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June 21, 2011 2:38 pm at 2:38 pm #597532shlishiMember
Where in halacha is it written that it is assur to lie?
When making shalom (peace) is it permissible to lie for that purpose? In what way? Where in halacha is it written that it is permissible to lie for that purpose? What are other examples where lying is permissible?
June 21, 2011 4:06 pm at 4:06 pm #1081568apushatayidParticipantMidvar sheker tirchak.
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June 21, 2011 4:26 pm at 4:26 pm #1081571MichaelCMemberIn Bava Metzia it states 3 circumstances in which you are allowed to lie.
It states in Mishnah Kilayim you can lie to avoid taxation that is over the limit.
June 21, 2011 4:46 pm at 4:46 pm #1081572YW Moderator-80Memberin Bava Metzia it states 3 reasons that a TALMID CHOCHOM is allowed to lie.
June 21, 2011 5:05 pm at 5:05 pm #1081573aimhabonimParticipant“Chosmo shel Hakodesh Boruch Hu emes”. We are supposed to emulate Hashem’s ways.
June 21, 2011 5:22 pm at 5:22 pm #1081574on the ballParticipantYou are simply allowed to lie ‘mipnei hashalom’ – if a more peaceful outcome will result.
There are many examples in the Torah and Shas. One is when Hashem said to Soroh that Avraham had exclaimed that HE was too old to have children when in fact he had said that Soroh was too old.
June 21, 2011 5:43 pm at 5:43 pm #1081575tobgMemberdoes the gemorah say “sholom” or “sholom bais”? I really dont remember but i think it would make a big difference.
June 21, 2011 9:13 pm at 9:13 pm #1081576on the ballParticipantnot shalom bayis davka – just shalom.
Another example is in the gemara betzah daf 20 – Hillel Hazaken lied about the korban he was bringing to avoid a confrontation with Shamai’s students.
June 21, 2011 9:43 pm at 9:43 pm #1081577tobgMemberthen maybe Rashi there mentions shalom bayis and i dont think halacha allows it for any type of peace (e.g. peace in yeretz yisroel?)
June 22, 2011 1:55 am at 1:55 am #1081578shlishiMemberWhat are the 3 circumstances stated in Bava Metzia that a talmid chochom is permitted to lie?
And under what circumstances does Mishnah Kilayim state you can lie to avoid taxation that is over the limit? What does “over the limit” entail?
June 22, 2011 3:02 am at 3:02 am #1081579popa_bar_abbaParticipantIf you are allowed to lie because of shalom, does that mean you can lie to prevent someone from being mad at you?
Ex:
Wife- Why were you home late?
Truth- At casino, gambling drinking and smoking.
Me- My chavrusa’s car broke down and I was helping him.
Why not? You would be able to if you were the chavrusa and the wife asked you where her husband was, right?
June 22, 2011 2:28 pm at 2:28 pm #1081580sheinMemberSo lying to your wife to keep shalom falls under the general heter to lie for shalom? Or specifically why not?
June 22, 2011 4:46 pm at 4:46 pm #1081581apushatayidParticipantI always thought that when chazal tell us that one need not be 100% truthful to maintain shalom, it was to maintain shalom between others. For example, in order to maintain shalom between avram and sara, the ribbono shel olam changed saras statement when speaking to avram. Or, as chazal tell us, Aaron Hakohen would go to each party and tell them the other party is sorry and wants to make up, again, for the sake of shalom between people. Simply lying to my wife where I’ve been so that I can weasel out of some housework and maintain shalom with my wife, is lying, not maintaining shalom. Then again, thats what I thought, but I really have no firm basis or proof for it.
June 22, 2011 6:31 pm at 6:31 pm #1081582☕ DaasYochid ☕ParticipantSimply lying to my wife where I’ve been so that I can weasel out of some housework and maintain shalom with my wife, is lying, not maintaining shalom.
Since you had the option to do the housework, you didn’t lie for shalom, you lied to get out of housework.
The fallacy with lying to your wife to maintain shalom, such as in pba’s case, is that sheker ein lo raglayim, and ultimately, when she finds out, not only will she be upset at what you did, she’ll be even more upset that you lied to her. The best way to maintain shalom (besides not getting involved in these bad activities to begin with) would be to own up, and ask her to help you get the help you need.
June 22, 2011 7:17 pm at 7:17 pm #1081583apushatayidParticipantDY. I’m not sure if you are agreeing, disagreeing or strengthening what I wrote.
May 4, 2015 12:25 am at 12:25 am #1081584JosephParticipantbump
May 4, 2015 12:57 am at 12:57 am #1081585☕ DaasYochid ☕ParticipantApushatayid, probably agreeing, but ?? ?????.
May 4, 2015 5:30 pm at 5:30 pm #1081586JosephParticipantapy: Having thoroughly considered it for over three years and having finally responded, DY would appreciate the courtesy of a reply.
May 4, 2015 6:00 pm at 6:00 pm #1081587👑RebYidd23ParticipantIn another three years.
May 4, 2015 6:25 pm at 6:25 pm #1081588chush biroishoyMemberMidvar sheker tirchuk is only a lav in a beis din setting. Its not so Pashut just stam lying
May 4, 2015 6:34 pm at 6:34 pm #1081589WolfishMusingsParticipantMidvar sheker tirchuk is only a lav in a beis din setting. Its not so Pashut just stam lying
I’d love to hear your source for that. I would have assumed that “Lo Sa’aneh” would cover a judicial setting.
And even if you’re correct, what about “Lo S’shakaru?”
The Wolf
May 5, 2015 12:00 am at 12:00 am #1081590oyyoyyoyParticipantanyone hear of r dessler that says lying for shalom which is muttar is saying the truth?
May 6, 2015 1:21 am at 1:21 am #1081591☢️ Rand0m3x 🎲ParticipantIt’s in the first volume of Michtav Me’Eliyahu. The concept is
that “emes” is not “truth,” but whatever furthers the Will of Hashem.
Thus, in a situation where it is proper to say an untruth, one is
still saying the “emes” (but not, of course, the “truth”).
May 6, 2015 1:22 am at 1:22 am #1081592☢️ Rand0m3x 🎲ParticipantAnyone hear of Yaakov Avinu having the power that whatever he said would be true? (This does not seem logically possible,
but someone once said something along those lines to me…)
May 6, 2015 4:22 am at 4:22 am #1081593oyyoyyoyParticipantthan-x
May 6, 2015 6:42 am at 6:42 am #1081594interjectionParticipantanyone hear of r dessler that says lying for shalom which is muttar is saying the truth?
These are probably the lies he was referring to. If your wife makes a supper that you think is disgusting, you can tell her it tasted good. If your husband buys you a present that you hate, and returning it will hurt his feelings, tell him you liked it. If your wife looks ugly, tell her she looks gorgeous. If your husband folded the laundry wrong, tell him he did a great job.
May 12, 2015 11:53 pm at 11:53 pm #1081595☢️ Rand0m3x 🎲Participant“It’s in the first volume of Michtav Me’Eliyahu.”
More precisely, it’s near the end of the first of the
three sections, in the piece titled “Emes v’Sheker.”
May 13, 2015 12:20 am at 12:20 am #1081596JosephParticipant“Lying” for shalom isn’t just “muttar”; it should be done as it is the appropriate thing to do, and telling the “truth” if it would cause the opposite of shalom is inappropriate.
May 15, 2015 1:42 am at 1:42 am #1081597Rebbe YidParticipantLike Aharon Hakohein, telling the one guy that the other guy wants to make up with him, and telling the other guy that the first guy wants to make up with him, and letting shalom flow from there.
May 15, 2015 4:08 am at 4:08 am #1081598☢️ Rand0m3x 🎲ParticipantI can’t believe I didn’t get “than-x” until now. [facepalm]
May 15, 2015 6:00 pm at 6:00 pm #1081599oyyoyyoyParticipantya, lots of my jokes have a time release. ive been busy il try to check it out when i can. thanks again.
September 10, 2017 6:23 pm at 6:23 pm #1359906JosephParticipantRY23, it’s almost three years since DY answered APY’s comment from three years before that. Do you think it’s high time for APY to have the courtesy of now responding to DY?
September 10, 2017 6:56 pm at 6:56 pm #1359926Shopping613 🌠ParticipantLying reffers to deceit. You can lie, but not decieve. Ex. “There were a billion people at the wedding” – not a sheker. Your message needs to be true, the words can be shifted.
There’s many halachot on the topic. You don’t have to say personal info, and can lie if someone asks you about it.
September 12, 2017 2:23 pm at 2:23 pm #1362120motchah11ParticipantWhat about telling “fish stories?” You know, men vying for the biggest lie.
September 13, 2017 9:58 pm at 9:58 pm #1363245gavriel613ParticipantSee Chofetz Chaim in hakdomo where he counts the Lo Saaseis which can be involved in Loshon Hora, and counts sheker
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