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I hope he offers to pay for it, but I would not ask him to. I had a friend of my daughter’s who was spending the week by us with ehr parents out fo town, running around like a vildeh chaya when she was a little girl. She knocked over a very expensive antique lamp and it shattered. So what should I have done, made this child feel even more upset than she was? I just told the kids to play more carefully, told her not to be upset it’s just a lamp and no one was injured B”H, cleaned up the mess myself (because the shards of the lamp were sharp), and looked at it as a kaparah.
Here’s a totally different WWYD. How would you handle the situation of someone who cyberbullies you?
Oomis,
I’m ignorant when it comes to cyberbullying. Couldn’t the victim just avoid those sites?
Hope this helps!
1. Remember, most of them are cowards who’s full of talk. One of the most common reason why people do cyber bullying in the first place is because they have full anonymity with very little ways to get caught. So they know that no one will do anything to them. Also, usually the people who does it is either a bunch of little kids who doesn’t have anything else to do but to be rude towards people online and a bunch of immature adults who never quite grew up and needs to fill an empty void in their hearts by beating people up online without having anything fighting back at them.
2. Consider psyching them out to make them leave. Most of them are just a bunch of brats who’s just trying to get a rise out of someone over a distance. If they were just a random online bully whom you’ve never met that does nothing but talk then consider psyching them out and mess with their minds really badly by making clever or smart comebacks that makes them want to leave you alone.
3. Tell someone. Don’t live in the shell of silence. The worst thing you can do is to suffer alone and without support. Speak to your parents or guardians, to a trusted friend, to a counselor, a teacher, anyone who is trustworthy.
4. Consider ignoring them. Sometimes the best course of option is to just simply ignore them. Because all they will most likely do is to intimidate you and make you feel fear or bad about yourself for absolutely no reason whatsoever and that’s usually the result that they were trying to make you feel.
5. Get off the website the moment it happens again. Your bully wants you to think this is more real than it is. Stop engaging with this particular person.
6. Keep records. This is pretty easy to do online, so make a special folder or mail file to keep evidence of the bullying. Show this to the person who is helping you overcome the bullying. If you receive unwanted images or requests for such images, tell the person you trust. It may have to be taken to the authorities if it is really bad.
7. Take some time off the computer. This will help you to regain your perspective and to distance yourself from the bullying. Sometimes it is easy to get so caught up with a site, forum, chat room etc., that you stop realizing that it should be put in its place. Go out and play ball, take a walk in the park, rediscover the joys of real life.
8. Many in-game chats have an option of “Ignore”.
9. Remember, you have the option to block them. It’s a simple solution to make them leave you alone.
10. In some cases, you have the option of reporting the person who’s cyber bullying. If someone was bullying you online and if they were threatening you or someone that you know or that they they said they will do something that will destroy your life or anything of the sort, you might be able to report the entire thing to the local authorities and allow them to track down who it is.
11. Cyber bully thrive on your usual reaction and hopes to get a rise out of you. That’s what they feed on and they don’t care nor scared of what you do.
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