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Lubavitch’s minhag is to crop it to two fingers’ length.
Please don’t use Lipa for spiritual guidance.
Mammele: +1 Lipa is going way overboard this time! If he doesn’t want his wife to shave her head , so be it, BUT HE SHOULDN’T TELL OTHER WOMEN WHAT TO DO!!
Why is LIPA getting involved? Besides, i’m in a PSE&G service area so doesnt concern me.
nebach…he is trying to stay relevant,so he has to say outlandish things ( this isn’t the first narishkeit he’s said recently) to keep himself relevant. oy, so much talent *shaking my head*
I don’t get OP. First he asks why chasidim do it, then he asks why the litvish don’t.
Welcome to the CR!!
I read the first page not realizing it was from years ago.
There is no where in the torah that says women must shave their hair. There are minhagim. If someone’s minhag is to shave, then kol hakavod, shave!
Long hair can cause a chatzitza, but with a few extra minutes during chafifah, a woman can be toivel according to all poskim. For most men, long hair is attractive on a woman and I’m glad i can do that for my husband even at the expense of those extra few minutes.
the chamudey doniel died in ???? thats 208 years ago that means n the 17 hundreds that was “the” minhag in lita
the chamudey doniel died in ???? thats 208 years ago that means n the 17 hundreds that was “the” minhag in lita
one more thing the toisfois in the last perek in moed koton rights that shaving the whole head is the most horrible hear cut one can have ??? ?? ????? ???? ??? but in the yiddishe husbands eyes we know sheker hachein …. yiras… thats yidishe chein!!
“hear cut”
you snip the circuits in a hearing aid?
hachareidy hoamity: you are translating sheker hachein incorrectly. It doesn’t mean that beauty isn’t worth anything – especially in a marriage, finding your spouse attractive is extremely important! Rather, it’s saying that a PERSON is not worthy of praise for being beautiful, as it’s not something they did themselves.
People love to quote the Mishna which says the girls used to say that on Tu B’Av and Yom Kippur when they’d come out and dance. They forget that it was said by girls who were not attractive, and were trying to attract a husband. In fact, the same Mishna says that the beautiful girls used to mention their beauty!
Chein is different than physical beauty. To say a husband should ignore physical appearance for the Yiras Hashem his wife has is just ignorant. The Gemara says that a husband should see his wife before they are married to be sure he finds her attractive.
2 things 1 the gemoro says one has to see his wife before marriage to that nothing disturbs him not attractive 2 I didn’t say that looks are not important just that looks are trends and what people expect and accept if a bochur knows his wife will shave because his and her mother did so it will not disturb him, if a frum bochur sees 2 girls on a bus or plane etc.. one is wearing jeans sleeveless etc. and the other one is dressed like a frum Beis Yakov girl the bochur is more attracted to the Beis Yakov girl than to the pritza she isn’t in his system at all as the even Ezra explains loi sachmoid, hair his something attractive yes but again it depends for whom, you can look up the ads of less than 100 years ago when woman were looking to gain a few pounds you can also look at the pictures of your parents or grandparents weddings and you’ll see the sheitel and hairdos of those woman don’t attract you in the least maybe even the opposite it all is relevant to what you are used to and what you accept and expect!
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