a young couple. The other party wants to hire a DJ and have it in a restaurant. They claim many families hire DJs for sheva brachot. Is this the new normal? or is having a DJ overly extravagant?

    #790925
    yossi z.
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    the only time i have heard of hiring a DJ is by a wedding instead of a full on band. i have heard of fancier sheva brachot but i don’t know about DJs

    😀 Zuberman! 😀

    #790926
    popa_bar_abba
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    <emMy aunt is negotiating with other relatives to make a sheva brachot for a young couple. The other party wants to hire a JD and have it in a restaurant. They claim many families hire JDs for sheva brachot. Is this the new normal? or is having a JD overly extravagant?

    I knew the legal job market was bad. But I didn’t know they were working at sheva brachos.

    #790927
    deiyezooger
    Member

    ” Is this the new normal? “

    Even if it is, maybe our duty is to stop the tide and go back to the “old normal” thats a more normal “normal”.

    #790928
    am yisrael chai
    Participant

    When someone asked a famous rav what his minhag was regarding walking the kallah down (either with both her parents or with both the mothers), he answered that his minhag is whatever the other side wants! Ohev shalom v’rodef shalom!

    After reading about all the older singles thread, focus on the fact that they found each other! (And tell the DJ to lower the volume.)

    #790929
    happiest
    Member

    yossi z- welcome back!!! We missed you:)

    #790930
    apushatayid
    Participant

    Nu, so they want to hire a DJ. Are they asking her to pay for something she feel is unnecessary? If they will take on the expense, let them be. I feel she is well within her rights as a hostess to demand that the DJ not say, play or do anything she deems inappropriate.

    I’m not sure that’s its so “normal” to “negotiate” with the other relatives to make sheva brachos. What does it mean negotiate? He who comes up with the most outrageous and/or lavish idea, gets to host? What will make the chassan and kallah happy? If negotiations break down, will there be no sheva brachos that day (which is ok too)? Lastly, why is it more “normal” to make a sheva brachos in a restaurant than it is to have a DJ?

    #790931
    agittayid
    Participant

    “…Are they asking her to pay for something she feels is unnecessary…?”

    Yes. The quoted cost is quite expensive and having a DJ and fancy hall seems to be extravagant. My aunt often makes sheva brachos at her home and everyone leaves happy.

    #790932
    apushatayid
    Participant

    I thought there was some negotiation involved. Your aunt can say, you want a DJ, hire a DJ and pay for it. You want it in a restaurant, go ahead, pay for it. Thats my final offer.

    #790933
    IUseBrains
    Participant

    The word DJ is goyish,don’t do it!

    #790934
    agittayid
    Participant

    The issue seems to be resolved. They are going ahead with the DJ and fancy hall without my aunt.

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