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  • #598303
    Cutie
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    Anyone ever heard of not blowing out candles or matches when preparing or lighting shabbos candles (rather wave out the fire with ones hand)?

    If there is such a thing what is the reason?

    #792086
    haifagirl
    Participant

    It has something to do with the flame being like a neshama, but that’s all I know. But yes, we don’t blow out candles.

    #792087

    I heard of it. I think I even saw it in taamei haminhagim or a similar sefer.

    #792088

    its an inyan

    i hold by it

    not everyone does

    i once saw a very chushiv Rosh Kollel, who is also a Posek, blow out the candle he used to light the Menorah.

    i was quite surprised and asked one of the Kollel men who said he alwaus does that, rather than create a tircha d tzibbur for the extra few seconds to struggle with waving it out. he said the R’K does hold by not blowing out a candle but it is a minor consideration when something else outweighs it.

    #792089
    seeallsides
    Participant

    gosh- i always assumed that you couldn’t blow out the match because you had been mekabel shabbos after you lit the candles.

    #792092
    yitayningwut
    Participant

    seeallsides-

    You are not mistaken. Not everyone holds this way but it is a recognized opinion.

    #792093
    charliehall
    Participant

    “i always assumed that you couldn’t blow out the match because you had been mekabel shabbos after you lit the candles”

    Before I was married, and even today on the occasions when I need to light Shabat candles myself, I recite the bracha before lighting having in mind that I am not accepting Shabat yet. And I can and do put out the match.

    #792094
    minyan gal
    Member

    Is it okay to light Shabbat candles with a lighter?

    #792095
    haifagirl
    Participant

    Is it okay to light Shabbat candles with a lighter?

    Why not?

    #792096
    Cutie
    Member

    minyan gal – why shud a lighter be a problem?

    seeallsides “i always assumed that you

    couldn’t blow out the match

    because you had been mekabel

    shabbos after you lit the candles”

    There is no problem with blowing out a match since one only accepts shabbos once one says the berocho.

    #792097
    smartcookie
    Member

    Cutie- it’s true about not blowing out candles, because a Neshama is like a candle and you don’t want to blow the “Neshama” out.

    Charlie- your post is very misleading. You, can make the Bracha before lighting because you’re a man. Men are mekabel Shabbos at Shekiah, and not when they Tzind Lecht.

    However, women are mekabel Shabbos when the say the Bracha. Therefore they must light candles before reciting the Bracha. Once the Bracha is said, it’s Shabbos!

    Most people light the candles, put off the match, and then say the Bracha.

    #792098
    quark2
    Member

    i know people who are makpid on this, and people who are not.

    The people that i know who are makpid on this, are makpid on any candle, not just shabbos candles.

    I have no idea what the reason/source for this minhag is.

    #792099
    ☕ DaasYochid ☕
    Participant

    There is no problem with blowing out a match since one only accepts shabbos once one says the berocho.

    That’s a machlokes acharonim.

    #792100
    MeemaYehudis
    Member

    If one cannot blow out the match after lighting, one cannot extinguish by shaking it either, right? I’ve seen people drop the still burning match on a non-flammable surface (ie the tray for the leichter), but I shake it out since I was taught not to blow it out, as I shake out any lit match or candle to extinguish it, as quark2 suggests. I also assumed that I am not mekabel Shabbos until I say the bracha.

    #792101
    kylbdnr
    Member

    I always heard that you shouldn’t wave it out either. We just put it down to go out itself. But the matches are too small for me and it always gets too close to my hand by the time I’m done and It’ll come closer by the time I put it down so I blow it…

    smartcookie- sefardim first say a bracha and then light (just like you first say a bracha on food and then eat it)

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